so here's the deal. i used to be really good friends with a girl i met thru mutual friends. she is married to this guy who has a daughter with her, AND a daughter from a previous relationship. He has custody of the daughter from the marriage, but not the other relationship. he see's that baby every other week. my friend and i are barely on speaking terms right now because of how she's living her life. drinking, drugs, NOT being a good mom in my book what so ever. I have a 2 year old son that i have custody of. She ended the relationship telling him he wanted a divorce, and she moved in with a boyfriend. After she brought up the whole divorce thing, i started talking to both of them, trying to get them to work it out. He decided after a couple of her actions, he WANTED the divorce so he filed papers. now she wants him back. in the process of me talking him thru everyting, we fell pretty hard for eachother.. and now i'm stuck. how can i explain that 2 a girl i used to be best friends w/?
2006-11-10 03:16:24 · 9 answers · asked by Josie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to back off and let them work it out. Let the guy know you'll be there for him, but people make mistakes and they are still married. If he still wants the divorce it'll go on. But you need to step out of the relationship because she could use that against him now that she is wanting him back. I've been there done that. I was the wife who made mistakes and wanted my ex back. He didn't want to make things work, so we divorced. Good luck and don't make things worse.
2006-11-10 03:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by odessa2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not stuck. You wanted him all alone. That's not right and if I were you I would not continue to pursue him as a companion. That is your best friends husband and what you should be doing is trying to get them back together and not sleep with him. God forbid that you commit this sin and not face the reactions behind it. You need to seek God and He will tell you that it's a sin to do what you are doing and tell him as well. God made the marriage and God can fix the marriage. Do you believe that or do you just want someone that is not yours? I pray that you are convicted by what you are doing because it is wrong. God bless you.
2006-11-10 03:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on a similar time as that grew to become right into somewhat long, it grew to become into very informative & properly worded. My reaction should not be as long, even though it particularly is going to be direct. do no longer talk over with the two certainly one of them. no longer something good can come of being acquaintances along with her. you weren't stupid, yet harmless in the type you purely observed the terrific in her. If a guy is that gullible to fall for a manipulative individual, then he's no longer properly worth it. From each and every thing you have reported, she ought to be the focal element in any respect expenses, which is composed of her self appreciate and the individuals who easily care approximately her. purely flow on which incorporate your existence and proceed to ignore approximately her tries. sometime she could ge the photograph and could ought to handle the mess she's made.
2016-10-03 12:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would keep your reealtionship a secret until the divorce is final. I fyour friend isn't cleaned up then you don't need to talk to her. She ruined her marriage and your freindship, but if she is cleaned up and tryingthen you should tell her. You may lose her freindship, but you may not. How does your bf/her ex- think about you telling her? Maybe you both should tell her together.
2006-11-10 03:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it...for your own good and for the good of your child. They need to work this out without your interference. It's not your business to get into.
Further, until they works things out, you have no right to act on your feelings for him. He is not available right now. Wait until he is.
2006-11-10 03:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like things already happened. What are you gonna do?
Guess you are now going to be enemies with your ex-friend
2006-11-10 03:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by jasenwhetstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a really good example of why we should all mind our own business.
2006-11-10 03:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by mrtoddanson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always close one door before opening another.
2006-11-10 03:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by The Oldest Man In The World 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever told you that you owe her an explanation lied to you.
2006-11-10 03:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋