is it bad?

Question

is it bad to let your 2 month old baby cry themselves to sleep??

Answer 1

YES! Crying it out is unecessary and cruel. Even the baby training gurus like ferber do not recommend this treatment for babies as young as yours. I highly recommend getting "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. Its a life saver!

Answer 2

No. I couldn't do it for the longest with my first then by the time I did he was too spoiled and would only sleep in my arms. I let him cry for over an hour on several occasions but it didn't work. Then when he was 2 and I had another I was in trouble because he couldn't sleep without me and If I put him down he awoke at once. In the process of trying to work that out I learned. I rocked and rocked my crying newborn and she just wouldn't go to sleep. I put her in the crib so I could try to get him to sleep and by the time I walked out of the room she was only whimpering and was asleep within a few minutes. She had to cry herself to sleep. It only took her about 2-3 minutes but it was the only way. My fourth child took about 10 minutes but would never sleep in my arms or my bed. You try it now and see how it works you may be pleasantly supprised. If it doesn't work after a bit go try something else. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Yes! Do whatever it takes to soothe the baby. This could have psychological effects as well as it could make the child develop problems later such as hyperactivity and behavior problems. Post-parnum depression is very common for you at this time as babies this age have irregular sleeping habits which causes severe exhaustion. My advice is that when you feel this way, that you have to ignore the baby, then you should have other family members there to help you cope. There is no need for you to feel bad about this because it is normal. But there has to be a stronger support system for you at this stage and until the next few weeks when the baby starts to settle into longer sleep periods. The baby will start to sleep longer probably around 3 months and then it will be less demanding. So try to hang on until then.
My advice is to try and set a routine environment for the baby. Have lights out at a specific time, a peacefully humming humidifier, avoid eye contact or loud sounds. Turn on a fan as that is relaxing and soothes the baby but make sure that the room is at a comfortable temperature. Put him into a swing or a comfortable carrier that he can relax in easily. The key is to create a secure and comforting environment. Laying beside him will also help him feel safe because he knows your scent and can sense your presence. He is likely to rest better this way. If you are nursing, prop yourself comfortably on a pillow and allow him to nurse -he most likely will fall asleep so if it is possible try to close your eyes and rest then also. It is a very natural thing to do. But my advice to you would be to never ever use the cry yourself to sleep method! It just isn't good in any case at any age in my book. When the baby is 4 or 5 months old start building the habit of laying him down by himself for naps. By then he should be ready to sleep on his own. Use the same familiar blanket, soft teddy, and binky each time as babies like repitition and consistency and it reminds them that this is nap time = familiarity and security. If your baby is crying constantly then there is a reaon for it. Milk based formula could be the cause of gas. He could be feeling sick or maybe doesn't like laying in a certain position. Also he could be feeling hungrier or needs more formula/breastmilk. Try everything you can but also take care of yourself and make sure to share your worries and feelings with family. You'll be surprised to learn that your mother/grandmother/aunt probably had the same struggles too! Good luck!

Answer 4

No matter what anyone else says, it is only bad if
a) no trauma is being done to the child and
b) if it's not putting you through undue trauma as well.

It is tough, but sometimes nothing you can do will stop the baby crying or get him or her to sleep.

If you feel upset, and like you might do something drastic (we've all felt that way at one time or another, trust me), you must put the baby down in a safe place, and walk away for a few minutes. Even if the baby is screaming. It is tough, but you need to regain some manner of control, for your and your baby's benefit.

"This too shall pass" <-- I didn't believe it, until it happened to me. It DOES get better, trust me. Good luck!

Answer 5

its up to u as the parent they say u cant spoil a young baby which i believe is true. in the beginning a parents role is to make ur child feel comfortable in the world and part of that is responding to all of their needs. they have spent so much time in the womb and this is all new to them just think how much time it takes us as adults to adjust to new things that we understand. babies dont really understand whats going on. maybe u just need a few hours to urself to regain some perspective. being a new mom is more time consuming than i ever thought and my baby is 2mos. old too. but i couldnt imagine letting him cry longer than it takes to make a bottle because i know that babies rely so much on touch in order to bond. now i cant tell u what to do and im not going to judge u but maybe u could wait until ur baby is about 6mos to start doing that. if u want him to go to sleep u can always rock him or push him in a stroller or put him in the swing. ur baby wont sleep long because he/she probably still eats pretty often and itll be less headache for u to just hold him/her. what my fiance and i did at first was let him sleep on our chest when we were tired because he was happy there and we could fall asleep and not worry. if u do let him/her cry themselves to sleep its probably best if u make sure he/she is full and has a fresh diaper. goodluck

Answer 6

yes he is still too young maybe you could start the crying out a 7 mos. old although if there is nothing wrong then dont pick the baby up right away just hold him in the hand and he is too young to be crying out for more than 5 mins.

Answer 7

Yes! It is bad. A baby needs to know that you are there for them.

If you always go to your child they will start to feel secure enough to go back to sleep on their own at around 8 months or later.

You should always be there for your child even at night

Answer 8

I couldn't do it, it probably wouldn't harm the baby but I couldn't stand to let my baby cry for too long but I am a softie

Answer 9

I could never do that with my childen, it is cruel. Try comforting your baby & puth them to sleep. The baby will feel loved safe & secure

Answer 10

Yes!!! It is not till four months that they can sooth themselves.