My Ex Fiance Loves Me I Love Him But were in new Relationships?

Question

My ex fiance and I just talked recently and we both are in current relationships with other people. I love him dearly as well as he for me, our partners inour relationships adore and value us. But we yearn for each other, but we dont want to act upon anything because we feel or partners deserve better than to be treated that way, and toyed with. I have a huge dilemma huge, and I need some good advice what would u do, if the once love of your life confesses that they are still in love with you and wants to be with you.

Okay yall the reason why we parted was because he was busy with work, school, he had a new baby on the way (before my time) and was taking care of his mom. His baby momma was a psycho but she didnt bring drama to us, we had a formal sit down when we go together. But I broke up with him because I thought things were getting to stressful for him and I didnt want to be the cause of him not fulfilling his dream because he was trying please me, he would hate me in the long run for it, so I just left on that note until he got things together and settled with him (Handle His Businnes 1st ) and then plan after. I did this twice and on every occasion he always comes back and no it isnt sex cause we havent done anything we just were overjoyed with the company and happiness and love of one another (Sex would come later) so thats why we parted ways

Answer 1

I have felt this way, and didn't act on it appropriately at the time. It was before I left my first husband. My ex- and I reunited, and it was wonderful....we didn't do anything, but certainly would. I should have followed my heart and ended things with my husband then. I didn't, and I lost him forever in the end.

If you both love each other, and respect your partners too....it's time to break up with your partners and cut them loose. It isn't fair to drag them along while you two are still in love with each other.

Answer 2

Is the wedding still being discussed or have you booked the reception hall, sent out invitations, etc.? He may have not gotten over his fiancee because the hurt is still fresh. That doesn't mean that he still loves her. In fact, if she really hurt him, she might be the last person he'd ever want to marry or get together with. It's up to you to be the person who shows him that love isn't hurtful. Maybe they will see each other someday. Don't you think that circumstances change and he will be in a different, better place in his life when that happens? Maybe he'll remember how much in love with her he was and have good memories but also memories of the breakup, too. Why wouldn't he think, 'Wow, I'm so glad that is far behind me now!' and be glad he's with you? To make yourself less paranoid, concentrate on making him more happy. And yourself too!

Answer 3

you have to decide who you love more, if you love your EX w/ all of your heart & it hurts just thinking about him knowing that you can't be w/ him because of these other relationships then you have to follow your heart, you have to be with the one that makes you happy & the one that you love more than anything else in this world or else you won't ever be happy, & when you see him you'll always want him, if you guys went so far as to become engaged you must have loved him dearly to have wanted to spend the rest of your life w/ him, you just have to ask your self why did you break up in the first place & is that something you can forgive him or yourself for if it is & all of the rest of the stuff that I said hit the spot then I don't think you have anything else to decide, but don't hurt the one's that you are in relationships w/ right now just tell them that you already gave your heart away & never got it back & that you have to give it a try w/ your ex or you'll always wonder WHAT IF!!!!!!

Answer 4

I think the first question is why did you end the relationship.... as sometimes these issues never change. The heart will always yarn for first loves and because you were engaged... you will always have a place for him in your heart. Remember you moved on for a reason and it is always better to look forward than remenise on the past with, what should have been or what it was suppose to be!

Answer 5

What I (or anyone else for that matter) would do is irrelevant. You both owe it to your current partners to break up with them. If you love another then you have no business being in a relationship with someone else. You will only break your current partner's heart, and you're right -- they deserve better.

Answer 6

First off, why did things end with the love of your life? Keep whatever that is in mind, and figure out if anything has changed that will make things diff this time around.

Plus, it sounds like lusting, not love.

I would ignore it until something gives you reason not to.
My .02
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Answer 7

For some reason yall split up. Keep that in mind b4 you hurt someone who loves ya and may be treating you better than your ex will in the future. He may go back to doin what he did when yall split up

Answer 8

Okay lets see here you and your ex broke up for a reason and there will be feelings there for awhile. you have to sit down and asses the situation to see if you actually really love each other to get back together

Answer 9

IF YOU LOVE THIS MAN......AND I MEAN LOVE EVERY NATURAL INCH OF THIS MAN.....AND HE DOES YOU, AND NEITHER OF YOU ARE CURRENTLY IN MARRIED RELATIONSHIPS, THEN I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW THERE COULD POSSIBLY BE A PROBLEM. SURE, YOUR RESPECTIVE PARTNERS WILL BE HURT, BUT TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THAT THERE IS NOTHING HARDER TO DO THAN TO CONSTANTLY FIGHT SOMETHING THAT YOU JUST KNOW IN YOUR HEART IS RIGHT. YOU ONLY FIND TRUE LOVE ONCE IN A LIFETIME AND YOU'D BETTER GRAB IT AND RUN LIKE HELL!!!

BEST OF LUCK TO THE TWO OF YOU IN WHATEVER DECISIONS YOU MAKE HERE.

Answer 10

If you guys honestly think it can work out, you should be truthful and respectful to both your partners now, and leave them to be together. You guys are always going to wonder,...."what if?"....go for it.