Any women (or men) out there that gave a second chance to an unfaithful partner and had a positive outcome???
2006-11-10 03:24:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ooh, with unfaithful I'd say no no no...but I gave my partner a second chance after he left me when our son was 3 months old, saying that he didn't love me and wanted out etc. We were apart for 3 months, he saw someone else inbetween, and then we got back together, cos he'd realised it was me he wanted. We're still together now, our eldest is nearly 4, and we have an 18 month old son too. He did actually leave again a year ago, saying the same old "I don't love you, I want out" thing...but after a few weeks, and a trip to Relate, he again realised that he wanted me.
If I'm honest, from my experience, I never feel safe with him. I know he loves us, and he's the best dad in the world, but he is the kind of person that does seem to convince himself that the grass is always greener, so I worry that he'll never be satisfied and contented...and that puts pressure on me to try and be the "perfect" girl, which is unrealistic, pathetic and does nothing for my confidence, cos I'm always striving to be this "thing" that I think he wants, when in theory, I don't think he really knows what he wants.
It's been a hard old slog for us, and everyday I think we're through it and can just carry on...but there's always that chance that he'll do it again. I think every good relationship will know if a second chance is worth it for them, and for many it is....but it's not easy, it's an uphill struggle at times...and depending on the strength of the person who was cheated on, it may become too much.
2006-11-10 03:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope i gave 7 second chances before coming to my senses and kicking the waste of space out.
2006-11-10 11:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave her like 2-3 chances. She was somewhat faithfull but understanding we were seperate or dating others while dating eachother she messed up. Then she goes to a party and drank too much and was rapped, that was her 3rd chance and now we are stronger, faithful, trusting, and bf and gf again! Happily for 2 1/2 years! : )
2006-11-10 11:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Brevin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex boyfriend slept with another girl behind my back and he confessed to me the next week, afte alot of screaming and shouting and door slamming i decided to tak ehim back, we were together for a year after that and broke up simply becoz we fell out of love with each other, nothing to do with the cheating. ifu feel u can trust them and it was a genuine mistake then i say go for it,
the aint enough love in the world as it is without people throwing it away
2006-11-10 11:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - he was unfaithful to me, I forgave but didnt forget. I still think about it one and a half years on but we are ok. Not as good as it was but still together.
2006-11-10 11:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dingle-Dongle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally havent had husb cheat on me but in saying that i think it depends on how the decision is made to stay together and how you are going to carry your relationship on, i dont think it has nothing to do with how ur relationship was before (as it obv wasnt working) but how as a couple if you do stay together how your relationship will be in the future etc.
but like i say it varies i reckon from diff ppl, i say if he ever cheated i'd get rid but i think if it ever happened it'd be a diff story you just dont know!
had loads of ex boyfriends cheat on me - but thats all they were BOYS! real men dont (from my personal experience)
2006-11-10 11:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'We all make mistakes in our life so who are we to point fingers?' an ex-boyfriend once told me. It's true. Could be you next time so maybe give him a chance. It's all up to you to forgive or not to forgive.
2006-11-10 12:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by simbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - as bad as it sounds once a cheater always a cheater
over time it just becomes more trivial to them
they dont see it as wrong - they feel bad when they get caught but they dont actually stop? i think its an addiction - to greener grass...!
2006-11-10 11:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by anna63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, and he got 3 chances from me. Yeah, I know, fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice (and 3 times), shame on me!
2006-11-10 11:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Once the trust is gone from a relationship you can never recover it properly.
2006-11-10 11:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋