Just a few days ago my husband announced to me that he wants a divorce. Now the past few days I've been in and out of feeling really hurt and upset to the point where I feel sick to my stomach, and feeling like I'm ok. Is this normal?
2006-11-09 17:32:04 · 12 answers · asked by shenab99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no "normal" in divorce. Just allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel. Give yourself permission to grieve in your own way. It really is ok.
You will have a lot of bad times, and gradually it will get easier. I don't know if you ever get completely over it, but it does get better and in time you will get stronger.
The day the divorce is final is usually very difficult for us. You know it's coming, but when that day comes, the reality hits. Be with a close friend or family member that you can trust with your feelings. Give yourself permission to explode if you need to, or be quiet with your feelings if that's what you need. Take a long, hot batch, or go out with friends. Do what you need to do to get through this difficult time.
Consider yourself hugged......
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-11-09 17:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, the fact that you feel ok some of the time says that you may have been expecting something like this to happen. My husband left because he was having a midlife crisis(no other woman involved) and I was completely devastated because I didn't see it coming. I couldn't eat(lost 30 lbs.) or sleep for months and felt like puking a lot of the time. He came to his senses after 6 months during which time I learned I could live on my own just fine and also that his leaving was nothing I could have prevented. His problem had nothing to do with what I did or did not do. IT WAS HIS PROBLEM! I have so much empathy for you, but you will be alright. My friends and family helped me a lot, so seek some support to get you through. Good luck and take care of yourself.
2006-11-09 17:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by lookwid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your husband wanting a divorce. I have never been through a divorce but I know when the father of my daughter left me I went through the same feelings. I actually got sick because of the pain of him leaving us. You have been hit hard with something that your heart wasn't ready for. It's normal to be hurt, than angry, than okay- and back to hurt, etc. It will just take time and talking to someone to get through it all. I hope things get better for you. Good luck!
2006-11-09 17:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's normal? I think many people experience what you are going through. This may sound harsh, but you are going to have to find your own way through this very tough time. Nobody can do it for you. I got a divorce I didn't want. Couldn't sleep, couldn't eat. Lost thirty pounds in six weeks, was angry at the world, and wanted to get even. It took me over two years to finally start getting back to being myself again. Now I realize she did me a favor, she didn't deserve the love I gave her. Dated several women and finally found the one I will spend the rest of my days with laughing and loving. You may even become a hermit for a while, one day things will change and the hurt will start to lessen. Good luck.
2006-11-09 18:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not nice no matter how you look at it. I dont know how much time you have sunk into this marriage but it is bound to hurt. Getting sick to you stomach is normal and I would expect it to happen somr more. You will tetter totter back and forth. Good luck.
2006-11-09 17:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that is how it is and normal. You'll probably lose some weight and that is probably good getting ready for the single world again.
This will keep happening for some time and slightly getting better every day.
What is confusing is that you think you have dealt with it and feeling good one day, then the next day you will be terrible down all day and sick to your stomach.
2006-11-09 17:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no normal but it certainly isn't unusual. Look at this as an opportunity to move on to a better happier life.
2006-11-09 17:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Like Shock to me!!
2006-11-09 17:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very normal, its called depression. im sorry thats its happening to you hunny. if hes leaving you he doesnt deserve you!
2006-11-09 17:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how much patience you could bear and how much pain you could sustain?
2006-11-09 17:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kethya Chin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋