my best friend and husband have 2 small children 4and 6.She came to mr and toldme he is having an affair with a 13 yo he is 33. He told her if she tells anyone he will takes the kids off her and dissappear with them and the girl. She also told me that he does not love the kids because they are apart of her. I informed the police and he was charged now she is not speaking to me because I split her family up. We have been best friends since kindergaten and we are both 32 how can I get her freindship back?
2006-11-09 23:07:54 · 19 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
YOU ARE A HERO!!!!
Give her some time to deal with this. Her trust in others is gone. she needs to find herself again. She will come to see the truth and wow that a lot of truth. Send a card , call just simple reminders that you are still there for her.
2006-11-09 23:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. He is a pedophile and who knows, one of the kids may be next. He obviously needs help and somewhere along the line your friend may realize that what you did was out of your friendship and concern. Her family was already split up; it just had not fallen apart yet. Given time, it would have broken apart. Eventually she will understand this and thank you, but right now she is in a state of shock over the whole ordeal.
Do not turn away from her as a friend; she needs you now more than ever.
2006-11-10 07:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the 13yr olds parents are grateful.Your friend needs psyciatric help if she thinks you did the wrong thing,what might have happened to those kids and the girl if you haddn't done it.She and the kids have got to be in a better environment without him.She should have been a responsible parent and reported him.Be patient and keep trying.
2006-11-10 10:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by sue m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks that keeping a pedophile in the same house as her children is more important than your friendship? Why on earth would you want to be friends with someone like that? You did the right thing. You protected that 13 years old (please don't ever call that an "affair"), and you possible protected her kids. You did the right thing. You don't have to "earn" her friendship back.
2006-11-10 07:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by just browsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing in my eyes it is always a hard situation to get involved in with sensitive issues like this one.you should try to explain your side of the story a little and listen to your Friends feelings but if you think you did the right thing then stand by what you did maybe one day she will understand. I'm sure she knows that you where only trying to be a true friend.
2006-11-10 07:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by ozzychik1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing telling the poilce. I think maybe you should give you friend some space for a bit. If she doesn't come to see you after a week or so then maybe you should go and see her and explain why you did what you did. Your friend should come around in the end. She will eventually see that you did the right thing.
2006-11-10 07:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Laura1993 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you did the right thing, she is just hurt and lonely now that he has gone, as it has become a reality for her when before she could pretend that it was not happening. Give her time to come to terms with losing him, and in the end she will realise that you only did it because you love her. not to spite her.
2006-11-10 07:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by bikbokkop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant force her friendship back. If you have been friends as long as you say you have, she will come round and realise it was for the best. You sound like really good friends, and freinds like that will always stick together whatever happens. Heres a poem i found:
Friends are forever whatever you do,
Even if you have a bad arguement or two.
Friends are just like family which means their very close,
They always mean alot to me but i dont mean to boast.
I dont know what else to say but friends are just like dice,
Try not to loose them for the consiquenses aren't nice.
ps. when the poem said dice, it means if you loose dice in a game, you cant play anymore so the consiquenses are not nice
2006-11-10 07:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't bother trying for the time being. If she feels that you "split up her family" by doing the logical thing, both to protect her kids and the girl he is molesting, she is obviously blaming YOU for his problems. She may change her mind and she may choose to stay blind to who really split up her family. Let her know you love her, and you want to be there for her and let her come to you after that.
2006-11-10 07:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will realize that what you did was best. Which it was, even if it lost a friendship. You saved that little girl and you saved her kids from potentially being abused and molested by him. What you did was what you needed to do. Tell her that, tell her that you couldn't stand by and have this happen.
2006-11-10 07:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋