Ok.....here it goes.....I accepted Im bi when i was 15. Me and this guy were screwing around and then suddenly he turned straight and stopped talking to me.....today he called me. he told everyone around school about me and him but he says hes straight now but i still love him and he says hes confused.....ive got a girlfriend now too but i dont feel sexually attracted to her and just see her as a friend.....i dont want to hurt her but......im confused if im gay or not.....im afraid to go all the way gay but i dont like girls really.....am I gay or bi? how should i handle my girlfriend and exboyfriend?.....help!!!!!!
2006-11-09 16:24:20 · 9 answers · asked by jdm6846 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Im almost 19 now
2006-11-09 16:44:59 · update #1
You are at an age when sexual confusion is natural. That's why teens should not be having sex. If you were gay you would have known it from early childhood. Wait until you're older and you know yourself better before you make any decisions about your sexuality. And abstain from sex.
2006-11-09 16:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You have 2 separate things going on, so try not to lump it all together.
The first thing is the guy you screwed around with. He is the one who stopped talking to you and told everyone at school about it. If he cared that much about you, he wouldn't have done that. He is telling you he is confused because he wants to use you, not because he loves you.
The second thing is your girlfriend. You say you are not "sexually attracted to her" and that you "don't like girls really". It is not fair to your girlfriend or yourself to be with her if you are not sexually attracted to her. Since you say you don't like girls, it means that you are probably gay.
Don't be afraid to "go all the way gay", that is just who you are. Take some time to accept yourself for who you are and who you like and don't let other people tell you what you should be, just be who you are. And your ex boyfriend is just that, an EX boyfriend. Don't feel pressured to have a boyfriend right now, but take some time to meet other guys like you and you will eventually find a guy who likes and loves you as much as you do him.
2006-11-10 00:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some time out. Seriously. First about the labels, who needs them? If the person is right for you, are you going to turn them away? Or are you going to accept that there is a wide spectrum of how to hang out with another soul? Betting on the second.
As far as your former "boyfriend," he is confused and you are at his mercy. Don't be. Get away. He told the whole school about you? Man, that is outting you without your permission! That can get you killed. Seriously. Wrong behaviour. Get away and stay away. You deserve better. Tell him thanks for the memories but move along.
Girlfriend? Well, how is she about not having sex with you? Probably pretty safe, right? Ask her. Be upfront with her. Let her decide. Be kind but say you are not really into sexual things with her.
Do not cut yourself off from the bit with other women, though. If you say you are gay and then go ahead and find a woman that really does something for you, what is the young lady you are with now going to think? Right! You are lying to her.
Sounds like you are young. Be careful. Use protection if you are having sex (with anyone). AIDS and other STDs are killers. Also, gay boys get beaten up and killed - it is wrong but it is real, too.
OK, enough sermonizing. Drop the labels. Be real. Be true to your feelings. Best of luck.
2006-11-10 00:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is a pathetic bigoted closet case and you deserve better. If you don't feel romantically attracted to your girlfriend then you should end it with her, but find someone a bit better than your ex.
You sound gay to me, I would advise going all the way gay, many people are actually more accepting of gays. Not saying all are just many I have come across. I'd also like it, if you are gay, if you would stop contributing to the stereotype that all of us true bisexuals are a bunch of closet cases. Thank you and good luck with resolving your situation.
2006-11-10 00:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused, probably neither person is "the one". You are going through a time of exploration and I encourage you to explore further. Then down the road, you will know yourself better and life will feel less complicated. Good luck dear.
2006-11-10 00:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel atraction for them girls you're 100% queer c'mon don't be shy explore you're body and MOVE ON don't stay stuck in the pass or you'll get hurt hon I know it happend to me once and trust the feeling is not pretty listen to me you'll be better of without him and about the girl if you don't leave her you'll hurt her even more in the future
2006-11-10 00:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by Cateelk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it ... Give it time and you will figure it out. I had a friend who went though this and it took some time until she know she was gay.
2006-11-10 00:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same, exact same predicament. well, kinda. I met this guy, and i have a gf, but i think i am bi,, but i think i am gay, i change like everyday. its tough, but hang in there, you will figure it out!
2006-11-10 00:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by Randizzle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you see thats the problem with you bisexual's you dont make up your minds
2006-11-10 00:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋