pregnant by my daughters boyfriend?

Question

please dont judge me....
my daughter wanted me to meet her boyfriend so i said yes.....we all went out for a meal and me and him were instantly attracted to one another....things arnt so good between and my husband either we havent been having sex...
anyway we all got drunk and i said they could stay at our house to save ont he texi fayre, and he kissed me when my daughter was int he lounge....the next day he came round and said he was attracted to me and he thought we had something....we had sex and have kept having sex in secret.....i went on the pill but missed a few....now i am pregnant and it isnt my husbands as we havent been sleeping together.....i want to be with him so much but i cant hurt my daughter but he is so special to me.....i cant have an abortion.....he said he loves me he will want to help.....how can i be with him without hurting my daughter and her dad? please dont judge me.....
help thanks

Answer 1

Thats crazy...last week you were sleeping with your mums exboyfriend...you go for all ages dont you.

Answer 2

I won't judge you. You already know what you did was horribly and completely wrong - and you can't change that.

It is too late to worry about hurting your daughter and your husband. I dare say that you have broken all semblence of deserving your daughter's (or your husband's) trust. If you keep the child, it will be a constant reminder. The only thing that you can do is to be up front and honest and let the chips fall where they may and they will fall pretty hard. You have noone to blame for that but yourself and you need to be responsible and accountable for what you have done.

If you really want to keep this all an ugly skeleton in your closet, then your only option is an abortion. Not a good option, to be sure.

Good luck, you are definitely going to need it. You need to look at the very real possibility of living as a single mom with a baby, without any emotional or mental support from your daughter.

Answer 3

there is no way you can be with this guy without hurting your daughter or your husband.
you've weaved one hell of a spiders web here and now your stuck.

as you dont want to be judged all i can say is your daughter is better off without the creep and you will be forever looking over your shoulder wondering if he's sleeping with someone else.
he probably told your daughter he loved her too.

once a player always a player.

also i hate to say it but you cant create a situation like this and expect people not to judge you.
if i were you id be more worried about what your daughter will say not what a bunch of strangers say.
you obviously didnt consider your daughter in any of this either if you had you wouldnt have done it once let alone carried it on.
hope your daughter is very forgiving.
as for being pregnant well sounds to me like thats no mistake you dont play games like this and forget to take your pill, you go out of your way to prevent it.
and if your husband aint giving you what you want then you talk to him about it thats what being married is all about.

how would you feel it was the other way round and your husband got another pregnant or if you werent married but had a boyfriend and your daughter got pregnant by him.

your a very selfish woman but im not judging just giving you my opinion, as im sure many others here have too.

Answer 4

I think you should stick with someone your own age... i mean if you divorce you husband who is you daughter's father and get married to her ex boyfriend of course she'll hate you... she won't want to have anything to do with either of you ... and the worst thing is that .. what if you daughter is pregnant and so are you and yous both have a child by the same man... thats nasty... and not to be rude or anything but if you have a daughter who is an adult doesn't that mean your kind of ... old ... to have another kid and i don't think that your husband will like that too much.

Well if he said he loves you thats ridicolious because yous just met and had sex... yeah real true romantic love....grow up .. you have a husband now stay with him.

You cant be with him without hurting your daughter because your disobeying respect for her by sleeping with her boyfriend.
And worse of all you couldn't possibly explain this "love" situation to your daughter and husband without hurting them.

Answer 5

that is so wrong!!
you can't not hurt your daughter or your husband..

i feel sorry for the unborn baby whom you might do the same thing to. That is wrong. You are a bad mother for disrespecting your daughter like that. I hope your husband takes everything from you and your daughter never talks to you again. You will have nobody but the baby and how do you know that he'll even be with you for the rest of your life. You family will dis own you from them.
You are very selfish and i am glad you are not my mother. My mother would never think to do that. She would have slapped him in the face and told him to leave. Not sleep with my boyfriend. You are low.
It's not about being judged or not it's about being pathetic

Answer 6

Well - Mrs. Robinson - it's too late to tell you to run from this whole scenario, so... you're just going to have to suck it up and be honest with everyone AND get a divorce. May I ask, how old is he? and you? I mean with all these female techers getting knocked up by the teenie-bopper students - I think his age makes a bit of a difference in how this is viewed. Like I said - you have to open up and tell everyone that this is going to impact the truth. And you should plan on them all turning their backs on you & this child (except for the father, of course) Hopefully for your sake - time will heal and eventually your husband and daughter will speak to you again one day. This sounds like Jerry Springer - 100%... Good Luck.

Answer 7

Let's see..2 hours ago you were shagging your mothers ex..now 26 minutes later your knocked up by your daughters boyfriend... you do get around don't you?...the next installment should be a real dilly...But look on the bright side...your daughter could soon have a new brother/sister, who if she marries the father will also be her stepson/daughter.. what a world...gbg

Answer 8

Your daughter's boyfreind? How old is he - 16? You need to be careful with the minor laws in state.

Guess you're gonna have to 'fess up if you're preganent, This is a bad situation. You know the old saying: "You made your bed, now lie in it." Or something like that.

Tell your husband. Admit you cheated on him or whatever. Your daughter is going to be angry anyway when she finds your with child.

Hope things get better.

Oh... and I would tell your daughter NOT to date him; I mean come on; the daughter's MOM? Wow.

Sorry, I'm not trying to be judgemental, so please dont think I am.

Answer 9

You have to be truthful. that is first and foremost. the truth. If that is the way you really feel about this guy, it is just the way it is. Really to blame is your husband. He should be fullfilling your needs. So you went to someone else for intamincy and nothing is wrong with that. but sad to say there really is no easy way out of this. Your daughter will get upset. No questions asked. But be true to yourself!

Answer 10

Honey you already hurt your daughter, and your husband. I think they only you should do is tell your daughter what happened, what are you gonna do have a baby and play it off as your husbands? Don't do that to him, it's not fair. Come clean and honest.

Answer 11

ummmmmm...... OOO OOO.. i know what you should do.... you should have sex with your husband, that way you can tell him it's his and have him raise it... THEN, convince your daughter to marry this guy so you can keep him around for your own needs. Keep doin' him, in the meantime, he'll do your daughter, she'll get prego, then you, your daughter, your husband, your son-in-law, your daughters child AND your child to this guy can all go on Jerry Springer and make some $ to pay for 1.) condoms and 2.) new lawn flamingos for your trailer!!!!! IT'S PERFECT! lol