I am 24 and my hubby is 30, we've been married for 2 months. We have a great sex life, but the problem is that i hv not had an orgasm so far in any of our love making sessions. He is too good at bed, we indulge into long foreplay about 1 hr long, and then the final act, it lasts for about 15-20 mins. But still i am not able to climax. He's very caring, and feels bad about not being able to make me ***. I really enjoy everything he does to me and am extremely satisfied with it, but he says that in long term this condition might affect me, so he desperately wants to make me ***. I don't want to fake orgasms and lie to him, coz i am very uncomfortable with it. But i really want that i may orgasm just for his satisfaction. I also feel that i am a bit less active on bed compared to him. So plz tell me what can i do in this situation, is it pssible for me to do smthing extra to reach an orgasm. Also, we hv tried various positions but we both feel most comfortable n intimate in missionary.
2006-11-09 18:41:45 · 9 answers · asked by just_got_married 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
so you are really normal. it can be often hard for a woman to reach her climax. it is really more mental for women. women are actually more likely to reach orgasm when they are on top, but most women reach orgasms by stimulation other than in actual intercourse. i suggest clitoris stimulation either through oral or with some "tools" such as a vibrator. also, the more you think about it & stress about it, the harder it will be to have an orgasm.
faking orgasms is just a bad idea to begin with. it will only hurt your sex life.
your husband is sweet that he wants to please you so badly. i suggest just enjoying the sex & BE more active in it. get on top & get involved... and just enjoy the intimacy & pleasure even if you don't get off! it will happen, but just give it time!
2006-11-09 18:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women with similar problems in attaining orgasm have improved significantly after taking EvaMax IV. It has been effective for women who report difficulty in achieving orgasm. EvaMax IV allows women to experience more pleasure during sexual activity after increasing sensitivity to areas of the female genital that are important in sex. The clitoris becomes ‘erect’ and more sensitive while the G-spot engorges, making it easier to stimulate. The vagina will become warmer and lubrication will increase. EvaMax IV is essential for women who are sexually active and would like to get the most out of sex. It works by:
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(3). Balancing the testosterone-estrogen ratio for better orgasm.
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2006-11-10 17:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by lignebur72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try oral sex--have him go down on you until you ***--or you could help the orgasm along when it is getting closer--I like to get it right there and then turn over and get it from behind doggy style and I play with the clit while he is doing me from behind--also you could try creams get good and wet and keep you legs tight around to create more friction when he thrusts-- but the best way by far is to have him go down on you--you are just nrevous and having a hard time letting yourself relax and let go and if you are focused on cumming the whole time then you arent letting yourself enjoy i know htat sounds weird but i mean you have to let go of the worrying and have fun and it will happen and dont be afraid to join in and help him make you ***
2006-11-10 02:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by worriedmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of women dont orgasm during sex an sadly to say i am one of them.. I can only have a orgasm when my husband goes down on me..
2006-11-10 02:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try using a vibrator when alone and this may give you a kick and orgasm which will help you when you are having sex with your husband. What you need is intiation.
2006-11-10 03:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by rafiki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear something you feel that is extremely sexy. Have more mirrors in your room. Drink more wine with dark chocolate or cheese bites.. decorate the room, watch one sex movie together in the room..then follow by whatever you all usually do. That may help :)
2006-11-10 02:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cool Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it might be something subconcious that's preventing you.perhaps a psychologist or sex therapist to help?
2006-11-10 02:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to 'oh for ohio' 30 million american women are unable to ***.
so you're not alone!
2006-11-10 03:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
clit must get involved
g bod must get involved
you must be relaxed and not thinking about failure
2006-11-10 03:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Martin the baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋