I am 6 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I want to wait to tell friends ,family & our children about it until about it for a while, until the risk of miscarriage goes down. My husband thinks I am being selfish & wrong to do so. Everytime we go around our familes he is making stupid comments or smerks at me and I pull him aside. I am glad he is excited but don't want to say anything just yet. Then tonight he came up with what he called his "master plan'' of giving the grandmas a ultrasound pic for Christmas, I don't want to do that because my sister in law has been trying to concieve for 2 years w/ no luck. So am I being selfish? Should we just tell everyone right now? Any help would be appreciated
2006-11-09 17:45:39 · 12 answers · asked by notAminiVANmama 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I miscarried our with my first pregnancy, almost 5 years ago & people still say they are sorry & bring it up. It really bothers me
2006-11-09 17:55:01 · update #1
If you are going to wait for your chances of a miscarriage to go down you are going to wait for ever. My one fiend had a miscarriage when she was 8 months pregnant. So, I would tell them now. The ultra sound card thing sounds like a really
good idea. Good luck and congrats. I am also 6 weeks pregnant now, so I know how you feel
2006-11-09 20:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think waiting till the risk of miscarriage goes down is a good reason to wait. If you were to miscarry you will need the help and support of your friends and family so why hide it. And don't plan on the unthinkable happening. That is no way to live.
I also don't see it as selfish because you aren't ready to discuss it. And I certainly would feel boastful in front of your sister in laws trouble so toning it down a bit isn't a bad idea
2006-11-10 01:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel that you want to wait, after a certain time than thats cool, I wouldn't want everyone 2 be all excited and then find out that you lost the baby, so you have every right to feel like you want to wait. And I dont think you are being selfish, you're just being cautious.....and congrats to you and good luck 2 ur sis n law........also my best friend and her hubby had been trying for 5yrs and no luck then boom.....she got pregnant.....so i believe its all about timing....and good luck to her and dont give up
2006-11-10 03:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by michelle_12482 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 weeks is still early. most people wait til at least 8 weeks, to ensure no miscarriage. i think the holidays are a nice time to share the information. if not christmas, how about thanksgiving? the family is all together. i know your sister-in-law may be sensitive, but im sure she will be happy for you just the same. i definitely think she'd want to hear the news!
2006-11-10 01:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by tma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy! Share the news. I have a friend that was pregnant and we all thought the baby was doing fine because she had 3 children already. But something happened and the baby was born 4 months early. The baby didnt make it, there's always risks even till the last day. Dont know if youre religious, but when they find out, tell them to pray for you and your baby. =)
2006-11-10 01:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by .:miss:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on your side and I think it's sweet that you're considering your sister-in-law's feelings. When I found out I was pregnant with my first child it was only 2 weeks after my sister had announced she was pregnant with her third. Kind of took away from our excitement.
2006-11-10 01:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by tgfann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly ok with what you feel. You should wait at least another 2 weeks before telling every one.
2006-11-10 01:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what makes you comfortable. If it's not for a few more weeks, it won't hurt to hold off telling anyone.
2006-11-10 01:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy. You dont have to rush if you dont want to. If it was me, then i would wait also, but im not you...good luck with your decision.
2006-11-10 01:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah...I'd say you should do what you want. But just be sure you you know what you might be getting yourself into. I don't think your being selfish at all...Just do what you think you should do. :P
2006-11-10 02:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Nate! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋