When I enter my Junior year of College in fall 2007, I want to move out of the house. How do I get Mom to accept this? I just feel a need to be out on my own and find my life. Mom will have Dad and I am kinda alone right now and I need to start feeling like an adult instead of a child. When I started talking about it, she was encouraging but now she is acting strange with me. First, she was really more affectionate with me like hugging me which is kinda unusual. She keeps telling me how sad its going to be. Now she is really touchy and keeps telling me to think about it and take it slow. What can I do? I still have a way to go until it is time and I want to stay motivated.
2006-11-09 16:35:37 · 7 answers · asked by whattawow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
when my son left home it was so sad for me but he was scared and happy at the same time and it is the natural thing for u to want to be on your own. later she will be proud of you for wanting to do this and she really doesn't want u to live with her for the rest of her life but right now she cant stop feeling that she will lose u forever. try to show her that u still and always will need and love her by asking her advice and letting her do some small mother things for u and please be patient she will come around. just keep telling her u will always need your mom and continue with your plans. try to make an effort to include her in your future plans if possible. i promise she will get on board with you but she just needs some time. don't expect her not to cry for awhile after you do leave but it will pass. read up on the empty nest syndrome. good luck.
2006-11-09 16:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was the same until i could no longer afford to move out but she knows that when i can afford it im movin out
eventually they understand that its time for u to make it on ur own and they eventually get over it
imagine u get a puppy and its a cute puppy u take it home nuture it, feed it, potty train it, as it gets older u teach it tricks and u love this dog more than anything else then one its time for this dog to leave to go live somewhere else u dont have a choice in whether the dog stays or goes u can still visit but u wont see the dog everyday maybe once every few days at first then once a week then once a month then only on the holidays
now how do u feel thats kinda how ur parents feel
2006-11-10 00:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by cowboy76360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have made the decision stick with it. Return those hugs and tell her that while it may be a little sad now this is what she's been working for your whole life and after you are out two weeks she will wonder why she let you stay so long. Start buying things for your new apartment and let her share in your excitement. Take her with you when you go shopping for some of it. Who knows...she may pick up the tab!
2006-11-10 00:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you would want your own space, but with just a couple more years to go, don't get tied up with rent and all that until you have to!
If you can afford it, get an efficiency apartment, and stay there a few days a week to start with, or on the weekends.
I'm older, but I think you mom is right.
2006-11-10 00:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it to her kind and straight. Mom, you've done a great job in raising me but I'm old enough to where I need to try to be on my own. You've taught me to fly but you've got to let me leave the nest. Tell her she can come over and help with laundry and dinner from time to time. Let her know that you'll still need her but in a different way. Best of luck!
2006-11-10 00:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom's reaction to this is quite normal, be patient with her and ease her into this show her you can handle things on your own, start pricing apartments , electric, or something like that and ask your mom to be apart of this decision with you, by helping out she will be able to accept it better and feel more comfortable with the thought.
2006-11-10 00:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes just a little upset. It's normal. Continue with your plans and just tell her you love her a little more.
Maybe plan a weekly lunch date and continue it when you move out to help keep things close.
2006-11-10 00:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by kaye t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋