Was it wrong to tell a girl to lose another 5 lbs? She is 105 lbs, 5'6"?

Question

recently (over the summer) she dropped from 130 to 105 lbs. i loved it. she is soooo beautiful. i mean..GOD! anyway, this week i told her to try and lose another 5 lbs b/c i thought she might be even hotter. but then, she got really MAD at me (in school). and now she would even speak to me for 5 days already. i really want her (back). what should i do now?

"wouldn't" not "would" speak to me

Answer 1

Didn't your mother ever teach you to NEVER say anything to a girl about her weight? And you say she is 5'6" at 105? That's pretty thin. Why can't guys ever just be happy? There is always something we gotta improve on. Look at yourselves...Jerks..

Answer 2

#1 The normal weight for a girl that is 5'6 is 120 - 133 lbs for a small framed female. So to be 105 is actually pretty UNDERWEIGHT. Below is the chart for Women. If she lost 100 lbs she would be very under weight and unhealthy.

Plus telling a girl she needs to drop lbs (when she definetly does not) is a form of abuse. Thats how girls become anerexic and sick.

Height Small Frame Medium Frame Large Frame

4'10" 102-111 109-121 118-131

4'11" 103-113 111-123 120-134

5'0" 104-115 113-126 122-137

5'1" 106-118 115-129 125-140

5'2" 108-121 118-132 128-143

5'3" 111-124 121-135 131-147

5'4" 114-127 124-138 134-151

5'5" 117-130 127-141 137-155

5'6" 120-133 130-144 140-159

5'7" 123-136 133-147 143-163

5'8" 126-139 136-150 146-167

5'9" 129-142 139-153 149-170

5'10" 132-145 142-156 152-173

5'11" 135-148 145-159 155-176

6'0" 138-151 148-162 158-179

Answer 3

Somewhere this person found a reason, motivation and a means to loose 25lbs. More than likely it was for her own self esteem. Also, more than likely, it was not for how "beautiful" or "hot" you may find her. I am sure she was riding high on her success. Your only verbalization should have to praising her achievement, applauding her success, reinforcing her self esteem. Telling her how "sooooo" beautiful you found her to be I mean ..GOD. Everone deserves a second chance, maybe you need to take a summer and loose the tude that everything is about you and what you think. The truth is if you really wanted her, and I mean in a non-physical way, it would not have made any difference to you if she gained 25lbs over the summer. See beautiful people are beautiful always. Now that does not mean they are physically healthy beautiful people. Now she may be asthetically
more healthy, but, how is her emotional state.
Take it slow, do not think about yourself, be honest with her, learn to be a kind, caring, open an honest person . Be thankful because, if she had your attitude she'd look at her accomplishment and decide you arent good enough for what she was and now its a big step down. It is time for your to discover your own inner self and be a beautiful person, to everyone.

Answer 4

Never tell a girl to lose weight. Consider that life lesson number one. Especially if she was already at a perfectly normal and healthy weight. I find it hard to believe that she looks really good at 5'6 and 105. I am 5'5 and was never 105 at that height. At 120 I look REALLY skinny and at 115 I looked like a child... like too skinny. 5'6 at 105 is too thin, it wouldn't be healthy for her to get that thin, and you shouldn't push it. If you love her and think she's beautiful anyway, you need to tell her nice things and NEVER bring up her weight again. If she asks you, you always say, "you look great".

If she had ever been REALLY fat then that's a different story because of health issues, but she went from normal weight to underweight in this case and that is why you should back off.

Answer 5

You were not thinking one little bit about her good health, only what YOU wanted to look at. You're wrong. At five feet six inches, 105 pounds is already too low . Your body organs need plenty of nutrition to function, and when you cut them short, especially over a period of time, they will quit working the way they should, and the person is at the mercy of many kinds of diseases. This girl is absolutely right on the money to send you on down the road.

LOL I certainly don't expect to get a "best answer" out of this, but I will be more than happy just to have said what a lot of people need to hear.

Answer 6

You should apologize. You should also tell her that you told her that because she was so beautiful after loosing the other weight. In this case, it sounds like she is quite a good weight already, there is no need for her to loose 5 more pounds!

Haven't you learned yet, NEVER tell a woman she should loose weight. Tell her instead how great she looks, how attractive she is.

And in this case, what an insult that was, after she had gone to the hard work of loosing 25 pounds!

Answer 7

In the first place you should have never told her that. That probably offended her. If she has already lost 25 lbs what else can you ask from her. So should instead motivate her to stay how she is now, you don't want her to lose any more weigh since she is 5'6" and is already extremely thin.

Answer 8

OMG! In my oppinion you blew it bigtime. Is that all u care about is thge way she looks? How shallow u are. This girl worked her butt off to lose weight, then u tell her..........without saying it.......that it wasnt good enough. How dare you........omg, its guys like u, who can put a woman in a tail spin, and get an eating disorder. What can you do? Nothing, u blew it, u said what u said, and u cant take it back........I dont blame her for being mad, if she was smart she'd never talk to ur shallow A ever again. Maybe u need to gain some brains and muscles, I mean are u perfect? obviously not..........lol

Answer 9

You had no right to tell her to lose 5 more pounds anyways! Yep, I would probably be mad at you too! You should love her and think she is beautiful anyways...
But, if you want her back then you need to apologize! And, next time think of her feelings before you say/or suggest something like that!

Answer 10

first off u should never tell a girl to lose anything that is the worst thing u could do 105lbs is good for her see don't need to look like she don't eat tell her u r sorry and u think that she is beautiful maybe he will understand and talk to u but know u have a lot of work to get her back