I have a 14 year old son?

Question

My son is 14 and going through some stuff I don't understand can anyone give me some advice?

He is not talking to me anymore and his gf is a raunch. I told him there are a lot of fish in the sea but he doesn't want to lose his friends. Also he is getting 3 D- and 2 F's in school what do I do?

HELP!!!!!!

Answer 1

i have two 14 year old boys and one of them sounds exactly like your son (except for the girlfriend, mine doesn't have a gf)....i have no idea what to do for him.....he shuts me out a little more each day....all i do is to make sure he knows he can come to me or his dad for anything and that he knows we love him no matter what!!

Good luck...i know how hard it is but it will get better!!!!

Answer 2

Man, I would be pretty worried. Get him tested for drug use. His grades are horrible. He is simply not doing the work, not trying or is severely in need of tutoring and discipline with his school work.

14 is too young for a girlfriend. Plain and simple. A date for a movie that mom drops him off at is fine. A school dance is fine but not a girlfriend. Especially one who is skanky.

I would be it's drugs of some kind. Search his room when he's not home. Check his myspace and his IM list. Crack down.

Don't let him get further in trouble without a big fight. He may hate you for it now but he will thank you years from now.

Call his school counselor and set up a meeting between you, the counselor and ALL of his teachers at once...bring your son and show him that everyone cares, it's time for him to start caring. School is his #1 job right now. Come up with a plan to help him help himself.

Don't be wishy-washy.....it sounds like he is in trouble deep.

I am sorry to be blunt. I have a 16 year old daughter and it's tough with teens. Good luck!

Answer 3

1st of all you shouldn't call his gf a raunch, he's closed up ,so go to the school have a private talk w/ teachers,guidence counseler do not tell him that you are doing this. has his peers [ friendships ] changed? grades have dropped, could he be using or experimenting w/ drugs?these all could be warning signs,his gf maybe ,someone you dislike but ,whats her family like talk to her parents. keep his peers close by so you know whats going on.tell him you are concerned about the way he is feeling.don't push tho,a hard thing to master. just keep closer tabs.make sure you talk w/ teachers. good luck.

Answer 4

well grades aren't the end of the world.

But maybe you could introduce him to a hottie, who he would like and , who gives him good advice.

And I mean a Hottie not a nice girl ect....

its sex at this point in their lives.

so as soon as you come to terms with the fact that this is true, its gonna change things for you.

also stop giving him money, and stuff. make him get a job.

this'll be a way to make him relize he needs tobe responsible, and its gonna be a safe, place.

he is a teenager. so give hiom space but talk about things too.

if your honest than he'll feel much more comfortable being himself with you.

good luck.

Answer 5

Ok, apparently he's going throught the "mom is not cool enough" stage. You need to sit down with him and talk to him. Don't criticize his girlfriend, don't criticize his friends, just talk to him firmly that he needs to get better grades and also ask him whether he's having any problems, to come to you. You should also ground him for his bad grades, not to be bad but to show that he needs to do better. It will also keep him away from his girlfriend and friends for a while. He will learn on his own that his girlfriend isn't a good person and move on. Just abstain from criticizing him because it would keep him from talking to you since he won't feel like he can talk to you without feeling bad about himself.

Answer 6

well it might be just a phase that he is going threw..he's just expreimenting that's all..but if you are really concerened about it..then maybe you should look into some councelling for him and you..this could be his way of rebelling..all teenagers rebel at some time or another..but he will learn soon enought that his gf is a raunch, and he won't lose his friends if he dumps her...

Answer 7

Have more open conversations with him. Try to do things together that you both like to do. spending more time with im might help. My son is also 14 and at a awkward stage, just starting to really like girls, more worried about what his friends think...etc....Im sure your son is going threw the same. Just be there for him to listen too, keep an open mind and no matter who he dates just be supportive. All us parents know the more you tell your children to not do something they do it anyways....He has to learn from his mistakes...

Answer 8

I guess you should get closer to him; find out his interests and why isn't he studying? try to make him feel that he is okay but there are some small mistakes that you will help him to correct

about his girlfriend try to find why did he choose her, maybe she is good but you are just connecting both matters his education & relationship
having a gf doesn't mean he should be a failure at school
Anyway I know how u feel coz u r a mother but relax just try to contact with him(try to be CLOSE)find out what's in his mind

Answer 9

First off he is to young to have this so called girlfriend and you need to put your foot down and make him listen, Then his grades this little girl has his mind all F ucked up , what about taking all of his games and his t.v. for a while until he pulls his grades up he has forever to get a girlfriend, make his A ss study

Answer 10

Don't argue with him Talk without fighting or raising your voice. Ask question and listen to his answers. Don't give orders, just suggestions according with his answers. Communication is the key. Good luck.