for over a year now i've been obsessing about him and can't seem to get him out of my head. it's better but for 5 months it was 24/7. i haven't told anyone, not even my buddy and especially my wife of 25 years, but it's affecting my marriage and job and i'm getting depressed over this. he's a handsome, fit and successful guy. I put a question mark by str8 because who knows about anyone's sexuality unless they tell you. this started happening about 2 months after meeting him and hanging out last fall. what's going on in my head? we haven't had contact of any kind for almost 6 months and i plan to stay away. there was no sex involved. i've never obsessed about anything in my life. i'm 48 and also successful, fit and told i'm good looking. my marriage is "ok" after 25 years. no sparks flying.
2006-11-09 21:50:10 · 11 answers · asked by Chad S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because your marriage of 25 years is "ok" doesn't mean you can't have a strong attraction to someone you describe. People change throughout their lives and it sounds to me like you're gay.To reiterate, that you have spent a pleasant 25 years with your wife says no more than this time has been tolerable. If you're saying (sounds like you are) that you've been feeling earth shattering passion and obsession about your married friend, it's fairly obvious.
2006-11-09 21:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok First Str8?
GO BI-
Second if you never had relations with eachother than he is Str8.
Lastly, If you wanna stay married then you need to get over this, but if your wife knows about your gay tendencies why don't you intro duce some Sparks, but Buying some but pluggs, and vibrators. ECT,..
Tell her they are for her, and make sure to use them on her.TOO
If she isn't game then just slowwly create the Ambiance and don't tell her about them. Keep them hidden under the Bed and blind fold her. and you should know the rest. If not check websites and or email me directly.
As far as the other guy, he is not into you that way, but its more likely your mentally using him as a surrogate than actuallly , cheating.
I say this because you choose a man that your attracted to but isn't interested in a relationship- you did this because you like the Idea of Gay sex with out , cheating and without, the stigma
Curious? Come on, most gay folks will tell you, GAy gay all the way, and as far as the rest of us
When we are picturing a woman going down on us it doesn't mean we are gay, we know that a woman would be able to sexually gratify us exactly the way we wish our spouses could do it.
And same goes for you.
just try new stuff, and there is no need to bugg her out if she is not that type of woman, just light the candles give her a gift, silk scarf for a blind fold, stimulate and then penetrate( with the vibrator,) Honestly ALL women love vibrators. and with the blind fold she can say or think or pretend , and the embarrassment isn't there.
Besides why would there be sparks if you are obsessing over some guy who doesn't want you?- And If you've told your wife your gay, then she could have suspected something, and if not then its just as I've said your ashamed of your gay NESS.
Hey Just try this out, It'll work. And atleast you'll both be getting the sex you've wanted for a long time now.
PS PORN - its always good, If she's blind folded then she won't see what your getting excited over., But hopefully your honest with her and explain what you desire. then the sparks will be flying either one way of the other-
Hint: Don't go saying your inlove with someone else. Just FYI!
Good lUck
Meg
kovasmomma@yahoo.com
2006-11-09 22:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a midlife crisis. At the age of 48 it's high time you had a heart to heart with yourself and admit that you're attracted to men. The fact that you're married doesn't make you straight, it's just adding to the confusion at this point.
2016-03-28 01:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as str8/bi curious, you suck off men your gay. The fact that your married is bad enough but now you want to sleep with a friend who is married. Might as well put on some short shorts and go to the truck stop bathroom. Accept the fact your gay and get a divorce before you end up giving your wife some nasty std from one of your hookish partners!
-NmD!
2006-11-09 21:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are not straight. Do your wife a favor and either divorce her and go your way, or get counseling to overcome these urges. Obsessing about another man is not healthy.
2006-11-09 22:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A straight man doesn't have these thoughts. You are gay. Don't embarrass yourself by approaching this man- he's married.
2006-11-09 22:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has crush's but sometimes it is more...be true to your feelings. I'm not sayng cheat on the person you are currently with but....are you really still happy with your partner?
2006-11-09 22:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you contact me at NotToExpressive AIM or YIM? NotToExpressive@ AOL or Yahoo.com?
2006-11-09 23:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know how curious one is until they tell you... you are correct about that.
Well, until then, and this is going to sound crude, but you can take care of things in the shower, by yourself, while thinking of him doing things to you.
you are human... you are going to be curious... don't sweat it.
thank you for your honesty. :)
2006-11-09 21:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy, dude! Call Dr. Phil.
2006-11-09 21:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋