Just for arguments sake if you met the following person and you thought you really, really, really liked them would you marry them?
-11 years age difference
-Has bipolar/histrionic
-Has 3 kids
-Has a string of blokes on the side
-In Lots of debt
I feel like I am infatuated with her and I need you people to say don't be stupid..back away for my own good. What do you reckon?
2006-11-10 01:16:32 · 64 answers · asked by jon y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The things I really liked about her were her ability to put a brave things in her life. Her ability to hold a job down and her happy go lucky attitude. However I am now thinking that someone at 35 years of age should not be acting in this way
2006-11-10 02:20:38 · update #1
No.
2006-11-10 01:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Would I marry her? Only if I were a masochist.
The age isn't an issue and depending on the kids, they might not be an issue either. Bipolar can be controlled, but there is no cure for Drama Queen syndrome. If there is no natural drama, they will stir some up. Normal people can't live like that. The debt is a big red flag and the blokes on the side is unacceptable.
Why did someone give Rita a thumbs down? She has a good point. What is it that you find so appealing about this woman?
2006-11-10 01:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that she has a string of blokes on the side pretty much says she is not ready for a commitment just yet. If you like her enough tho let her know how you feel. See if she is ready for a more committed relationship. If she agrees I wouldn't necessarily say there are going to be wedding bells in the future but it is the first step to taken it into consideration more seriously.
Good luck with what ever you decide.
Oh, one more thing, before even broaching the subject of a committed relationship, you need to decide if you can deal with the rest. If you go into this with a blind fold on you are going to hurt not only yourself but four other people also.
Last thing, I swear. My fiance is 10 yrs older than me, I have a considerable amount of baggage (not bipolar as far as I know tho, but legal nonsense with my ex), have 3 kids, and we both have ton of debt BUT we love each other my boys love him and he loves my boys, and for the most part we are happy (nobody is ever happy all of the time). So the scenario is workable.
Just one more thing, never had a string of blokes, just a wee bit too conservative for that.
2006-11-10 01:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really love this woman!
All of those things mean nothing if you love each other!
Sounds like the woman may need some support and guidence.
Just becareful and find out what her intentions are. Then you can be really sure.
Sounds like you really really want to marry this person and cant think of any reason why not too, that's why your asking everyone to tell you not to. What are the good things about her that make you feel this way? Ask yourself this question? How often do you feel this way about someone?
2006-11-10 01:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mello Kello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 00:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age difference, kids, former relationships shouldn't factor into whether or not you marry this person.
The bipolar issue can be a problem, as well as the existing debt. It would take a tremendous amount of work on your part to be with a bipolar person, & I wouldn't even think of marrying anyone with a huge amount of debt, until the debt has been taken care of, or at least reduced greatly.
2006-11-10 01:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by lee17201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO because how do you know that you are not just one of the blokes on the side!!!!you could go into alot of debt yourself because of being talked into paying off some bills, taking care of the children, getting meds for this person. Really rethink about this relationship. I know because I was one of these people until I got my life back in order myself with no help from anybody. I needed to be able to do it myself so that I could be able to form a relationship with somebody else. Take care of you first and then you can be with somebody else who really means something to you. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-10 01:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by karin1961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question would you let one of your friend marry a person like that our better yet if you have achild someday would you let her get into that situation, Love is dandy but after marriege the problem begin, he will go out with is blokes and he does not have any money to boot, you will be stuck home with no money kids and a man our lets say a boy with no sence of commiment. good luck find someelse the worls is full of people just find the one that will make you happy.
2006-11-10 02:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by nvigor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regarding the age difference, does it really matter, if you are mature the 11 years is just a number, isn't it??? The bipolar, there is medication for it, has 3 kids, well what are you going to do with them, they are hers aren't they??? Well, the blokes on the side, I don't know, is she friends with them, or are they a little fun on the side??? The lots of debt part, maybe you could help her with that, see if you could help her with a budget, maybe she needs some guidance. Do you really care for her??? Good Luck.
2006-11-10 01:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't marry someone because you're infatuated with them, you marry them because you love them. That alone is a reason not to marry this person.
The other issues...well, aside from the eleven year age difference, any ONE of the other issues would be enough for me not to marry her!
Don't be stupid...back away for your own good. That's what I reckon!
2006-11-10 01:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY. The age difference, bipolar and kids doesn't bother me and I could get over the debt if we loved each other. However, if there are others on the side and it's not a one to one relationship I wouldn't be interested. If you are happy to share that's up to you but, personally, I would run as fast as I could! Can't you just be friends?
2006-11-10 01:18:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋