I have an interesting relationship with my ex. Since I moved out of the state, when I go to visit my kids, I stay in the house with them
(sometimes while the ex is still there, but of course different bedrooms). Now I pay a lot for child support and I split expenses on the house with my ex, so that when it is sold I can get half back. In addtion, since I prepare meals from the kitchen, sometimes i willl buy my ex take out food. My ex tells me that this is in exchange for "housing". Does anyone else have this relationship with their ex or am I justbeing a "nice guy"?
(I'll also do chores)
2006-11-09 17:41:24 · 15 answers · asked by pedidoc43 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this arrangement works for you and your ex, then good for you both. I commend you both for thinking more of your children in this case. This isn't an issue about being nice, this is about your kids seeing that their Mom and Dad respect one another. In turn they will be happier kids. What is wrong with that. I say more couples could learn from you both. And you also do chores,,what was your ex thinking!! Ok just kidding, but you guys sound like your really thinking about your kids and that is what is important.
2006-11-09 17:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there are any rules here except what makes your kids happy--you deserve kudos for doing something most divorced people can't pull off--that is, getting along with your ex well enough to stay in the same house for sake of kids. Don't sweat the occasional take-out or chores. There's no measuring cup small enough to make that stuff come out equal. Just think about what it's teaching your children about your priorities, how important they are, and how adults should behave.
2006-11-09 17:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by wizbet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When Your own Children are Involved(And You Love them)-Then 'YES!'!!
I have done that in the past when My kids were younger!
The Difference was My Ex made $$$$ considerably More than I used to-But I still paid everything I earned Out to keep My Children Happy!
It's paid off Now-My Kids are GREAT Adults and Love Me Back!
2006-11-09 17:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people WISH they had such an amicable relationship with their ex, especially since there are kids involved. It sounds like a bit of a trade off and I would just be glad you can be OK enough with each other to work together in any way. Your kids will one day thank you for it.
2006-11-09 17:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is convenience, not only for her but also for you. It helps that you used to like each other enough to get married and have kids, and right now, well, its cheaper and both of you are there for the kids.
People stay together in a patched up type of relationship for worse reasons. Id say that I admire the two of you.
If it stays convenient and liveable , keep at it.
2006-11-09 17:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are very mature.....I am quite sure this is for the sake of the kids....Its nice to hear that 2 people who can't make it together in a relationship can still act civilized.. I think it is great..and I think you are great also...you cook, you clean, you share the expenses.....Their aren't too many men out here like you...I guess when they made you, they broke the mold....Hey, you have a brother????????????? "YES" You are a nice guy and can you do me a favor ....NEVER CHANGE! ! ! ! !
2006-11-09 17:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by wndybcktt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend whos parents did this when it was time for visitations. you are a nice guy, but isn't it nice that you can get along with your ex well enough to be under the same roof without all the drama?
2006-11-09 17:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being a awesome guy but i think its good you two get along and you are able to spend time with your kids my husband had two children be fore we met and we get the kids every other holiday but i always invite there mother to our house and we do the kids birthday parties together and everything i think its important for the kids to know just because the parents are not together don't mean you don't have them both
2006-11-09 17:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda sounds like you all are married again.. Only in seperate bedrooms. Ask her when you all are alone if things have changed. But if you all are living together then quit paying the child support you can get them what they need and it sounds to me like you are supporting them....all of them/
2006-11-09 19:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋