i am 18, have had no education, have been severely neglected, I don't have a clue what to do.?

Question

please help!!! I lost 2 people of whom I was very close to when I was 11. after that I couldn't cope anymore. i fell into depression.also..my mum was abusive towards me/neglected me.....but i was too scared to say anything.I started to refuese to go to school....as i could not cope with the grief...and also the neglect at home. this me refusing to go to school on-and-off carried on for the next 2 years before finally i quit going to school altogether as I could no longer cope at all. throughout all this no-one ever gave me any help for my school phobia. my parents didn'thave a clue how to get me a proper education(my mum had never been to college even and didn't even know what University is)i ended up having 3 measly hours of tuition at home per week, with not even a qualified teacher and all she did was make me learn out of a book. I ended up getting G grades in my GCSE exams (apart from a C in english) i got no help. am now 18. how can i fix my situation?? PLEASE HELP"!!

Answer 1

go back to college learn a vocational course where you get EMA money around £30 a week and that should be an incentive to go. This way you can earn and learn,

What about hairdressing, pluming etc.. there are so many different opportunities and the college will be able to offer you advise.

there are also lots of volunteering opportunities that will enable you to try out lots of new things that might lead somewhere.

good luck.

Answer 2

Firstly, you want to do something about your life. That is the only main thing that you need to posess. You can do it, i know you can. I did. What you should do, is go to connections, they will DEFINATLEY help you. Tell them you got a c grade in English even after you never went, and that your willing to do anything to get somewhere in life. They will see how much you wnat to succeed and will help you more. Do a secretarial course, a legal one. So in two years you will be a trainee legal sec, and you probably get About £18,000 a year, then you can work your way up and become a Legal Executive and you can do stuff that solicitors do and get about £60,000 in some of them. Just do a college course, whatever one you feel like doing and then go into work, get some practical experience, then in another 2years of working full-time, you will be raking it in.

YOur determination will get you far in life. That is all.

Forget about your mum, dont sit there and think, "oh well alll these bad things happend to me so i kinda got excuse to do nothing" casue that is crap!! Read the book on David Pelzar, he was tortured whilst growing up and he is a fine standing member of the community. Dont let the past run the course of your life.

Break out of yoru family mold and change the cicyle. I did.

OH i am 18yrs old, i have been working for 8 months, i have my own flat of the council and saving £50 a week. Its ok. Its a start ya know, and i know you can do it too. I mean I DID, and that is really saying something. My twin sis is a bit like you, i try to get her motivated but it dont work, but you are motivated, so you got as good chance as the next person.

I really really hope that you find somethign out there for you. I so do. Goodluck and keep ya chin up. And remember there is ALWAYS a brighter day, seriously.

love samx

Answer 3

I didn't know there was such a thing as a G grade in GCSEs. Things must have changed since I was at school!!

Right, if you want to get an education and empower yourself there are several ways for you to do it. Firstly, I'd advise getting out of your mother's house though. Get yourself a council flat, or get into a house-share. Then look into apprenticeships - you can get qualifications and train at the same time as earning a wage. If you want to, you could go to night-school to take a GCSE course. Pace yourself though - do one or two courses at a time, and take English Language or Literature (whichever one you didn't get the C in) and Maths first, as these will help you in any other courses (languages, sciences, history etc.) you might want to take later, and are generally required for other jobs.

Firstly, as I say though, get some stability in your life, get away from your abusive mother (and if you need it, go to your GP about free NHS counselling), and you'll be in a better place to start looking after yourself, feeling more confident, and moving forward in the direction YOU want to. Speak to someone at LearnDirect about apprenticeships and night-school, and they'll point you in the right direction. The support networks are all there, you just have to get in touch with them to get the ball rolling. If you've survived this long under such difficult circumstances and come through the other side looking to the future, then that proves you have tremendous inner strength. Believe in yourself, and move forward with YOUR life - your future's in your own hands now you're 18, so you don't have to endure that kind of cr*p anymore. Good luck, and enjoy your life!

Answer 4

You have had some very kind answers already, so this may sound tough - but you have got to stop feeling sorry for yourself & stop blaming other people for your situation. Your mum probably did the best she knew how even though it wasn't up to much. She probably hasn't had it easy either. Instead of wallowing in misery, start deciding that you are going to turn your life around. At 18 you still have plenty of time to learn stuff at college or evening class. Meanwhile there are lots of simple manual jobs that don't require much in the way of education to pay your way. Your evident bitterness about your past will only hold you back in your development as a mature adult, so ditch it now.

Incidentally, the standard of English in your written question is WAYabove that one usually sees on Yahoo Answers, some of which are barely intelligible, so you clearly have adequate literacy skills. There is no reason why you should not take more exams when you are ready. I wish you well.

Answer 5

I've answered a very similar question to this from you before. I know the answers are similar to here. I took the liberty of looking at your profile and you have asked basically the same question lots of times- you'll now be getting swamped with information. I know you must be confused but now is the time to sort the information you already have and take action.

People are advising you to do things, now you need to stop asking for more and more responses, take the answers you have, read them and choose one. Learndirect and college are both good options- you don't write like a G grade candidate at all so a B-Tec plus maths and English could get you into uni faster than starting at GCSE level again.

Perhaps the asking is linked to your phobia- but you aren't going to get qualified and employed by asking questions, you need to take action.

Answer 6

Hey hun, its never too late to learn!

You could try your local college, LearnDirect team or see if there are any accredited community groups that can offer you what you need.
If you are a bit scared of going back into education, why not try a short course to ease you into it. Again try a local community group and do something like arts and crafts, just to get the feel of learning within a new group of people. Then you can move on to the more intensive stuff. I used to work within a community organisation, and believe me, you are not alone.

You haven't said where you are from, but at 18, you could still be entitled to learn at college. There may also be funding to help you. You could try ALG (Adult Learning Grant) who will know if you are entitled to their funding.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

Wow ..I am so sorry for your situation. It's so heartbreaking to see someone like you who are aware of what is happening to you. You seem like a smart person. I am so sorry you did not get the opportunities you should have for your future.

Well as long as you are aware of it, you will be fine. why don't you find out in your local area, the library, the High School and see if you can finish you GED? You know you live in a awesome country, you can always get a job and go to college part time after u take you GED. It's a wide open field and opportuinites for educating yourself are great.

I came here when i was 20 it was so difficult to adjust to the culture and live with a family member who would not understand you. yet i told myself i will make it. I went to college and worked 30 hrs a week to make it. and yes i graduated with a Psychology degree and i felt so proud doing that.

U are still young ...you can do it..tallk to someone.

Answer 8

I work in a Guidance centre in a college in London. If you came to me I would advise you to go back and take your GCSE's first off, even if its just Maths and Science. Maybe a good step for you would be to go to see your local Connexions centre who should be able to give you lots of information, and they specialise in your age group so they would surely have had experience of people in your situation before. They should also be able to put you in touch with local colleges in your area, and suggest some courses you could take.

Check http://www.connexions.gov.uk/ for more info and to find out where your local office is.

The main thing is not to be disheartened, there are more people in your situation that you think, and the good thing is that you have realised and decided to do something about it, that's half the battle.

I wish you luck!

Answer 9

I work for a learndirect centre in Cumbria and we have loads of people who can help across the country. It is nothing like school because it's all flexible learning, you can come in whenever you like and there is one-one tuition available if you need it. All of the learner are from many different levels, ages and background so you would not be singled out for any reason.

All of our courses are done online so if you wanted to, you could do them at home until you felt confident enough to come into the centre. Don't worry as many people can get into this situation but there is help all around. If you need anymore info try logging onto:

Answer 10

I work at a community college. What I would suggest is that you call a local college or university and ask to speak with an Advisor. The Advisor would help you to sort out the fragmented parts of your educational history. Then, you may want to speak with someone in the Access Office at the college/university. That is what we call it. It is a special group of people hired to help people in special situations, like yours. They do a wide range of services for students of all different backgrounds. They may be able to refer you to agencies outside of the campus that can help you in other personal areas, as well. My best to you in your journey to a better life!!