I am 19 and I have a 16 year old sister who thinks she knows everything and she all ways wants to argue with someone. she will get mad if any one of my other little sisters tell on her and she will threaten to hit them and she gets away with it. She will pick a fight with my husband and get away with that to. She gets mad when my mother will ground her for her own stupidity and then fights with her and her fience. if my mothers fience says shes grounded then half the time my mom says shes not so my sister thinks she can get away with anything. She will pick a fight with me and when she gets into trouble she will blame it on me and gets even more mad when my mom says nothing to me because i dont get into trouble she want everything her way and thinks of no one but her self. She thinks the world should evolve around her and everyone should go by her schedule. I've told my mom to bend her over her knee or even wash her mouth out something besides grounding her but she wont what do we do?
2006-11-10 03:20:05 · 7 answers · asked by littleangelof5 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have 2 kids and when she gets into trouble she has to watch them as punnishment from me and alls she does is complain and I dont know what to do, my moms already been in the hospital due to to much stress and nearly had a heart attack and my sister doesn't even care and my moms only 40. My future step dad and I are so confused what should we do?
2006-11-10 03:23:53 · update #1
Sounds like your mom feels guilty about something and therefore lets your sister get away with everything. Probably about the divorce or separation from her real father. (absence) Your sister needs some serious ground rules set and she needs to follow them or have consequences. My daughter is sixteen and boy do I know how mouthy they can get. My daughter when she gets mouthy will have privileges taken away. ( an example phone usage) She will get angrier at first because she is used to her anger pushing everyone around. You have to stick to it. Make her stay in her room with no phone, no tv, no music. This will give her time to think. Also, have your sister volunteer at a homeless shelter or hospital. So she can see just how lucky she is to have such a good family. I do not let my daughter work because I do not want her school work to suffer. So volunteering is a wonderful way for her to put in the time. So she is not just hanging around. She needs to not be allowed to go anywhere when she is disrespecting your mom or the integrety of the family. Does your sister drink or do drugs? God I hope not. My daughter ended up getting into stuff like that and that is much worse. I ended up having to put her into dss. custody. Which was the hardest decision I had to make. She was sneaking out of the house and breaking all rules. She spent the summer away from our house. I was allowed to visit on weekends. My daughter came home with a new found respect for my house and my rules. I hope your situation dont come to that but let her know if she does want to stay in the house she has to respect you and your family. It is in her best interest. Also, let her know you love her and want to help, but things can not go on the same as they have. Good luck.
2006-11-10 03:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
By doing all this she's getting attention and that's obviously what she wants. You all are so focused on her, why should she change, why should she listen, she's getting what she wants. Its working for her. So the most logical thing to do is not give her so much attention. I'm 22 and my sister is 20 did the same thing at that age. If you continue to respond the same way your going to get the same result. If she's hitting or threatening she needs to be placed in anger management and if she actually puts her hands on someone you all need to press charges on her. What she needs is tough love. She has no rights, and you all are giving way too many choices.
2006-11-10 11:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh she sound just like my big sister!! Shes 15 and think she just know everything and she better then anyone!! Oh it make me mad too!!!! I dont know what u should do but maybe try and ignore her or talk to her and tell her its dumb to pick fights with u. And if she get grouded she shoulds stay grounded!!! If we get grounded we never get off it early!!! If i ever acted so bad and like a knowitall my mom would bend me over her knee for sure!!
2006-11-10 13:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, YOU can't really do anything. It's mom's responsibility to deal with the behaviour. And honestly, it sounds like normal teenage behaviour even though its a pain to deal with. All you can do is alter how you react to her when she's trying to get an argument going. Just don't buy into it. Let her feel like she's talking to a wall when she behaves like this with you. When she realizes she's not getting anything out of it, she'll move on to someone else who is giving her what she wants. And maybe she shouldn't be looking after your kids while she's going through this phase? You're probably not interested in your kids picking this up...
2006-11-10 12:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The most obvious answer would be for you and your husband to get your own place. Your mom isn't going to change, and neither is your sister. A grown, married woman should not be living with her mother, the mother's fiance and a bunch of little sisters. Your marriage will not last in that situation.
2006-11-10 11:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tiss 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Kick her A*S thats the only way she will learn, seriously my sisters was the same way and all i had to do is show her some tuff love and she stopped bugging me and my husband...
2006-11-10 11:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by R.J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your mom is the real villan in this situation,she
gets away with to much,you and your little sisters should team
up and beat the crap out of her
2006-11-10 11:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by D lightfully Blessed 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋