How do I tell my parents I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm 14-year-old girl.I have a boyfriend(he's 21).We usually have sex two or three times a week(at his house).We never use condoms(he can control himself) but recently I felt sick some times and I made a test.The test says I'm pregnant.My boyfriend and I love each other very much and we both want to keep the baby.I don't know how to tell my parents.My boyfriend is ready to take care of the child while I turn 18.He even offered me to go to live with him if my parents are mad with me.He works and has a big salary,he is able to take care of us.How do I tell my parents about that?I don't want to move house yet but if they get mad,I will.Any advice please?

Answer 1

Sit them down and explain to them that you were careless with birth control and now you're pregnant... Keep in mind that since your only 14 there's no way that your parents are going to be happy about this.. Just listen to what they have to say.. Let them yell at you.. They have a right to.. Once their done just let them know that you don't believe in abortion and/or adoption and you're going to keep the baby... Look, give them time to get used to the idea... They are not going to be happy... But also, for you... Make sure that you're ready.. You are only 14 and that's young to make such a big decision.. Listen to your parents.. They know what's best.. Good luck

Answer 2

Way too young to first of all be having sex, especially sex with a 21 year old man. I would have to wonder what a 21 year old man is doing with a 14 year old child seriously??? But you need to tell your parents right away and go to the doctor, dont make any drastic plans right now just go with the flow. but the longer you keep it from your parents the more you are gonna stress yourself out about it, but if your parents dont know that you are dating a 21 year old guy depending upon their feelings on that cause i know if i was 14 dating a 21 year old guy my mother would beat my a**!! so be prepared if they are anything like my parents there might be other troubles, has he ever heard of statutory rape?? yeah that is punishable by the law. my advice to you is that if for some reason this turns out to be a false alarm or even if it is not and you are pregnant stick by your parents and let them help you because that guy may or may not be there for you but your family will be there for you. i hope this helps a little

Answer 3

1. Go with your most favorite family relatives to talk to your parents. It might help keep you cool and your parents cool.
2. Get to a support group or plannedhood to discuss all your options.
3. Get a thermometer check and what your boyfriend wants to do check. Do you love each other and want to be married? Do you both want to just be friends now? Does he want to be be responsible for a girlfriend and baby until you both turn 18 or 21?

4. He is guility of statuatory rape. He better get himself some legal assitance because he will go to jail. He might get minimum security or an anke bracelet unless the court lets him marry you OR at worst 20 years and will be a child molester and may have to see his child in 20 years with court ordered supervison!
5. If you take off, your family can have you both arrested. You are not an emancipated minor and it doesn't excuse his or your behavior. You need legal, medical, spiritual advice and a plan. Get help NOW!

Answer 4

Wow, sweetie I think you've gotten yourself into a bit of trouble here. I'm not judging okay, just replying to your question. First, do your parents know you're dating a 21 year old? If they don't because he's 21 and you're 14 they can get him in a Whole Lot of trouble, like jail/prison because you're under age. So if you guys haven't thought of that you really should. You really just need to talk to them, I find when I try to plan out what to say when it's something big, I never remember what I wanted to say and it all just comes out so maybe you should just go for it, tell them. I really hope this turns out okay for you because you are so young you're going to face a very difficult and different life now. Good luck I wish you all the best. : (

Answer 5

First of all your boyfriend could possibly go to jail for statutory rape secondly the guy is 21 years old and in the long run you have to think about if your relationship will pull through dont forget he is more experienced than you are in the real world. If you are going to live with him you have to make sure your priorities are in order, your only 14 years old and you have just ended your young life its time for you to grow up and become a parent. As far as telling your parents, dont be afraid, your parents will love no matter what, but you cant blame them if they freak out a little bit, You just have to bite your tounge and do it. Whatever you do DO NOT PROCRASTINATE IT WILL JUST MAKE IT WORSE

Answer 6

Does your parents know that your boyfriend is 21? I can't believe that a 14 year old child is dating a man of 21. Men can't control it! It only takes 1 to get you pregnant!!So don't ever believe that.You have no choice now but, to tell your parents-you are already pregnant. I will tell you one thing if a 21 year old was dating my 14 year old daughter he would be in jail ASAP!

Answer 7

Well you can kiss his big salary good bye because he wont make it anymore sitting behind bars? Do you know what satutory rape is? You are a minor and he is considered and adult and can be charged with RAPE. So by you messing with him you messed your life up, his life up and the poor unborns life up. I hope you are happy because its going to be a long hard road for you and the sad part is a 14 year old shouldnt be having these sort of problems let alone having sex. If you were my kid damn straight Id press charges on the dude and your little rear end would be on lock down until you turned 18. Your stupid and this is why KIDS shouldnt have sex. One other thing also if he is charged with satutory rape he will be listed as a sex offender and would not even be allowed to be around children including your child. Godd work that is using your head

Answer 8

first of all i want to know if you are an only child. next i would like to state that when i was 14 someone in my grade had the same problem she told her parent without the father in the house and they were mad at first, but then after they cooled down they had a long hard talk. all i can say is that you got yourself in this situation and you are the only one who can get yourself out. this girl that i was talking about wasnt an only child she had an older sister and she told her first and the two of them broke the news to her parents together. now i have to say that her boyfriend was 16 so they were closer in age, and what your boyfriend did was illegal.

Answer 9

OK I'm 16...years old I'm pregnant as well.2 months..and it is really had to tell your parents that you pregnant ...but the sooner you do it the better..because all that stress that you have over how you should tell them is not good for you or your baby....OK but on the other hand your boyfriend is 21 and your 14 that is illegal not for dating him but for having sex with you...and he probably go to jail but that is really all up to your parents...so what you should do when you tell them is have him there with you...and tell them together...and if your parents kick you out of the house...it will be for just a while...that they will be mad but once that baby is born they will love it so much trust me...so don't stress your self out...and i wish you the best of luck and congratulations...!!!!

Answer 10

Do your parents even know about your boyfriend? Do they know he's 21? I don't know how you can handle this situation properly. You are only 14 years old, just a baby yourself and you are about to have a baby. I would talk to your parents about it, possibly have your boyfrind come with you. If both of you love each other and your parents know that you are dating him, maybe you two can get married with the consent of your parents. Just take it one step at a time, but I would certainly be honest with your parents! They'll eventually get over it, especially if they are about to have a greandchild! Good luck and God bless! Play it safe!