for the past 2 months my partner hasnt been very well and last weekend he was realy bad he tried to committ suicide and his brother took him home back to his parents as we live together but anyway he is still with his parents been there all this week am trying to get him to come home and all i get of him is i dont know when i will be back and am worried i have lost him for good i keep in touch but he doesnt his parents wont let me speak to him half the time am in the flat on my own worrying and to make it worse i have no money he said he will put some money in his credit card for me to use all i want is for him to come home but his parents wont let him he is 30 years old and listens to mummy and daddy have i lost him for good or will he be back cause am realy upset and feeling depressed as i dont have any family near by so am compleatly on my own i love him so much.
2006-11-09 22:50:37 · 9 answers · asked by baby dust for me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the flat am in is his he is paying for the mortgage it is due to depression and stress we dont have any problems his parents blame me for his illness wich isnt true maybe i should kill myself i dont want to lose him.
2006-11-09 23:21:38 · update #1
could you possibly write him a letter? asking what the hell he is playing at,,if you are supposed to be a couple,,living together ,i would find it totally normal for you to have gone too. as this isnt the case you should at least be given the respect a co-habitting partner deserves,,this is very unfair and it has to be said,,childish on his part,,he has run away like a child in new trainers after the icecream van.ask him to call,or write,any form of communication is to you ,preferable to being shunned by his parents and left completely in the dark. if you and he were just dating it would seem this was his way of ending the relationship because there would be no contact then also but you and he live together and with this decision comes responsibility,he owes you an explanation and his parents have no right to stop you from talking to him UNLESS,he has asked them not to put calls through,at 30 years of age he should speak for himself,,depressed or not.try to sort some money yourself because if he says he will send some and then doesnt after you are relying on it and then it doesnt happen the slump you are in could get worse.for the minute,,,think the worst and it can only get better.you need to get some answers and for that he needs to get in touch,,if he doesnt,,YOU call it a day because this is no way to be treated,,you considered this a partnership and he has abandoned you and that is unforgivable.all you can do is try but dont take this from him or his family,,they are being selfish,disrespectful,thoughtless and downright rude and to be honest,,it seems likely he has told them things that possibly are not 100% true so he can make a clean break.for your sake i hope he calls but if not,,pick up your lip,,wipe your face,,throw out his stuff and get a room mate for the time being,,self preservation is a must and why should he be the one to make you crumble after running away like this.
2006-11-09 23:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be some issues that you are not aware of. I would give it some time and let him try to work some things out. You can send him letters or cards to let him know that you are thinking of him. As far as you not having money, is that the REAL reason why you want him back? Maybe you need to get up and get yourself busy and get a job. If you already have one, get two.
2006-11-09 23:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your partner needs some help. To be honest with you I think that you might be better of without him, well at least until he gets himself sorted out. I know that might sound selfish but being with someone in his situation can be very worrying and nerve-wrecking. I know that leaving him would be a hard thing to do but in the long run it might be for the best, especially if hes going to take his parents side over yours all the time. His parents are being very selfish, they should understand that you are worried and want to know what is going on and were you stand.
2006-11-09 22:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about Yourself! Get out there and get some type of job! Anything! Believe Me it will help some. sure Your BF has some problems, and maybe he'll come to his senses, But in the meantime there needs to be food on the table, and a roof over Your Head! So wake up! And make an effort to do something to save yourself while You still can. I'm not saying to give up on Your bf, not even! But the longer You wait the harder it's going to be for You to recover. Get out there. I just bet you have some type of education or useful trade to make ends meet until you have an answer to your other problem, and besides who's going to take care of you if You cant do it? Good luck sister!~
2006-11-09 23:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by patrick s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your partner isn't feeling well and WAIT he tried to commit suicide!!! Why are you worried about your self? You need to get a job and take care of things at home. NOT PUT PRESSURE on someone who is weak and is danger of hurting himself.
He is where he needs to be right now. He is feeling safe. You need to be STRONG RIGHT NOW. Get a job and when you do speak with him, be positive and share what you are doing in helping to keep things at home. Show some understanding,love and respect.,
2006-11-09 23:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he tried to commit suicide because of his and yours personal problems then i guess that something is going wrong in his mind and now if he is not giving you much time then this doesnt mean that he will never come back.at the same time you dont know whether he will surely come back. hmm i will suggest that just wait for some more time and you will come to know what is going to happen and if possible go at his home and try to solve your problem by talking to him and his parents. and if things does not work out then you will have to engage yourself in some work or job to earn for your living.all the best.
2006-11-09 23:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to plan a future without him. Obviously he just isnt ready for a commitment. As far as his family controlling him, i dont believe that for a minute. I believe they are just doing what he has asked them to do when you call. The guy is 30 years old......far from being a young vulnerable kid. He wants to break things off with you and has convinced his family to help him.......period. Therefore, i say get on with your life and plan a furture without him........good luck
2006-11-09 23:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't mean to be harsh, but if you speak the way you write perhaps you should check some of your communication skills. Reading your spiel it sounds like you don't stop to breath when you are speaking. (you used no punctuation). You need to let him sort himself out. give him a chance to breath, even if you don't feel the need.
2006-11-09 23:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Alice H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH I THINK YOU SHOULD GO BACK TO WHERE YOUR FAMILY IS BECAUSE, I DON'T THINK HIS PARENTS ARE GONNA RISK LETTING HIM GO BACK TO YOU.YOU SAID HE TRIED TO COM MITT SUICIDE SO I THINK THAT HIS FAMILY IS GONNA TRY TO KEEP A CLOSE EYE ON HIM FOR A REALLY LONG TIME. AND MAYBE YOU ARE THE REASON FOR HIM GOING BACK TO HIS FOLKS. JUST BE DONE WITH HIM AND MOVE ON. GO BACK HOME TOO UNTIL YOU CAN COME UP WITH SOME CASH TO MOVE FORWARD.
2006-11-09 22:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by misskashmere 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋