she told me this morning in a txt message not to wait for her, she said that I should forget her, though I've already emaled her and said no I'm going to wait for her to fix things and to sort herself out, and that because I love her I aint going to forget her...
anyway considering that she has a major problem at the moment in her life and we love eachother why did she do this?
ideas?
Mitch
2006-11-09 18:18:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Continue to be her friend if she'll allow it. Let her know that you'll wait as long as it takes for her to get her life straightened out. Also remind her how much you love her, and as stated you'll NEVER forget her. She probably did this because she doesn't want to burden you with her problems and is probably feeling very depressed at the moment. If she loves you, she eventually see how strong your love is for her and want to continue on with you forever. Good luck!
2006-11-09 18:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to your own question. Maybe she just wants to find herself because she got too far ahead of her self. She could have found some other guy that she thinks is ten times better than you at the moment. I'm not going to blow smoke up you. Sit her down and talk to her. Give her your heart and soul and don't let her go without giving it 100 percent. If she still acts like she needs time... give it to her, and do not dwell on it. Stay active with sports, reading, dating casually or whatever you need to do rather then ponder the worst. Do not sit at home at cry your eyes out. Please don't give up man, if you love her don't wait for answers, find them. In ten years you want to look back and tell your self that you gave it your all and no matter what results come there wasn't any regrets.
2006-11-10 03:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Pzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she has a lot going on in her life right now, maybe she doesnt want to be bothered with a boyfriend right now. That doesnt mean you should give up on her. She can always use a friend I'm sure. Try to just give her some space but let her know that you are still waiting patiently for her to return. Maybe she feels like she might not be able to devote enough time to you and thinks that you dont deserve to be treated that way. Just try to be a good friend to her right now and I am sure things will be ok.. Just give it some time. Good luck.
2006-11-10 02:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mitch you can not make someone love you or be as you wish evenif you love them fiercly.
It sounds like she is blowing you off.
She may feel you are better off without her or she may want to be without you.
Sounds like she may have too much baggage to deal with anything or anyone else.
If she truly loves you, she will try to work things out and be with you no matter what.
Try to use logic rather than emotions and maybe there is answer resolvable to this or you may have to move on.
It takes two willing though.
2006-11-10 02:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what the problem is. If it is a problem that won't be dealt with any time soon or that could possibly affect you she could be trying to set you free because she doesn't want her problems to ruin your life. But without knowing the actual problem no one can give you an accurate answer. For exmple if the big problem is that she is married and was going to leave her husband and is having big problems leaving him it is likely that she won't leave him and didn't truly love you anyways. But if it is a psychological problem the first answer could be a possibility or it could be that she feels she doesn't deserve you.
2006-11-10 02:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think shes doing this to hurt you..if this is a big problem and you told her she needs to sort things out to get things together I really don't think she wants you too...maybe she wants to know that your always be in her corner even through her hard times.... doesn't want to be a burden to you with her problems...it could be a lot for her to handle and needs a little space
2006-11-10 02:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by JustCurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this problem life threatening? if so, keep a close eye on her.
if not, let her go...although it may be tough as hell, it is the most honorable thing you can do for her and you at this point. there comes a time in everyone's life when being alone is necessary for growth and understanding one's self. just let her know how much you love her, then let her go...
I also must stress the importance of LEAVING HER ALONE to deal with what she needs to deal with...
she'll be back in touch with you when she's ready, believe me...
2006-11-10 03:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by mr E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Maybe she feels that she wont be able to focus on the issue at hand or that she will neglect you during this time. I believe that she is seeing or testing to see if you will stay or support her. If in love, then she is really crying inside. She most likely saying one thing but wants another
2006-11-10 02:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really didn't say what she did??? Maybe she just needs space to fix what ever problem that came up?? I mean if it was meant to be she will come back. You might need to step back for awhile and give her breathing room to think or sort it out.
2006-11-10 02:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by cnacyn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look like she is trying to kick you to the curb meaning the side line, so forget the feelings you have and not waste no time catching the bus.
2006-11-10 02:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋