Aren't thin guys with long feminine hair bothered by being mistaken as a girl?

Question

I noticed there's a lot of teen guys lately who wear their hair in feminine styles no different than an attractive girls hair style. Some of these guys are very thin, present themselves as un-masculine, some wear tight clothes in a way some girls do. Surely many are straight & probably attract many girls because of their feminine appearance.

Point is, clearly if a guy is attracted to certain feminine aspects of girls, like their pretty flowing hair, dainty bodies, etc, that if a guy has those traits & you see him from a distance, if he looks feminine enough because of the angle your seeing, he will look like an attractive chick for that moment. Some guys you can't really tell until you see their face, chin & forehead, etc.

Question is, don't these guys feel strange when other guys mistaken them for pretty girls (even some girls do) at first glance because of how they present themselves? Is supressing maculine appearance to attract girls worth it? Isn't that kind of degrading?

Arlene66 - I think your misunderstanding the question. I didn't say it was degrading to be a woman. If thats what I thought, then I wouldn't respect women or even find them attractive.

If a guy truly feels like a woman & desires wear womans clothes & become a transexual & attract other men, I don't think thats degrading because he really does desire to be a woman. He's doing it for the right reasons. But if a guy is feminizing himself, & his appearance just so certain girls will feel safe around him enough to date him & find him attractive, that seems degrading because he thinks he's suppose to hide his masculinity for other people in order to be accepted.

It's similar to the degradation of a women who believes she should hide her body under baggy boyish clothes so her man doesn't feel bothered by other men finding her attractive.

You should be able to be who & what you naturally are. You shouldn't feel you must hide aspects of yourself (like your masculinity) for appeal.

Atropis - Ofcourse people like you would assume I'm basing this on illogical and contradictory ideals.

You say I'm basing this from a base system of the gender dichotomy. Your completely wrong. You shouldn't assume anything so quickly..

I'm basing this on my natural experience as a human being, not based on what this society says.

I used to be slightly like these guys. I changed my hair to be long twists (I have kinky hair) to attract girls. They liked it. The more they gave me attention, the longer I let it grow. Then at some point I realized that guys were mistaking me for a girl. I also learned that girls liked my look and guys with it because I look "safe", not very masculine, I looked more close to them and they felt secure that way. I felt degraded because inside I felt like a man, a tough guy, but people saw a dainty little boy or a chick.

I learned that many of these girls use guys like me to control.......more said below...........

They used me because they had always just got out of a relationship with a bad boy, so they figured it'd be easier to be with someone like me who they could tell what to do all the time. It took me a while to see it but I did eventually. I learned these girls didn't care about me, they cared only about the "nice guy" image and treatment I gave them.

Being treated like that, by women, and being seen as girly by guys, was degrading and untrue to who I am inside, so I cut my hair and made my appearance be what I felt inside with is more true.

I see a lot of other guys today who are very extreme with this appearance and "sensitivity" attitude gone too far.

I learned that you shouldn't have to dumb down your masculinity to attract girls. You should be yourself. I've met many other guys who went through the same thing.

So no dude, I'm not basing this on a fallacy. You've got the wrong guy.

Answer 1

I cannot answer for guys, but I know that I as a woman do not find long hair and delicate features to be at all offensive. (In fact, I can really appreciate a beautiful person, regardless of which gender they are, or which gender they remind me of.)

Why is it considered 'degrading' in your book to be a woman? Masculine traits are not superior to feminine traits, and the masculine gender isn't superior to the feminine gender. The both have examples of handsome and/or beautiful people.

Answer 2

Perhaps they have a less rigid view of gender than you do. You're first operating from a base system of the gender dichotomy, which is an utter fallacy. You're furthermore making assumptions as to WHY these male-bodied individuals present themselves as such ("to attract girls"). You'd have to ask each individual, but the point is, there's LOTS of reasons people present the way they do; it makes sense to reach the conclusions you do if one starts at your starting point, but that starting point is awfully shaky.

Answer 3

ew? if you really wanna be a girl that bad, just get a sex change. i hate guys like that. however, if youre a drag queen, thats another story..

Answer 4

hahaha