Well I have a 13 year old sister and shes pregnant?

Question

She is always treating me wrong and people always critisize her for her mistake what should I do about her and are these ppl right for saying what they say to her.

Answer 1

Give your sister total support, she's family, and regardless her age and mistake, she needs her family's love, forgiveness, and support, and as for the negative minded misfits tell them to F-Off!

Answer 2

To a point. She needs to understand what she did was wrong and to accept responsibility for her actions. She also needs to understand that her actions have not simply affected her and the baby alone. While she is at school, who will care for the child? What about medical? Does she understand she is too young to understand how to properly raise a child?

However, what's done is done and there is no turning that back. Therefore, she needs some encouragement and support for the fact that she is with child and the proper upbringing of that child is what is important. I do not believe, however, that a child raising a child is a good thing or the right thing. This is something your entire family needs to consider as it is a whole family issue.

As far as her treating you poorly, this could be due to jealousy or just that she is scared and all the focus is on her. She's probably very stressed (and rightfully so) but needs to calm down and face life. Her stress can be detrimental to her child.

You should take things with a grain of salt...don't get upset at what she says or does and just try to understand she is going through some tough times physically and emotionally.

Answer 3

Well, is she really "treating you wrong" or is she just being the typical 13 year old smarty pants who "knows it all?" For one, she's pregnant...way too young to have a baby, so her body will go through a lot of changes over the next 9+ months, as well as her emotions, mentality, everything is going to be different in her life from here on out. I think you should do your best to be there for her. This has to be so hard for her...she hasn't even begun to live!!! Now, she's got a responsibility of her own to take care of because of her irresponsibility. You should stick up for/defend her when others criticize her. She's in the situation, nothing she can do to take it back, so you should support and love her throughout her pregnancy. She needs people who are close to her to reassure her that she's not in this alone. I'll pray that everything will be alright with you and your family. Bless your sister and her unborn child. I'm sure she'll be a great mom with a little love and support!

Answer 4

Even if she is treating you wrong, you do the right thing.
She's going to need you right now more than she ever will for the rest of her life.
Stand up for her.
What she did may have been incredibly stupid, but she's your flesh and blood. Tell people to mind their own business and not to judge. People who live in glass houses should not throw stones. No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes.
Be her friend and love her. Remember that her hormones are out of wack, she's scared to death, and probably feels alone.
What if it was you?
It's hard now. When you two look back on this, when that baby hears the stories of how it came to be, do you want to be the good guy or the bad guy?
If she pushes you away...just keep reminding her that you are there for her. Never shut the door on her. Eventually, she's going to come running to you.

Answer 5

Do not turn your sister out because, as you say, she is a little girl. And yes you should get her to the doctor as soon as possible; because she is so young it is imperative that she be under a doctor's care. The doctor may also have some helpful suggestions about your whole family situation. And last but not least, if she was held down by anyone, let alone several, boys it IS rape. Get her to the doctor. I don't know what to tell you about your mom except to say, if she gets upset because you took your little sister in, then I guess she'll just have to be mad. Your sister is a minor and she needs to be cared for not condemned; especially if she was gang raped. Pray honey. I'll pray for you tonight. The first most important thing to do is get her to the doctor asap.

Answer 6

Sisters will be sisters, and her being pregnant is not a mistake because every thing is meant to happen for a reason, Mistakes are something that you can fix OK,but as far as other ppl saying what they say, let it be b/c life is to short for all that nonsense and drama no one needs,only miserable ppl and obviously that is what they are. so every time they say or mention anything to you or your sis just give them that look and say you need not to worry about our life and work on getting a life of your own! B!tches lol J/k good look, although you may can use that word if you like to

Answer 7

People are always going to judge other people for what they feel is right/wrong. It is unfortunate, but it is true.

Your sister just needs to deal with her situation and try and ignore the people who feel the need to voice their opinion to her. I think the best way is to not get too defensive or angry and just point out that nobody is perfect, people are not perfect and we ALL make mistakes.

Try and have some sympathy for the difficult situation she is going through. When she is treating you wrong, remember how she is being treated! Sometimes you can only be like that to people that you know love you, and won't abandon you because of it.

Answer 8

Yes and no. Yes because Im sure your sister knows about contraceptives for having safe sex so things like that dont happen. No because people should leave her alone becuase Im sure she is sufferieng enough and knows that she will have a very hard life ahead of her. Its just shocking for people to hear that a 13 year old is pregnant. They hear that and thing her life is going to be so messed up no education, no way to support herself. and then it will be a burden on your parents. Also babies cost a lot of money.
Well really all you can do is just be there for your sister and let her know that your there if shes scared or if she needs to talk. Pray for her as well.

Answer 9

Your sister is feeling guilty about herself for what people say to her so she pours her anger on her immediate people,that's you.
No one is right to critize her for anything after all did she ask for their help in catering for her and the unborn baby?Doctors and nurses may make unfavorablevcomments due to the risk involve in the labor process of a young teenager,but that is professional.If these people aint Doctors or nurses,let them go to hell.A Jewish girl made a world record in the 80's or 90's for being pregnant at 9.Your sister needs your support now,let her do the screaming and yelling but continue to be a good sister.

Answer 10

First of all; you haven't been a good sister >> you should have watched over her; you know as the older sister. Too busy doing what you want to do, not enough time to spend with your younger sister. She wanted to be just like your mom, and now she is a mother. Between you and your mother, your little sister has slipped through your hands and so did her youth time; if the two of you were watching over her, she would be pregnant!

Answer 11

I am sad to hear a 13 year old is having a baby. Unfortunately what is done is done. You are going to have to ignore them. To a degree they are right. Kids at that age think they are ready to take on the world. They are in a hurry to grow up so fast. Now your sister has to take on adult responsibilities. Unless you are going to raise it for her( you or your mom). That would be the wrong thing to do. She will only continue her reckless behavior. Make her face up to her responsibility. Help but dont take over. God Bless and good luck.