well, hear it goes. myself and a guy became great buddies. we shared alot of good confidential conversations. but our feelings developed into something more. he said that he feel in love with me, and vice versa, but i later found out that he was messing around with someone else, and i asked him and he finally told me. i asked did he fall in love with her too he said no. we shared alot , i hope he didnt use the ole ookey dope with me. well our tour here is almost over and were going back home, well, i stopped talking to him, and i miss him, he hasnt even asked me why im not speaking to him, why ? when we were together, it felt so right, but it was actually so wrong. why did he shun me out.?
2006-11-09 19:21:05 · 5 answers · asked by lovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He may be realizing what he'll lose with his wife and family by going too far with you. Or, if you already have, he may fear being found out. Maybe he doesn't really want that kind of commitment with you, but thought it a great relationship to have a wife AND a girl on the side, but if you're hinting at all about leaving your husband or hooking up, that probably freaked him out if he wanted to continue just a fling. This could also be the reason for his messing w/someone else - they're the backup fling if your's is falling through. He may be relieved you are giving him the silent treatment, as it's his 'out'.
Miss him all you want, but don't pursue this relationship any further. It's the best thing you can do for yourself and your marriage! Especially if you know he's got another person on the side BESIDES you - that is just a player and no one you could ever trust if the two of you ever got together. Also, if he cheated on his wife with you, who would he cheat on you with if you become his wife?
Take it from someone who knows - you'll regret all of this one day when you look back on it - especially if it ruins your marriage. Forgive him, forgive yourself and let it go!
2006-11-09 20:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing stopping a married man falling in love with a married woman and vice versa. It's a question of how long these relationships could go and how much the man and woman involved in it can handle. Married people are also surrounded by temptations and their feelings of love and even lust for a person outside their can begin anytime. Well, coming to the guy you are talking about, I think he has not been really sincere and since he knows that you are returning home soon he just wants to put an end to his relationship with you. I don't think you can find anything meaningful in your relationship with him. You are married and you have a family waiting for you. Get back and move on. You'll find peace.
2006-11-10 03:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he likes to listen to vulnerable women..... something a married man shouldn't do. By doing this he made himself available. A vulnerable woman, like yourself, should only talk to another woman about her problems.... because by talking to him-you made yourself available.
Why did he "shun" you out? He loves his wife no matter what... he is just trying to be nice to willing and lonely individuals like himself. You were not the only woman with problems.
2006-11-10 03:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Snap out of it. I thought it happened to me too. But you have to realise that there men out there who like to use our weakness to manipulate our feelings. FORGET about him.
2006-11-10 04:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Apricot Brandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time but i dont think married people should let it happen...
2006-11-10 05:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋