English Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português 繁體中文 Bahasa Indonesia Tiếng Việt ภาษาไทย
All categories

I'm 14-year-old girl.I have a boyfriend(he's 21).We usually have sex two or three times a week(at his house).We never use condoms(he can control himself) but recently I felt sick some times and I made a test.The test says I'm pregnant.My boyfriend and I love each other very much and we both want to keep the baby.I don't know how to tell my parents.My boyfriend is ready to take care of the child while I turn 18.He even offered me to go to live with him if my parents are mad with me.He works and has a big salary,he is able to take care of us.How do I tell my parents about that?I don't want to move house yet but if they get mad,I will.Any advice please?

2006-11-10 00:13:16 · 14 answers · asked by Zara F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

14 answers

Sweetie you are 14 and he is 21, you know what that means. Just sit your parents down and tell them you have something to tell them and you want their help in deciding what to do. I had to do the same thing when I was 15 but my boyfriend was 17, that is a big difference. We got married and lived happily ever after, well for 21 years anyway. Good luck and God bless

2006-11-10 00:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by flip103158 4 · 0 1

When you inform your mother: a million. Stay calm two. Write a letter should you have got to three. Make a plan previously four. If you intend to maintain the being pregnant, be precise approximately the long run. Explain the way you’ll conclude college, furnish for the youngster, and so forth. five. Bring a supportive buddy or relative alongside 6. Tell her first--don’t allow them to pay attention it someplace else 7. If she freaks out, depart for a little and are available again later. Hopefully they'll have calmed down a little bit Telling your mother you're pregnant is likely one of the toughest matters you'll do. You might consider scared, ashamed, embarrassed, frightened, apprehensive, or depressed. You might consider like you've allow them to down or that she's going to in no way forgive you. Please recall that it doesn't matter what their preliminary response is, this response will absolutely difference through the years, should you keep a degree of adulthood and keep calm. Just make certain that you're making a option approximately the being pregnant BEFORE you inform them and don’t permit their stress of that of alternative household individuals difference what YOU desire to do, even though they lay a few heavy guilt or disgrace onto you. This is your frame and your option and eventually, YOU would be the one to manage it, now not them. Just keep calm, keep targeted, and get ready your self for some thing lies forward.

2016-09-01 10:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow, I saw this one and had to answer. Everyone is saying that your age difference is a big deal. When I first met my HUSBAND I was 14, he was 22. I miscarried when I was 16. By the way, I'm 20. And where I come from, the legal consenting age is 14. When I first started having sex, the legal age was 16, and I was your age. So, with that said, research your laws and find out what the legal consenting age is. My brother and his girlfriend had a baby when they were both 15. Sweetie, you can do this and it will be an uphill battle. Your mom and dad will be a little upset in the beginning, but will get eventually realize the fact that you have a baby. I agree with the women who said, DO NOT scream and yell, even if they do. Stay calm. Good luck.

2006-11-10 02:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Does your parents know about this boyfriend? Obviously they will be quite mad with you if they don't.
Come straight out and tell your parents, they brought you into this world and will love you no matter what.
You are quite young though and pregnancy at your age is going to put alot of stress on your body.
Is is nice to know that your boyfriend is very supportive.
Just remember no matter what I don't think your parents will disown you. THEY LOVE YOU!.
Tell your parents you are willing to bring this child into the world and your boyfriend is willing to help you raise this child and give it all the love and cuddles the baby needs.
As I said your parents won't get mad, but maybe you should consider moving in with your boyfriend for the babys sake.
Also remember if you want to move in with your boyfriend you might need your parents consent because you are under the age of 18.
Another thing pregnancy can happen even though a man doesn't ejactulate in you, pre-ejaculatory seminal fluid can get you pregnant and you should have really told your parents you where having sex and you needed birth control pills. They would have really appreciated that you told them, but at the same time would have probarly given you a lecture of why you want sex at such a young age!

2006-11-10 00:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tell your parents the truth. THen they can throw the boyfriend who is raping a 14 yr old girl in the eyes of the law, in jail. Then, you can adopt the baby out to a family who can offer both parents who are of age and married. Then you can move on with your life and feel good about the decision to turn this ship around and make a blessing for the child and the family who adopts him. And for yourself......

2006-11-10 01:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0 0

um sweetheart...don't you think 14 & 21 is a big difference in age?? thats called rape pretty much u may not think soo but your parents will...you can't have a baby when your 14!! think about it your basically a baby yourself. pulling out doesn't mean your not going to get pregnant....hello!! did you have sex ed in school yet??? you haven't even grew up yet have a life first and finish high school then have a baby....your going to regret it & thats a promise trust me i know way too many people who had babies when they were young. if your goin to tell your parents you better be ready for some bitching...and hope to god they don't call the cops on your "boyfriend"....do they even know you have boyfriend & that he's 21???? anywayys good luck

2006-11-10 01:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by s S 1 · 1 0

How and why did you, a 14 year old, get involved with a 21 year old?

Withdrawing before ejaculation is not birth control as you have found out. That was very irresponsible of you both.

Do you realize that even having consented to sex with this man he can be imprisoned because you are a minor?

You need to tell your parents as soon as possible. Today. Waiting is not going to make it go away, get any easier, or make it better.

Tell them now.

2006-11-10 00:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

first of all what the hell is a 21 year old guy doing with a 14 year old girl. i am sorry but that is just wrong. that is illeagel. you arent even of age yet. do u not realize that he could get into trouble having sex with u since u r so young. i am sorry but that is wrong for a guy that age to be with a girl so young. and second of all what the heck r u doing having sex, u r only 14 years old, u r still just a baby your-self. sorry to be the one to tell u this but i can tell u right now that u r in for a battle with your parents. i know if my daughter did that, i would be very pissed off. i feel sorry for your parents , because they have no idea what is in store for them. i think u need to start thinking about other people, but i guess its to late for that.

2006-11-10 00:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by greengrass 3 · 2 0

I'm 16 and my boyfriend's 18, we're in the same situation pretty much except you've got a long time to go before you are legally an adult. The best bet is to just come out and tell them and hopefully everything works out, if your parents don't approve of your boyfriend's age he can get in trouble but your parents can't make you live at home once you're pregnant

2006-11-10 00:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Please sit down and talk with your parents and keep an open mind. Always remember that they have your best interests at heart and although they may be mad with you initially they will calm down if you give them at bit of time to get used to it. Dont make any rash decisions and if possible stay at home because at the end of the day your parents will always love you.

2006-11-10 00:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Medusa 2 · 0 0

fedest.com, questions and answers