i am open minded talk nicely to all . all my relatives do taking advantage out of it. they extract full details and threaten me indirectly. this is affecting my thinking and subconscious fear arising and killing my mental peace. worry fear anger subsaequently building up inside. how to handle this kind of persons. this is serious problem to me. please guide me whether these things affect my life?
2006-11-10 04:09:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like your a very nice person but you feel that your relatives take advantage of your kindness. Subconsciously, you need to use your will power to overcome any negative image you have in your mind of yourself and others and create positive ones. Feed your subconscious with loving thoughts for your relatives however there is a danger to being gentle and kind...and people may mistake that for weakness and you'll find yourself being swayed by other peoples influences and criticisms. If you appear to be kind but show all of yourself you have a risk of being stepped on.
Like an iceberg, show only 20% of yourself (surface of an iceberg) and the other 80% of yourself that is hidden beneath represents the part of you that others don't see. They do notice that you are stable and you do emit a profound aura that people notice.
True kindness is NOT always being agreeable, true kindness is actually benefiting others in the truest sense even if it means being stern with them.
Don't feel like a bad guy if you are stern either, it usually benefits others and makes them grow, as long as your intentions are to help them and not out of your pride and ego being wounded.
Hope this helps ^_^
2006-11-10 04:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need NOT divulge ANY personal info for ANY reason, to
ANYone. You may still remain open minded, friendly, etc.
But your personal matters, are YOUR concerns. When any questions begin to feel uncomfortable, merely advise that the question/s are of a personal nature. Be firm. One should understand that. And you should not allow it to invade your thoughts in a negative manner.
2006-11-10 12:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok purish dis is very often happens i 2 openly says very thing 2 everyone but to fight against things is 2 threaten & ask the same way as they r asking then they would how they feel bout their personals getting exposed..........
i think ur in the company of many negative people surrounding u beware of them
2006-11-10 12:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Vidhya n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give your realatives the satisfaction of getting to you, to start with , your personel bussiness is not there concern unless it has to do with your health and wellbeing, just let them know to keep out of your bussiness,if you wanna share with them , you will in your own time and not before,good luck,,stinger5906,
2006-11-10 12:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋