My husband and oldest Daugther are both on drugs and sometimes together What should I do?

Question

My husband (who is not my oldest daughter's father) is on drugs. When he goes out sometimes he ends up at her house (she is on drugs too) and spends the night with her boyfriend and her. My daughter has had a problem with this drug (crack) for about 4 years) she lost her little girl because of it. My husband has had a problem with this drug (same) for 3 years. My daughter I am told has sold her body and everything else under the sun to support her habit. I am numb. I have a young child who is 4 and I would like to go away, but everytime I try my husband blocks my way,either by making sure the money is spent on something else, or taking it and going out to do drugs. I have no mother or father as they have both passed away. I really do not know where to turn. Anyone have any ideas? I dont want this kind of thing around my little girl.

Answer 1

The one thing you have to make sure to do is to get out, move, leave, skip town, get away from this, find a shelter, other family, friends, etc....... best of luck to you.......

Answer 2

You need to open a bank account in your name only. Only you can access the money. My sister was hooked on drugs, did everything you say your daughter does. I would take her for a car ride and drop her off at a rehab. Your husband too, try and convince him its for the best interest of him and your 4 year old. You should not let a drug addict control your income otherwise you'll never have any. You owe it to your 4 yr old daughter to have everyone using drugs together and offer them some help, if they refuse, take her out of that situation.

Answer 3

I really feel for you I came from a house of addicts and it's rough they are very selfish people, and I woulnd't doubt if you're daughter sold herself for the crap that stuff literally steals a person's soul. There has got to be a friend that can help you and if not there must be a shelter somewhere you can go. I really feel for you and your 4 year old you are doing right by getting her away from your husband as she does not need to be subjected to that at all. Good luck I hope for your daughter and husbands sake they wake up and smell the coffee before it's to late. My brother did stayed clean for 9 years and just passed away this past August yes because of his past Crack addiction the stuff is nasty.

Crack and interventions don't work tried it they have to want to help themselves before you can help them, they will most likely go through rehab a handful of times when they decide to straighten out before they actually do it's tough to beat Crack it's a very addictive drug that takes control on the first hit.

Answer 4

Run, do not walk to the nearest attorney's office and get divorced. You can not afford to have drugs around your child. As for your husband doing drugs with your daughter, that is very wierd to me, but anyway, it would be nice to say, "stay and get him into rehab, blah, blah, blah." But, in reality, you are doing more damage to yourself and your daughter by staying. Addicts usuually have to go to the rehab a number of times before they are claen, and it happens over years. I had a boyfriend who was on meth and it killed me every time he relapsed. It hurt me more than it did him. It's not worth it.
You will need to make sure that he does not get any custody, visitation, etc. until he can take a clean piss test every week. Your attorney will enter this into your divorce decree. Also, start putting small amounts or whatever you can away so you can leave. Arrange some kind of assistance before you leave so you can cut and run. Good luck

Answer 5

Go to your local social service, tell them your situation and they will help. Sometimes it take a while. But if you can't wait (which I don't think you should) find a shelter, because any shelter is better than having your child around some using drugs and seeing in going on. Be strong, please, you have to be strong for your little one because she needs you right now. But don't stay there and let it continue, because he's always going o take the money to spend on drugs, it's a cycle that will never stop unless you put your foot down, and now is that time. God bless you and may He be with you!!!!

Answer 6

Whoa, sister that's a deep situation! But ofcourse you know there is no other alternative but to get yourself and your daughter out of that house. When people are on drugs their sense of morality is completely damaged. You can not get them to stop until they are themselves ready to stop! There are support groups such as ALANON and the like you can find on the internet that consists of spouses, children, and parents of drug abusers. Once you get yourself and your daughter settled(try a battered womans shelter or Red Cross)...I would suggest you joining the group and perhaps through networking you can find some sort of way to deal with this whole messed up situation. I will pray for you and your family. God Bless

Answer 7

a 4 year old child should not be around drug abuse! she may grow up and start drugs early because she thinks its okay!!
you need to get her away from there!! if you are working and making money, do not put the money in a joint checking account with your husband! Cash it and hide or something so he cannot get ahold of the money! when you save up enough, get the hell outta there! That child doesn't need to be exposed to that!!!
good luck! at least your doing smoking crack too, or the child would never get away from it!!

Answer 8

I would save money a little at a time until you can get away. Maybe you could get a side job or sell something on ebay for money, in my town people can donate plasma for money if they are desperate. Do what ever you have to. If you don't you are responsible for what happend to your 4 year old. Don't let the good times with your husband cloud your sense for right and wrong

Answer 9

I would look into a Woman's shelter if the only reason you are not leaving is because of money. If he has not tried to get help for his problem in 3 years then it's not going to change because he has everything he wants you, his child and his drug. You need to leave for your child's sake.

Answer 10

I would first suggest turning them both into the drug authorities. You need to get away how ever you can. You can go to a women's shelter, or do you have any other relatives that you can go stay with? What about a church?
Do whatever you have to do to get you and your child away from this before it becomes a situation of too-far-across-the-line.
Do whatever you have to to get out of this situation!!! Your child's life depends on it.

Answer 11

as your oldest daughter is living away there is little you can do about her,,she will do as she pleases even if it is destroying you BUT,,you can do something about your husband,,he is not someone you need in your life right now is he,,,,maybe you need to start hiding cash,,as much as you can or go and stay with friends,you do need to do something because this is too much for anyone to take,,he is using your daughter because it is handy,,because he can take drugs there,but what about you and the youngest,,should she be witness to this ,,does she need this man while he is doing this,,do you need to feel helpless,unloved,deceived?,,even alone,poor,and homeless would be better for your self esteem that what you must be feeling at present.they are grown ups ,your daughter cannot choose who or what is around her,effecting her,influencing her,,but you can. make that break,,make him see you are stronger than he is,,that there is more in life than the one he is choosing.