My cousin is still 15 and just last week we found out that she is pregnant..who is the father she is not even saying...she wants to have an abortion ..is she mature enough to take such a decision ?..should her guardian decide for her? ..its a real issue we are having her ..if anyone has any opinion on it..please help
2006-11-09 17:37:11 · 36 answers · asked by Caroline J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
At 15, abortion would mess with her emotions so bad I don't think she will ever get over it to be honest with you. I would never encourage abortion so maybe adoption? If she finds someone to adopt her baby while she is still pregnant they will pay for her doctors appointments and anything to do with the pregnancy so maybe encourage her to look into that.
Plus, in most states the parents have to know if a minor gets an abortion I believe.
2006-11-09 18:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Little Miss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wether or not she is mature enough no one can really say. I wasn't "mature enough" or "ready" to become a mom when I got pregnant, but I decided to step up to the plate and accept responsibility. That's not the decision EVERY girl makes though.
But in the end, it IS her decision to make. She may choose to get an abortion, and if that's the case, I would strongly hope that her family would sit down with her and discuss all the possible negative outcomes of that decision. It is extremely possible that in the future she will regret it greatly. I have an aunt who once was in the same situation, and unfortunately for her she chose to get the abortion. Now, years later and after rasing 3 other children, she regrets it very much and still has issues dealing with it. She didn't have any parent sit down with her and tell her all the effects it could have on her though, which I think is very important in helping a kid make that vital of a decision.
Ultimately though the choice should be her's to make. But she's not incapable of doing it. My mom had her first baby at 14, and she did an excellent job raising him, and her mother helped her out very much as well. So it IS possible, its just up to her what she wants to do....
And just a thought, have her parents thought about maybe offering to legally adopt the baby once its born and raising it for her?? Just a suggestion they might want to throw out there if they really don't want her to get the abortion.
2006-11-09 18:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The trouble is she may need to get her parent's consent (or someone else's consent) in order for the doctor to perform an abortion.
She's young. She's too young to be pregnant. She's too young to decide on an abortion - and yet now that she's pregnant it should be her decision, even if someone so young shouldn't have to make this kind of decision. She created the problem. She'll have to deal with it.
What would be ideal is for her to make her decision (provided she's not too far along) and then tell her parent/guardian about the situation; so they can, hopefully, be supportive and give her the right kind of guidance about what to do next in view of the decision to get an abortion
There are girls who do get pregnant at fifteen and are sixteen by the time the baby is born. They need someone to help them in any number of ways, but some do it.
Nobody else should decide for your cousin. She is young, and she'll have to live with whatever she decides to do or not do, but she's the one who needs to decide.
2006-11-09 19:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no matter what the situation, a person should never get an abortion unless it is to save the mother's life. Abortion has many painful side affects. And after you get it, you feel guilty, and you feel so bad, you don't want to forgive yourself. The Bible says that children are a gift from the Lord. And if she could see the baby that is growing inside of her, who is very much alive already, she would decide agianst it. Even when you can't feel the baby, it is alive, breathing, his/her heart is beating, it's not like the baby is still an embryo, he/she has feelings emotions, how can someone murder a baby in cold blood? Yes, she shouldn't have gotten sexualy involved with a man when she is not married, but now that she is pregnant, she should go through with it, and have the baby.
2006-11-10 03:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello. Your cousin is at her peak age of knowing in her own mind of what she wants and doesn't want. The worst thing a parent could do is to force their child to do what they want. You must only strongly advise your cousin with out applying to much pressure on her, otherwise you will push her away and she will just want to go through this on her own. Your cousin should go down to the right clinic for her needs and just let them have an interview with her to tell her everything that will consist in an abortion technique. The interview usually takes about two hours and she will be seen by two doctors and given some leaflets about what an abortion is and how she can help her self.
Hope this helps.. RGN
2006-11-10 01:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Male-Nurse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy...I have a feeling you will be getting a lot of opinions on this question. Here goes my thumbs down...I say if she's not far along...she should have an abortion (not that it's for us to decide), but she's not mature enough to have a child. Geez...my bf's daughter is 15, I couldn't imagine her having a baby....she's a mature 15, but still a baby. I don't know...maybe I shouldn't be answering this.
2006-11-09 17:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure but I think her guardian has to decide for her. I think she should have the baby. Then the decision can be to care for this child or give the child up for adoption. Abortion should not be an option.
Just like she is not mature enough to be having a baby she is also not mature enough to be deciding what she is going to do about her pregnancy. Nor is she mature enough to be having sex.
This is not about the morality of having an abortion... It is about a young girl that is not at all mature enough to be making these decisions. She is not even mature enough to tell her family about the other irresponsible party... The sperm donor.
2006-11-09 17:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Todd Maz 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Before she were to get an abortion she would be required to speak to a therapist. At her age, yes she has the right to make that decision. she made the decision to have sex someone else can't make the decision for her to now have the child. age of consent does not come into play with this issue. your family would have to take her to court to demand her to have the child.. good luck with that. I find it funny these anti-abortion freaks thinking it's there decision. it's a personal decision not yours so shut up already.
2006-11-09 18:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's not yet mature enough to handle the consequences from an abortion. The guardian should decide for her. Shes not old enough to make her own decisions. I would suggest keeping the child in the family, or adoption. If you can, try to get in touch with the father also.
2006-11-09 17:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Abortion has lasting psychological (and often physical) effects no matter what anyone tells you differently. This girl is still a child and in all honesty she would be better off having the baby and making a responsible decision about what to do with it than opening herself up to even more trauma by jumping for an abortion.
2006-11-09 17:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Pepper 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋