I met this wonderful guy about 3 weeks ago?

Question

The thing is we dont get to see much of each other, We do see each other on the weekends, I have two kids there 14 and 15. There doing good in school and my daughter is getting a sports scolarship and well he wants me to pick-up and move to his house. He has a 3 bedroom house that he bought and says he wants to make my life easier. But I dont want to just move my kids like that. We have been living in the area for 5 yrs now and my kids are so settled. I told him my kids come first and i cant do that to them. He is very understanding and is willig to wait. Buts hes 48 and I am 44, do you think this will work out? I dont want to lose him.. We are very fond of each other and we are happy? But I afraid I might lose him... Any advise??? The Idea of being alone again is just to painful.... I was alone for 5 yrs untill I met him.

Answer 1

You said it yourself, your kids come first. If he can't deal with that then he has to go. Secondly, three weeks? That's moving a little fast don't you think? At least date him six months or so before you move in with him. You're both mature adults, you can work it out.

Answer 2

You are considering moving your most precious possessions in the world to a house with a man you have known 3 weeks!!!!! Are you crazy? If you lose him because your kids come first then he wasn't worth it. Your kids SHOULD come first. You had them, now raise them right and safely. When the youngest is 18 then you can do what you want no matter how crazy. Get to know this man a little more. Like at least a year. Maybe he will offer marriage and that will change the playing field. m

Answer 3

I would sit down with all of you and talk about the pros and the cons of moving in with him and see where it goes.Maybe your kids want to move and the scolorship can still be used ,maybe you could drive your kids to school ,maybe they want to live with him ,this affects all of you and should be a decision made together.