We we friends for 10 years! She knew I still cared about him. He was someone I knew for 20 years. I turned him down years ago because he was married to a friend of mine. She finaly told me, 3 weeks after my Moms funerial that they had been seeing eachother. I have not spoken to her since.
2006-11-09 22:26:20 · 10 answers · asked by DangIt Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know, I agree with the others, forgive her girl! Maybe she just thought it was going to be a fling, and it ended up being more. Men come and go, good friends are few and far between. Keep her, at least she told you instead you catching them playing kissy face, you know? Sure you are super pissed now, but there IS a reason why she was your best friend in the first place right?
2006-11-10 12:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there really to forgive. Your best friend is happy. You turned him down YEARS AGO. that was your decision, your Morales, your beliefs. You have known him for 20 yrs and why wouldn't care about him. What is it really, is it because he didn't make more of an effort to show you he cared, and wait til you were OK with being/wanting him due to your friendship with his ex wife. Your best friend really did the right thing, in telling you and not waiting for you to hear it from someone else. Be mad if you have too. But then deal with. Talk to your friend, Is it worth losing her too.
2006-11-09 22:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm...you have not spoken to your bestfriend eversince the day you knew she was dating with your ex...How do you know that it's not only a friendly date? Besides...you've mentioned that this ex is already married to another friend of yours...maybe the reason why he became your ex...isn't it? If you are really your friend's bestfriend...why did'nt you make a move to have a talk with her to know the real score between her and your ex? Aren't you doing an injustice to your bestfriend here? Try not to make any conclusion first...unless you have found out the truth. It's kinda making a mountain out of a mole hill on your part. And anyway...how can you consider yourself her bestfriend if you're only thinking one way...and helloooo))) don't forget that this guy...is already your ex.... Taken for granted that they are romantically linked with each other...it's not your problem...but your ex's wife problem. She has all the legal rights to feel that way...not you. Think clearly...for if you keep on behaving that way...you will not only have an ex-boyfriend...but an ex-bestfriend as well. Cheer up...and move on!!!
2006-11-09 23:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by dimma59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE KNEW IT WAS WRONG, BECAUSE SHE HID IT FROM YOU. YOU WERE GOING THROUGH A TERRIBLE TIME IN YOU LIFE ALSO, WITH YOUR MOTHER, WHICH SHE KNEW IT EVEN MAKES MATTERS WORSE. A BETRAYAL BY A MAN HURTS ENOUGH, THERE ARE MANY MEN OUT THERE, BUT TO BE BETRAYED BY ANOTHER WOMAN...SISTERHOOD, THAT IS THE ULTIMATE. YOU HAVE TO REALLY DIG DEEP WITHIN, ASK YOURSELF SUCH QUESTIONS, IS SHE WORTH IT, WAS SHE THERE FOR ME THROUGH THE YEARS OF HARD TIMES LIKE I NEEDED HER, CAN I REALLY TRUST HER, ANS SO ON. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME AND YOU WILL DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU. BUT, REMEMBER, IF YOU RESOLVE TO KEEP CLEAR OF HER, YOU WILL HAVE TO DO THE SAME WITH HIM. WHAT KIND OF MESSAGE WOULD THAT SEND, IF YOU DIDN'T FOLLOW THROUGH. GOOD LUCK, KEEP IN TOUCH.
2006-11-09 22:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by brxny2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been friends for that lond yes it might have been difficult for her to tell you but you two have been friends for ages so she should have told you. if you want to talk to her just listen to what youre heart says because all those years must have meant something for you
2006-11-09 22:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are still together then do yourself a favour, get away from both of 'em.
2006-11-09 22:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he got married he doesnt belongs to u anymore...// so never think of him ...// don loose ur friendship for t sake of dating
2006-11-09 22:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by logu - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should. friend r hard 2 find best friends r harder.
2006-11-09 22:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it easy, don't be indifferent- treasure your friendship
2006-11-09 22:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by dadithz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no its so unfair i think its better to forget about him!!
2006-11-09 22:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by nariman r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋