weve tryed it b4 and she says it hurt when the head was just in.. so i stop, shes willing to try because she wants to make me happy.. i dont want it to hurt her because i hear it can be enjoyable.. what can i do not to hurt her... warm up? drinking?etc.
o and the finger in the butt thing is outta the picture she says
2006-11-09 17:35:31 · 12 answers · asked by whaddyado 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
ALCOHOL plenty of lube and don't forget to give her a reach around. Take it slow and tell her to relax. alot of foreplay wouldn't hurt before either. Easier if your both into the moment, so to speak
2006-11-09 17:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Guitarpix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key thing is just to be as relaxed as possible. A lot of lube is also very important. And she may say that using a finger is out of the question, but in my opinion, it can help. It kind of gets her ready, and will probably make it hurt a little less. Just go slow, dont try and rush anything. You could start by having vaginal sex first so that she's already relaxed and calm, then when she's ready slowly switch. But seriously, the key thing is being relaxed. otherwise it can be seriously painful. Good luck, and you're right, it can be very enjoyable. She'll get used to it eventually, it may take a few failed attempts, but you'll get it.
2006-11-09 18:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use a LOT of lube. Tell her to relax. It WONT work if she's all tense. Also, lol, I'm sure this sounds funny, but make sure she's got her system all cleared out.. lol, crap happens.
And go s l o w. Since this is only the second time, she isnt used to it yet. You will have to be very gentle. Also, the more frequently you guys do it, the more she'll like it. Just tell her to not be nervous. Much luck to ya =)
2006-11-09 17:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by .:miss:. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband always wanted to try this with me but I was too nervous so he let me put my finger inside him to show me that it really doesn't hurt. I figured that since he was willing to let me touch him that way I would give it another try, I was curious anyway. We tried it in a different position, it hurt when he tried to enter me when I was on my back, so I turned over on my stomach it felt a lot better. Because the anus is designed for one-way traffic, it will actually feel more natural if your girlfriend gently pushes to relax the sphincter when you insert, it sounds weird but it helps, good luck and don't force her into it.
2006-11-10 03:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by ml_lansing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to drink alcohol before, why do it? And if she wants to try it , it should be for both of you. Like other's said, the main thing is to relax and use plenty of lube.
But I think if your finger is out of the question, so should your d***.
Your finger is alot smaller and it usually helps to get anal sex started.
2006-11-09 22:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, buy her a few anal sex toys and give her time to experience. consider also your size as a pssible issue. use lots of lube, have her relax with one or 2 drinks.
listen to her. use your fingers first, be gentle and patient.
2006-11-11 06:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by mariecaroline43215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use some lube and ask the girl to be very relaxed, if a girl is tensed while doin it, the vagina becomes really tight and stiff kinda, and a fair bit of foreplay should help.
thnx
2006-11-09 17:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by AMIT G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone. your butt hole is designed for other things. For chistsake use your imagination & think of something to do that is natural & pleasurable
2006-11-09 19:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by flicflac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rub lot of baby oil on ur penis and and also inside her anus then try. also give her some drink so that she dont feel much pain when u do that
2006-11-09 20:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep trying and if it keeps hurting then stop and go try it with a man it mite not hurt him.
2006-11-09 17:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Tasia 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋