Hi,
I have a crush on my school buddy. We had crush on eachother when we were in school, but we didnt spoke a single word at that time. 3 days back we met online and now only sending some formal emails. I still have a crush on her. But she is married recently. what should i do..should i tell her or no....has anybody gone through such scenario..Plz answer..need serious advice..
2006-11-09 18:14:16 · 19 answers · asked by knoppix4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But nowdays she is also started showing interest in me but is not telling me directly..then what should i do..
2006-11-09 18:39:29 · update #1
So..should i tell her that i want to be her friend and should not give any hint of crush ?????? Please explain
2006-11-09 19:15:50 · update #2
I just spoke to her online and found her that she is happy with her new relationship and is enjoying life. Why should i wreck her house and I dont know, what will she feel when she will hear that i had a crush..., i am good looking guy, i will get millions if i want to make an affair...rather then getting serious and destroying 3 lifes... Thank u all for giving the answers.
2006-11-10 08:05:09 · update #3
Man you better not listen to these women and let her know how you feel or you will go thru life wondering "What If".
2006-11-09 18:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't enter a maze in which you cannot solve. She is married and committed. At least respect that fact. What if it is the other way around and you were the husband? How would you feel? Remember Karma, what goes around, comes around. You are free to meet someone who is unattached. I know you have all the qualities of a gentleman, you will be able to have someone who might be even better than the married woman and whom you will be able to love freely, without any restrictions and with your whole heart. So forget about her and await the love of your life. I can assure you she is just around the corner.
2006-11-09 22:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very cofident when you write that you two had a crush for each other. Then what went wrong?
In any case, you should have taken certain steps at that time only.
Now, as she is already married and probably trying to overcome that 'crush', it would be better that you leave her happy with her present situation.
Go find someone else...
2006-11-09 18:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ifs a crush and she is your friend you should walk the walk slowly. First you both must know that any relationship is a dead end for both of you, and she should know that she is going out of her marraige, what is the end u can acheive, if it is a short lived fling two mature adults go for and can handle it well its their choice. But if you want to be serious then you should really be sure what you are going into and if it is worthy it, if you still believe so then you should follow your heart.
2006-11-10 23:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by abbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your friends choices in life. Her choice was to marry someone. I don't know if she has any kids. Sounds like she doesn't. Keep away. Be her friend, don't turn it into something else. If she really wants to leave this guy and you two are an item, it should be after the fact, not before.
2006-11-09 18:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kaiya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to gain by telling her about your crush. You and she potentially have something to lose if you do... you could lose your pride by telling her (esp. if she rejects you). If you tell her and she expresses interest then SHE could lose her marriage (which will also affect her spouse and any kids they may have). Online correspondence does not a relationship make!
Leave your crush in the past where it belongs unless you want to risk the humiliation of being rejected or the moral mess of being a homewrecker.
2006-11-09 19:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having a crush on her. Go clubbing or do some sports. N dont tell her you have a crush on her when she has just got married. Give her your best wishes.
2006-11-09 18:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cool Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really sad, cause you see she is already married, and you would be too selfish if you would break a good relationship apart, if you really love her you would give her up, and not try to meddle in her life, let her be, you also deserve someone who would be completely yours, love yourself too, dont try to break them apart, many people not the both of you would be devastated, and besides you only have a crush on her, it will pass soon, dont do anything serious or foolish
2006-11-09 18:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard when you have feelings for someone (especially when they are married). but trust me it will only bring you heartache. suppress the feelings you have for her, and find someone that can commit to you and only you. she is doing her husband wrong. you dont want to be a part of it. how would you feel if you were the one married to her and she was doing that to you? i promise you, if you continue this you will regret it in the long run. you seem like a nice guy. there is someone out there just for you. go find them and forget about her. good luck!!
2006-11-09 19:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweetthang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a crush on your buddy even after her marriage is not good as well decent.
2006-11-09 21:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋