the first one you are dating becos of xtian affinity, even though you have never been for a second attracted to him. but you still date him anyway becos everyone seems to think he is the perfect one for you and he also proposed to you on this ground that he's been led to meet you as he is your God's choosen hubby. the second guy, also a xtian, but is more honest with his approach and walks up to you that he likes you and he falls more into the man of your dreams, but then, you already gave the first guy your word that you would marry him. please what would you do?
2006-11-09 22:21:21 · 9 answers · asked by wittybaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let the first guy down gently. You shouldn't marry someone because other people have told you that he's 'right' for you, you should follow your heart. The second guy definitely sounds a better bet, if you are attracted to him. Marriage is about love, not what you can get out of it.
2006-11-09 22:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by livingthelie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you get a ring?
stay with the one who gave you a ring.
if both did, then go with your heart.
fyi- many guys propose with out a ring and its bs-
it takes a lot for a man to commit to marriage and to be able to afford the things you'll need
So although you might think that the hottie is hot,
Look fade FAST- Even yours my sweet.
Ultimately if the real deal is your not ready for marriage YET-
Then just don't set a date, and next time you accept a marriage proposal, make sure you are ready to commit, heart, and soul.
and FYI- I had a freind who accepted a proposal, then she met a guy and left the first one-
then the second guy who she thought was gonna be mr right actually said he was just rying to get her to sleep with him and ever actually thought she would have given up her fiance.
\And that wasn't until about 1 1/2 years afterwards and the romance was dead.
by that time her other guy was heading for the alter with a dear friend of hers, she decided she would try to get him back, and he decided she wasn't right for him afterall.
So be Careful and speak to your parents.or an older married couple- not young unmarried people.or newly married.
Don't ruin things without thinkging about the full effects.
Good luck.
2006-11-10 06:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the first guy to go away and go for the second. Everyone else can't decide who's best for you. Only you can decide that . An you would hate to be married to someone you don't love and always be thinking about the other man. thats not fair to anyone.
2006-11-10 06:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by redsnowykitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is already laying in your heart ! ask yourself also who will be the most faithful , the caring and if you don't truly love the one who has the answer to those questions , i would advise to wait. i would marry not the sexiest , but the one who will love me in return an realize what a life commitment really is.
2006-11-10 08:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the first one bcos u should marry the one who can take care of u and cares for u. also first commitment is always to be honoured.
2006-11-10 06:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second guy whos more honest and whom you really like. Get real and go for what your instincts tell you.
2006-11-10 06:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by funnysam2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me get this straight...you want to stay with someone you have no attraction for because you gave your word...a lifetime is a long time to keep a promise you have to work to maintain.
2006-11-10 06:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OPEN YOUR EYES GURL
MARRIAGE IS VERY DIFFICULT.
DONT MAKE ANY CHOICE YOU WILL REGREAT LATTER.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
2006-11-10 06:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by helpmegetaname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP WORRYING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK, LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE!
2006-11-10 06:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by brxny2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋