Wondering why do people find a need to cheat on their spouses or significant others?

Question

IS IT BECAUSE YOUR LONELY? OR WANT TO TRY SOMETHING NEW? WOULD LOVETO KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!

Answer 1

I never have, but maybe its a case of "the grass is always greener..."

Answer 2

Cheating is wrong, I agree, but people have different reasons for doing it.
For some, they are truly scum and never were sincere and honest to begin with, they just "act" with their partner or spouse.

some people fall in love and want to stay married, but then things go wrong. The marriage starts to fall apart, and it is usually both spouses that are not giving 100% , both usually have something to do with the marriage not being what it was meant to be. If this happens, and one partner feels like they are not getting the love or attention that they need, sometimes people turn to another who IS interested in them. Sometimes it is truly a problem of being lonely, rejected by the spouse, feeling misunderstood or not appreciated or listened to.
If more people who felt this way would talk to the spouse and either go to a counselor or try to work it out with the spouse on their own, then less of these people would still feel the need to cheat.

People often don't realize this until it is too late, also it is very hard to fix a marriage or work on things that are not going well.

But it is definitely better to do this, than to try and start a new relationship. Because you could end up having the same problems in the new relationship anyway, and if the pattern continues, you can end up with multiple marriages/divorces, and that is not healthy.

Definitely, it is best to "not go there" when an opportunity to cheat comes along, but for the reasons I listed above, some people will find the temptation too hard to resist.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Being selfish.
Disrespecting your spouse. Blaming all mistakes on the spouse. Selfish makes you feel you are always right and you are allowed everything. All that leads to lack of emotional connection between you and your spouse. After that you start extramarital relationships and often that brings you to cheating. And cheating pretty much means divorce. So, always make your spouse the most important person in your life. Make all decisions together.

Answer 4

I think people just tend to take their mates for granted sometimes. The day to day real life stuff just gets to be too much so some people look to someone else to escape and get away from reality.If they would turn toward their partner instead and try to make things new and exciting they wouldn't have to go outside of their marriage. That's why it's so important to be friends too.If 2 people have common goals and are friends they can work through anything.

Answer 5

I filed for divorce, then resumed life, meaning I started dating. I have a sexual relationship with my boyfriend. The problem is, now I find myself wanting to go back to my husband, and like a FOOL I told him, or rather admitted when he asked that I did this, and he won't let me live it down.

The reason why I took steps to move on is because my husband was not only NOT meeting my emotional needs, he was absolutely draining me and saying things that absolutely drained my self esteem. He treated me like a servant, or........just some b*tch off of the street that he cared very little for. He was extremely selfish, and frequently, almost always demonstrated that he thought his needs superceded that of mine and even our children.

So......the last episode of verbal/emotional abuse.......I just snapped, I filed for divorce. I didn't want to hear anymore apologies or promises to change. I just wanted to feel okay again. I met someone who really took care to show his appreciation for me, who was kind, considerate, and willing to bend over backward to give me what I needed emotionally. He was also very attentive and considerate in bed, though not as good as my husband.

Well, over time, I realized that my feelings for my husband had not really resolved themselves, and we began to talk. He asked, and I admitted. And now.........he is more hurtful than ever. You would think that he NEVER did any wrong in the marriage, or that he did NOTHING in our relationship that would contribute to me running into the arms of another man.

I make no 'excuses' for 'cheating', though I did file divorce papers before I engaged in any outside relationship.........I can acknowledge my part in it............I just wish he could also acknowledge his.

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Answer 6

Simple, because they are unhappy with the relationship or they never really loved the other person. If you want to "try something new" then don't get involved in a relationship until you have "soaked your royal oats."

We all have options to do or not to do - in the end, we are all responsible for our own choices no matter what the circumstances.

Answer 7

In truth it all boils down to the excitement the thrill the rush of doing something your not soposto. remember how your felt when you snuck cookies from the cookie jar. or sneeaking out of the house that is the same feeling thay get when they cheat

Answer 8

I never cheat... EVER! I think cheating is about the scandal. ya know.. the drama... to have something Dark going on in your life to make you feel alive, and feel something new, Feel like your being bad. I think thats what its all about, and I think that society in general has romanticized the whole Cheating PHENOM and so NOW... people all over want to FEEL like they are wanted and desired by someone else. Just my thoughts on it.

Answer 9

Because they are tempted and when this happens if you are week during this temptation you will give in if you are week...If you cheat why get married and if you are going to cheat why not get unmarried before you cheat so the other person don't fill blamed...And the other person don't have to carry your blame and shame..

Answer 10

People cheat because what they've had for so long getting tired and boring.
Sorta like having cereal for breakfast every day for five years. Eventually you'll have your fill and look to bacon and eggs!!

Answer 11

it takes two people for a relationship to break down. In my opinion, you'd cheat because you were too afraid to be the first to admit that the relationship isn't working.

Or your just confused.