Why is it so hard to let go of a man who is wrong for you and that treats you badly?

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Answer 1

Because you are D!ck Whipped.

Answer 2

You obviously love this man and that has everything in the world to do with it. However, you must love yourself More!

I speak from experience and I'm asking the very same question. I find that the standard answer I'm getting is low self esteem and fear of being alone. Who's self esteem isn't damaged at the end of a relationship? And of course it's a bit scary to think of the changes life holds in our future if we let go of what is comfortable. Neither of these things are long term. The fears we have today are not always the fears we will have next year.

Time heals, it's not easy but you can do it if you love yourself at least as much as you love him. In time, you will realize you are Valuable without him!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Becuase some women have this subconsious idea that they deserve what they get. Other women feel that they don't deserve any better. While others feel that they will never find anyone else. It all depends on the woman and the situation. Some women just want to be loved and feel that even if their man is not nice to them that he still loves them deep down. In some cases the woman thinks that if they just love their man enough he will change. I think this occurs quite regularily because women by nature like to fix things. And fixing the man in our life is something that I think every woman has done or will do atleast once in our life. But we can't fix someone who is too dumb to realize he is broken so there is no point.

Answer 4

Possibly because of your loss of control over your own self-worth. Your guy has got you, in other words, addicted to him and his behaviour.
This man, your talking about, probably blames you for everything that isn't going right for HIM in the relationship, and when you try to " fix it ", he changes the rules and he still blames you. It's come to a point where you can't seem to make HIM happy, and you feel so miserable about it and your afraid you'll lose HIM to someone else. If you try to talk to him about how he treats you, he gets mad or accuses you of criticizing him or he just treats you with indifference.
It's no wonder your so disillusioned and feel so helpless. You've come to a point where you don't know what to do about the relationship.
Like I've always said, there is no easy solution when you find yourself in love with a guy whose way of relating to you is abusive and destructive to yourself and your happiness.
But whenever you let him determine your self-worth, you bring it on yourself and if you ever hope to regain a measure of your self-esteem back, you will have to break off with this guy.
If you feel that you don't truly deserve to ba a happy, satisfied, or treated as you should, just stay where you are. When you assume all or most of the blame for things going wrong or sour, in the relationship you feed your own sense of inadequacy.
If the cost of stayin in the relationship with the guy, be prepared to endure recurrent, painful, depressions, what a terrible price to pay!
God Bless in whatever you decide to do.

Answer 5

It is hard to leave this man because you don't love yourself- or have enough self esteem to let go. Then a vicious circle gets started because a man that treats you badly will lower your self esteem even more. You need to draw up all of your strength and end this relationship or you will never be happy. You can do it.

Answer 6

Men who treat women badly are very clever. You can't help thinking that there's some truth in the nasty things he says - so before you know it, you start to believe that you're not good enough to attract a decent man. So you start thinking, if I don't hang on to this guy, I'll have no one.

Bullsh*t! You are so much better than that. I know it takes courage to be alone. I know you don't want to be lonely. But it won't be forever. There ARE good men out there and you ARE good enough for one of them to love you. Take your courage in both hands and get going now!

Answer 7

I used to have difficulty understanding this, until I experienced it myself.
The reason why you accept these bad people is usually due to the fact that you have a poor opinion of yourself.
You feel as though you are not worthy to be loved and respected, and so, you attract people who are bad for you and treat you poorly. Your self-esteem may be a little damaged and you cling to others for approval, but instead, you cling to people who put you down and treat you poorly. This is easier for you to accept because you believe the lie about yourself.
Try working on your self-esteem and say to yourself" I am nice person and I have the following good qualities _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
and I deserve to be treated in the same way with respect, diginity and love.
good luck! :)
Remember, God dosn't make junk and you aint junk!!!

Answer 8

monik: "Letting go" is difficult to do for the same reason a wife will remain with a man who slaps her around. She has become "trapped" emotionally and feels no sense of self-worth. The main difference between a successful relationship and a abuse one is the successful one has both partners willing to love one another unconditionally. The abuser in a toxic relationship controls with fear, doubt and worry. Plainly; seek out the right guy for the right results. Remember; by hanging around for the abuser to "change one day" will be a waste of time because there's a 100 % chance he won't ! He will remain like that until he dies. There are plenty of decent guys who will love you for who you are and won't abuse you ... so why tolerate abuse from your guy ? Before you know it, you will of aged somewhat, and you will find it harder to find someone. Give yourself the choice of moving on before he beats on you and throws you out ( maybe hurt you bad) ! Good luck to you !!!

Answer 9

It's b/c you don't think you deserve better.
Also some people are so resistant to change that they'll put up with a bad situation that they are familiar with than an unknown that might be better or worse.

You only get treated as badly as you allow yourself to be treated.

Answer 10

As stated above, you are co-dependent on him in this relationship. He is a "loser" and knows just how to keep you dependent upon him. For instance, he'll call you bad names, or ignore your needs, or embarrass you in front of your friends, or worse yet not allow you to have any friends, talk bad about your family, and perhaps beat you. AND then to keep you in line, he'll apologize for it the next day and say how much he needs you and loves you, and how you mean the world to him. His goal is to separate you from all your loved ones (family and friends) so you'll be completely at his mercy. You need to leave him ASAP. For he'll never ever change. Find your self-esteem, learn to love yourself, for you are very special in ways only you can be. No one else is quite like you. God made you for a purpose. And the longer you are in this relationship, the worse it will get. It will tear at your heart and soul until you find there is no purpose in Life. PLEASE leave him. There is so much help out there for single women or single mothers. So many organizations out there to help you get back on your feet. Good luck!

Answer 11

It is not hard to leave a man. We as women are raised and taught to believe that we cannot make it on our own as a woman. Well if that's true, then stay with your Dad.. I don't think so. Women today are stronger and more independent than most men can handle and if any woman tells you differently then she is in a shitty relationship with kids and has no ******* clue of what makes a woman happy... God bless the single woman with choices..