In December, but they finished as he found out about her cheating with his mate, twice... He said he doesn't want to be with her... But he will be a gread Dad.. I'm not going to get silly about it and make him choose between his baby or me, as that is just selfish and childish... I will give him all the support and love he needs and I want to help out with the baby if he wants me to...
Why has he kept the baby quite though? As I was speaking to one of his other mates the other day, (not the one who his ex slept with) and he didn't even know about the baby, and him and his mate are real close, and also some of his family have just found out about the baby...
Do you think he's scared of this whole baby thing? He said he's not ready for it yet... either way, he's guna be a gread Daddy, I just wish it was me having his baby... Maybe oneday though :)
2006-11-09 23:10:30 · 12 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say that perhaps he feels a bit embarressed making a baby and leaving the woman while she is going through the pregnancy alone. that does not mean that he should stick around in a relationship that sounds doomed ,as it will not help the baby in the long run.
it's great that you are willing to be part of the baby's life ,but you will need to remember that it is not just his, there is a mother who quite possibly resents your presence a bit. so as romantic an idea it is to love a new born baby ,he might be thinking ahead of complications, especially if him and her are having communication problems. perhaps he does also think that a paternity test is in order before giving the news to family.explaining this to family and friends can be difficult if they have known the ex well,and he may be scred of being judged.
2006-11-09 23:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably many reasons, she cheated, he is probably not sure that it is his baby or the other mans. And he may really be in shock about the baby. I am sure he is having a great deal of feelings with this. Even if he found out she cheated well after she got pregnant, who knows how long and who the baby belongs to. Being in love with someone and in a committed relationship at least he thought so, what a blow. Just keep silent and do not make any negative comments about the situation. That will only make you the bad guy! I'm sure this is a shock for you as well. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-09 23:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be one of two reasons
1 he could be scared about becoming a father like he says especially as it was obviously unplanned
2 he may not want everyone to know yet as he is probably doubting if the baby is his or not as she cheated on him and he doesnt want to be judged as the bad guy for walking out when she is pregnant.
im glad your thinking sensibly about the situation making him choose would be unfair and will only back him into a corner more.
all you can do is continue to be there for him and to give him your love and support. give him some space and dont talk about it for a while he will talk when he is ready.
good luck
2006-11-10 02:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just concerned about you. He may feel that the baby may disrupt his relationship with you and that you might think that the baby is an intruder. Allay his fears by been there with him and showing him love. Talk to him and tell him that you will support him all day way. he actually needs your support and understanding and that can account for the reason of his quietness.
2006-11-09 23:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... this kind of ethical situation question ! I guess the husband cares. And is torn to proceed helping her ! Sympathetic sure.... i'm, however the question is to the husband. He needs to pass on. He sounds like his integrity is in tact... and held authentic by way of all of this ? if so... i think the undesirable Karma could rightfully surpassed to the x- spouse. She had administration in the relationship.... yet in no way thinking the consequences. She sucessfully stayed married. Sucessfully had an affair. Sucessfuly trapped the hot lover and now... she unsucessfully has NO scientific wellbeing coverage. i could decide to declare. Her experience is over. she would be able to in basic terms ought to artwork problematic and parent issues out. solid success to all of them. this is going to all artwork out.
2016-10-21 14:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to put it like this...BUT if she's cheated twice...what makes him think that the baby is his...if i was to get pregs to an ex...then i would tell him straight away and not keep it from him like she did....they should get a DNA test to see if the baby is his before hes too attached....your a nice girl by standing by him, so if this is the case and the baby is not his...you stick by him and support him in every way you can...bless you.........x
2006-11-09 23:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him and sopport him in everything about the baby and i think he love you to help out cause he 's gonna need it you also have to be patient as half of his time will be on the baby and not you thats something u will have to accept will you be able to cope with that.
2006-11-09 23:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he kept quiet about the baby because he fears it might not be his, if she was cheating on him he might feel there is a good chance it isn't. I would advise DNA testing to be sure
2006-11-09 23:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jane S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him let him make the choices for his baby what involvements he wants in the baby,s life does he know if the baby's his for sure if she cheated
2006-11-09 23:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by SHAUNA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like to be tough and in control, i think he just got freaked out.. remember the 5 steps, denial, anger, regret, bargaining and then acceptance.. watch out for those..
2006-11-09 23:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by chickyboo222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋