I'm 17 and I just found out that my girlfriend is pregnant...I'm not going to leave her just because of it...its not her fault I love her to much to do that...But what should I do?
2006-11-09 17:04:57 · 21 answers · asked by Nate! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
support her, and do exactly what a responsible adult would do....Be there for her and care for the baby. I hope both of yours and her's parents know about this. Dont let them find out when its too late. Now you know about the mistakes and maybe you can spread the message of having control or about abstinence. You learning from your mistakes should tell you that maybe u can help others and advice them to not make the same mistakes. Please help her, because not only that, but she might be feeling pressured by her parents as well, so she needs lots of support.
2006-11-09 17:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ravi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with her for a long time then asking her to marry you wouldn't hurt if she plans to keep the baby.
Just stand by her and support her in all things. Massage her feet and her back and run out to buy her pickles and ice cream at any hour of the night (my own craving was Wendy's french fries, it was one of the only things I ate while pregant, along with pasta. Now both of those are my son's favorite foods!).
Prove to both of your parents that you are mature and will be a reliable source of support. Stay in school but get a part-time job to help support your gf and the baby. One of the most important things you can do is stay in school and graduate! It will ensure that you can get a better job which will help you continue to support your family. If you had previously planned to go to college then continue with that plan, you may just have to bring the two of them with you and live off campus in an apartment (or find a school with married student housing).
Good luck!
2006-11-10 01:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Erika S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and your parents and find out what is best for you. Either keep the baby and raise it as a family together or give the baby to parents who can take care of it if you cannot, Abortion is never the answer...you will be okay and its really refreshing to hear a guy not leave the girl he gets pregnant...because you are absolutely right..its not her fault
2006-11-10 08:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school. That is the best thing you can do. Be supportive, maybe get a part time job if you can. Full time in the summer. Try and go to college. It makes a difference. Talk to your parents and hers, see if they can help you guys out until you are old enough to make the next decision.
2006-11-10 01:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lashenova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all sit down and tell both sets of you parents, don't be forced into marriage just because she is pregant...Sit down and work out how you and your girlfriend feel about this baby is she happy to have it? Are you willing to give up schooling and find a job? Are you going to be able to afford to support her through her pregnacy and anything else that crops up...Ask for help from both sets of parents and let them know that you and your girlfriend want to keep the baby if that is what both of you want to do...ask them to support you and your girlfriend in what ever decison you make.
Good luck with it all
2006-11-10 01:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish my BF could think i lil bit like you, im 9 weeks preg, n I juz told him bout, he left n said he wants nothing to do with us...after 2 yrs. But support her n let her know u r there 4 her. If ur in school finish it n mean while u can get a part time or full time job.does any side of ur parents know? if they do mayb they can b supportive n help u guys while u 2 get on ur own.
But good luck n tell her she's lucky to have a bf so supportive as u.
Best wishes!!!
2006-11-10 07:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her and dont leave her! You two are in this together. Im glad that you love her and wont leave her there are few men out there like you. Most would just run away at this point and swear up and down "its not mine!" but I think your awesome :) Just talk to her and let her know that whatever she decisides to do that you will be there for her no matter what.
2006-11-10 01:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your a good young man for standing by her side. Your best bet is to talk with your parents and her parents and take it from there. You both will need support from your families and I hope they are understanding, because what's done is done. Good luck. And don't forget a man's word is everything so don't break any promises.
2006-11-10 01:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by msleya2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UH OH!!! Now you did it!! Well. Support her all the way. She is probably scared out of her mind too!!! Talk about it together as to what you are going to do. If she is going to keep the baby or not. Now you have a serious responsibility, you have another life to care for. I wish you well!!
2006-11-10 01:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by SummerLovin' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness!You have to take the responsibility.Go and meet the parent and discuss.Her parent would be angry,but the thing is,if you're a gentleman,i think they will eccept you and think on how they can help.You might be scared to confront them,but believe me,you just have to do it now.Don't forget to let your parents know first.Just face whatever music,we all do mistake.Good luck,and i'm sorry for you.
2006-11-10 01:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by ike mie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋