I am anti abortion, the very thought fills me with emotional terror, I have two healthy boys and I am now 5 weeks pregnant with a third, I dont know what to do, I am so confused. It will be an emotional and financial strain on my family if I keep it and I am 38 but I cant bare the thought of termination after having 2 children, what right do I have to kill the third? Is the very thought considered selfish? Please help
2006-11-09 21:50:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry sweetheart but only you can answer this. good luck though
2006-11-09 21:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I'm thinking:
Since you're anti-abortion, if you had an abortion, your emotions would plummet head-first into the ground for going against your principles and that would hurt your family way more than having the baby.
However, if you have the baby and keep it, it definitely will put emotional and financial strain on your family as you say... but I'm thinking the emotional strain will be less than that of having the abortion. Then again, I don't know about this difficult relationship you have... or how bad your financial situation is. But, people have made it through when they didn't have a lot of money.
If you had the baby and put it up for adoption... well... I can't say what would happen; it's a gamble. Either they would get adopted by a good family because they're very young, or they could stay in the state's custody for eighteen years and move from one family to another in that period of time, going through a lot of emotional stress themselves...
It's your decision in the end. It's a difficult decision... Anything can happen; chances are there are more paths to take or one of these can go into more detail, but... I'm thinking having the abortion would give the most negative impact on you and your family... Find an alternative if you think the same. You have some time...
2006-11-09 22:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Calm yourself and take a deep breath. This baby is a gft and even though it is a shocking one it still is. Things may be tight as far as money and time go but you are a mother and this will be a walk in the park for you. At 38 you have been there done that so most things will be auto pilot and you have two sons to help out. Hopefully they are good boys and will not give you trouble over this.
Thinking about abortion is probably normal considering our society now and how it is pro *me* but along with you I do not consider this a viable answer, each child has the right to life.
Talk to friends and family and get a support network up asap. You'd be surprised at the help you will get.
And congratulations! A new baby is a joy.
2006-11-13 21:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given the fact that it is not a good time for this baby and you are under alot of strain and you are surprised by it all, then you shouldn't be giving yourself a hard time for thinking about abortion. I think everyone who finds themselves pregnant when the time is not right, must consider it even for a few minutes. It is a normal reaction. How does your partner feel about it? I think you should have the baby but make sure you have the support - emotional support you need to get through it. You will always cope financially - in the past, poor families wth lots of kids always managed. It means you will have to share more and the two kids you have will have to be prepared to settle for a little less. I hope you will be ok and that you make the right decision for you and your baby. The best of luck to you all.
2006-11-10 12:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by cherub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're anti-abortion, then if I were you I'd have the baby and keep it - try to bring the baby up as best you can. I'm sure once you see him/her you will fall instantly in love and will do your best to find a way to manage financially and emotionally. There is never a perfect time ot have ababy but we cope.
I'm not at all against abortion and I don't see it as a matter of "rights" - if its the right decision for you then go for it. But if you're anti abortion then forget it because you will just feel guilty afterwards.
You're not too old at 38, my mum had her kids at 36 and 42 and she did fine. I'm expecting my first and I'm nearly 35.
As for adoption I dont know how anyone could carry a baby for 9 months, give birth and then hand it over to strangers like they're rehoming a puppy. I couldn't. There's no way I could ever give my baby away, I'd turn myself inside out in order to keep and take care for my little one rather than give him/her away!
2006-11-10 08:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take All The Bad Feelings your Feeling right now,multiply it by
Infinity Take it to the Dept Of Forever and You'll Still Barley Get a
Glimpse At what you will feel After you get an Abortion!!!!
Once a Woman Becomes Pregnant Her Body Is No Longer Hers
It Belongs to the Unborn Child
2006-11-09 22:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by redshadow_666 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was 37 and thought I had the flu- LOL-now I can laugh about it! I about fainted when I found out- I got over it - and I had just gotten divorced- and I made it- and had 3 other kids and no support-I think you will do fine- the shock needs to wear off- count your little blessings- they will keep you young!!! she is now in school and quite a young lady! There are no accidents- Congratulations- D
2006-11-09 21:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello! Have you considered open adoption? It sounds to me like that would be the best option for you! I can tell you really love your children and you want what is best for the new baby. This way you wouldn't be murdering your baby and you would bless someone else who is unable to concieve on their own. As an added plus, an open adoption means you can still have contact with the child throughout his or her life! If you need someone to talk to for support, please feel free to instant message me! angels_among_us7777 and by the way Sarah, the child wouldn't be in foster care for 18 years because if you go thru an adoption agency they place the baby right away. Foster care is for children who's parents either abandoned them or had them taken away for neglect / abuse.
2006-11-10 03:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have already got the answer ....
Good luck ...
If we all thought about it too hard we would never have kids at all .Lets face it .... . Its always a struggle , but as you know from the eperience , its not going to kill you ... It will be a challenging life experience ..
2006-11-09 21:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by blogmart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have no right! Just because the law says you have the right, YOU will have to live with murder......this is an innocent baby, no matter the strain on your finances......keep the baby and look int his/ her eyes after he/she is born and realize the miracle of life!
I have five kids, talk abut financial strain>>>you can do it! Re happy God gave you this last chance to give birth and raise your new child to enjoy life and the miracle of life, money or not!
2006-11-09 22:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
How could you be shocked? Weren't you there at the sex???
Calm down, talk with your husband about your fears and know that everything can be worked out. Of course, you wouldn't kill your baby - just look in to the faces of the two boys you have! Go see your doctor and get referred for counselling.
2006-11-09 22:30:13 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋