I'm Brazilan (as one can see) living in Brazil and I tell you that it is very rare finding here around people of different gender which are close friends.
In your culture (European, first world, Christian, modern days) today, is that common/possible?
Let me tell you that here in Br we, generally speaking, see a man (when he has girl close friends) as to be gay, you know. That's too bad, I know that! Or when there is a case such this, one is interested in the other lovingly...
How is it in yours?
Tnx in antecipation, sorry for the mistakes and have a good weekend.
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2006-11-10 01:29:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm a young man, for those who asked.
2006-11-10 01:36:35 · update #1
Yes, I believe it is possible. It would save many a marriage, if only ALL relationships started this way and the level of respect and loyalty that usually accompanies a true friendship remained strong. Some cultures promote this type of relationship more than others.
In America, I often see "close" relationships ultimately lead to sexual relationships, whether the two are married or not. Therefore it becomes more than "just friends." Not always, but more often than not.
Incidentally, I have never understood when someone says, "we're just friends," as the word friend is a very honorable term and should never be minimized. In my experience "just friends," is always something more to at least one of the two involved. It just seems natural that a good relationship would progress to something more after becoming such good friends and especially if the two are naturally attracted to one another.
2006-11-10 01:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if it's a conscious decision on both parties' part and firm boundries are set. If it is (as is so often the case) a matter of unrequited love on the part of one or the other, there'll eventually be a train wreck. I've been good friends with a woman for a decade now, but for most of that time we have each been involved with other people. However, during the periods when were both available at the same time, we had to be very careful, since we both wanted to preserve the platonic friendship. There were several occassions when one or the other of us were particularly vunerable and it would have been easy to cross the boundries we'd set, but, so far, we've avoided crossing the line. The fact that we are also professional collegues has helped since that would create a whole nother can o' worms if we became romantic.
2016-05-22 02:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common all over most of the civilized world that males and females are close and trusting friends. One doesn't need to be a gay individual to be friends with the opposite sex. Some things are easier to discuss and clarify by talking to a member of the opposite sex because the opinions can be very enlightening. Men and women don't simply coexist for sexual reasons but have a tendency to make the best of friends for life.
2006-11-10 01:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by HGS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that this is possible, but at the end of the day, a girl is still a girl and a guy is still a guy...even though its possible for there to be no sexual attraction, i think as time goes by and you get to know that person feelings can become confused as the natural inclination is to progress to the next level - which is sexual.
I'd like to say lets not be so shallow its not always about the physical attraction, but experience has taught me different.
2006-11-10 03:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by anna63 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes they can. i have a few women friends. one of them is incredibly beautiful but i see her more as a sister than anything else. there`s also a woman on here and i can see us ending up as really good friends. in truth i`m not that great at relationships plus wen it all goes wrong i get hurt. i kind of feel better off being single. saying that there is a girl i fell for fairly recently that has everything i look for in a woman but i found out she`s married and has a baby so i wont go there. the worse thing is i see her every morning and my feelings just wont go away. such is life. but anyway yes it is possible to have women friends and nothing more
2006-11-10 03:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, it's possible. I have a very close friend who's male (not gay) and we chat on myspace all the time. Not once in the year we've known each other has the word "relationship" come up, at least not when it means the two of us being together.
Have a good weekend too. :)
2006-11-10 01:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by too funny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and all of my life, "most" of my friends have been guys. I have "some" female friends, but not many. I just get along better with guys. So you being a guy, hey it's okay to "just" be friends with a woman, nothing wrong with that at all. I'm not sure "exactly" what you're asking, but I hope this helped somehow. Good luck either way.
2006-11-10 02:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Esta Bueno! I have a lot of female friends. We may not be attracted or some other reason for nothing more, but a female friend is a wonderful, sensible balancing act in our lives.
P.S. Nothing at all that bad with your English. Me Español muy poquito y mal!
2006-11-12 19:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely possible, heck some of my closest friends are male. Here: just cbecause ur close friends doesn't mean there has to be something more. I found it interesting to learn that in Brazil its not acceptable. Hope this answers ur question.
2006-11-10 01:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes Yes Yes, I have had many male friends and I would not know if they are gay or not, because we have been the best of friends.
I am not gay, but I know what you meen about the views ofthose whos heards are covered with a pair of knickers, and usually someone elses.
2006-11-10 01:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋