2006-11-10 03:35:28 · 18 answers · asked by active_cat2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is so kind but now i feel that he will not be able to protect me.so i wanted to end this relation before it becomes bigger.
2006-11-10 03:40:27 · update #1
You can't keep him from being hurt, but you CAN be kind. If you are not in love with him, the kindest thing is to break off the relationship so he can move on and find someone else (so can you). Just tell him that while you still value your relationship with him, you are not in love with him as you had once thought. You want to be fair and break it off so he can go find someone who will love him the way he deserves. He'll still be hurt, but it's the kindest thing to do. Don't string him along when you don't love him.
2006-11-10 03:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say it''s one of the worst things ever to do to someone, Wow I feel, sorry for both of you. The best thing to do is first make sure this is really what you want, because once you do it there is no turning back, because you will hurt also, it's never nice to see someone hurt from a breakup, secondly, be honest and tell him how you feel, if he is really in love with you he will want you to give him another chance and promise that things will get better, or he will continually call you , at any rate if the break up is inevitable then do it soon and don't prolong it. Have respect for his feelings and let him get on with his life A.S.A.P.
2006-11-10 11:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by Minustone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him that you still care about him, but that you do not feel this relationship is right for you and that you would rather part as friends than to grow into enemies. Tell him that maybe someday down the road that your paths may cross again and that you might want to get together again. Stress that it is a might, and not a guarantee, but that anything is possible.
What is it that you feel he won't be able to protect you from?
2006-11-10 12:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want someone to be with you because they feel bad for you? I'm pretty sure you won't. If you are sure of your decision, then tell him. Don't lead him on, its unfair. You can't sacrifice your happiness to make someoneelse happy. It just doesn't work like that. Tell him that "You love him. But you are no longer in love with him. I'm sorry but I don't feel that I'll be a great woman to you if I continue to be with you. I feel that you deserve better. I'm sorry but this is the way I feel and there's nothing that can change that." Let him know. Now if you are afraid that he might try to commit suicide or something to that effect, then you need to be extremely careful. He might try to hurt you also. Good luck.
2006-11-10 12:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do to break up with someone is be honest wiht them. by bf broke up with me the other day, he told me he didnt love me anymore. (he was still mad at me for lying a long time ago and cause i was taking too much time from his schooling and gettign his hw done, and just didnt know how to talk to me about it, so he thoguth this was the easy way..) so he just told me that.iu knew he still loved me though, he was crying on my shoulder ALOT when he told me that, and he NEVER cries at all! but a few days later (yesterday) he realized how sorry i was(after loads of text messages, crying on the phine and countless emails) for basically ruining out relationship at the time and realized that it wasnt all of my fault that he didnt get his work done, and that he still really did love me (next month will be our 2 year anniversary) we ended up gettign back together last night and decided not to see eachother even less than we are now and not talk ont he phone as much.
but what you should do,you cant lie to him and later have himfind out later that it wasnt true. it will only h urt him more. you should just tell him you dont have the same feelings for him anymore. and tell him what has been going on and why you dont have those feeligns anymore but you would like to remain as friends (if you want that) but there is really no easy way to break up with someone, unfortunately =(
2006-11-10 11:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, he won't be able to protect you from what? This is the 21st century, not caveman times. Buy some locks for your door and invest in a security system if protection is what you want. Can't protect you? You are such a loser for dumping a guy because of that stupid reason.
2006-11-10 11:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone always get hurt. There is nothing anyone can do about it, and we all feel terrible when it happens. It's just a fact of life/relationships. Make the break as clean as possible and just stick to the jist of it. Let him know you still think he is terrific, it's just not working for you at this time in your life.
2006-11-10 11:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Do you feel that that we are just going through the motions, because I do. I don't even want to work on it."
"I love, but I'm not in love with you."
"How about we take a break and it get back together great and if not that's fine too."
OR
"I need a real man and I don't think you make the cut."
Its going to hurt any way you do it. i recommend to just make it quick.
2006-11-10 11:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that no matter how you break it off with him, he could still get hurt. My opinion is that you should be honest with him. It's better to be truthful about how you feel as opposed to letting him think that you still love him. Good luck!
2006-11-10 11:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him that the relationship isnt working out for you. Dont say it isnt you its me, and dont say you just wanna be friends. Be honest. It may hurt, but he will appreciate it more in the long run.
2006-11-10 11:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋