Tonight, my husband told me that he had been in a relationship with another woman in town and she told him she was pregnant and she broke things off and told him he was going to have to pay child support. Well, he called her up to talk about things and it turns out she made the whole thing up to get back at him because he never told her he was married. I can't believe she would be so mean to him. It's not his fault because she never asked. I'm so upset with her right now for stressing out my husband and it really made him hurt when she called off the relationship. He has been so anxious and somewhat depressed this past week and I didn't know why and its because this lady lied. What can I do to show my husband I love him and get his mind off this whole mess with that girl?
2006-11-09 16:14:45 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what about the fact that he cheated on you?
does that bother you at all?/
2006-11-09 16:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
I feel so sorry for you and for him both. You obviously love and respect each other and would let nothing come between you, not even all the crazy dysfunctional stuff that you've both been through together. I am your biggest fan and supporter. I have been here with you through thick and thin, all of your questions have really sucked me into the drama that is your life. It clearly has to be the truth because no one would make up any of this stuff. Who would have the time to come up with that many situations if they weren't actually true? Your questions history is a great read, and truly captures the real picture of how interesting you are, and how much you need the advice of people on yahoo.
Just know that we all care very much about you and whatever you decide we will support you, as we will definitely hear about what transpires in the next day or so. I'm certain it will be interesting enough for you to get about 50 answers from people.
2006-11-11 01:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a very strong woman, he should feel very blessed to have you for a wife. There are not to many woman that would be this supportive and understanding right after finding out that their man cheated. This just happened tonight and you are defending him. MUCH RESPECT TO YOU. Now to your question, you are comforting him and showing how much you love him right now, whether it feel like you are or not. Unless he has signed paternity papers or has been declared the father through a test, he has nothing to worry about.
You though are going to have too release how you really feel about what he has done to you. Right now you say you're upset with her for upsetting him, but what about what he did to you. Express that, don't hold that junk in, it will manifest into anger and build up, express it to him. It doesn't matter how upset he is right now, you are the wife, let him know you love him but you are hurt by what he did. Don't let him get by with this, without you saying anything, you don't want this to happen again.
2006-11-09 16:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so you must be in an open marriage for you to feel she was at fault, is this something you and your husband do often?
If so fine but don't waste everyone else time wanting to blame her. The fact is your husband was not happy to begin with or he would of never started a "relationship" with anthor woman. It will happen again over and over. When you have had enough we will probably see you on the local nightly news as "Stressed Out Wife Went Rambo because of cheating Husband".
2006-11-09 18:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by magicallybeautiful10plus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first question is, Did you report your son missing? Or tell anyone that your husband kidnapped him? Secondly, if there were a police report on file, for him kidnapping your son, then I would forward that to the Stainslaus Co, California Child Support Agency and tell them that your son was kidnapped. But like answerer #1 said I would contact someone that deals with family law. Even if you can't afford one, most lawyers will offer the first free consultation, just to find out what your next step can be.
2016-05-22 02:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading through your other questions, I think you should seek some professional help. If you are really in this situation where your husband wants an open relationship and you think to just go along with it because he is the "man" and makes all the decisions you obviously have no respect for yourself. As for the other woman, i don't blame her for reacting that way, i'd probably resort to violence if it were me and as for live in your house with you, my god open your eyes love. Look at all the bad feedback you got from your other question and you dare to ask again....are you for real or making things up? Your life is not normal and would not be appreciated by many people.
2006-11-09 16:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Abs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your statement, it sounds like you're OK with the fact that he was having extra-marital sex. If that's the case then so be it.
As far as comforting him, just let him be. This, as all things, will pass in time. There likely isn't very much that you can do to take his mind off of it. You are already supporting and loving him just by sticking with him through this whole mess. If he doesn't realize your value, then he needs more help than you would ever be able to give
2006-11-09 16:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by jae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you for real? Your husband cheated on you and you are upset because the other women never asked? No one should have to ask a man they are sleeping with if they are married. Why would you want to comfort a man who thinks so little of you? You said it made him hurt when she called off the relationship and you want to make him feel better? You are so sad, are you that desperate to be with a man? I'd kick his sorry *** to the curb and tell him to go F her all he wants.
2006-11-09 16:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's really funny how you do not want to get angry at the person who actually cheated on you. You are directing your anger on some whore who could care less about you. Instead you are pretending and hoping that this will go away ....it won't at least for now. Got to stop pretending that it is her fault. Why don't you get some self respect. Are you that lonley that you are willing to stay with a man and in the back of your head wondering if he will or has cheated on you this week.
2006-11-09 16:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by caciansf 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
#1 d n a does not lie.
#2 you are worried about him?
#3 you should be seeing a divorce lawyer!!!
to hell with how he feels. how do you feel having him betray you that way???
#4 what ever course you decide to take, take notes because it will definitely happen again!!!
and next time maybe there will be a bundle for him to support for the next 18+ years!!!
2006-11-09 16:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LORD HAVE MERCY JESUS , I DON'T BELIEVE YOUR POST .LOOK I DON'T WANT TO SOUND MEAN TO YOU BUT GIRL I HAL FT TO ASK YOU . ARE YOUUUUUUUU CRAZYYY? HONEY I AM GETTING ANGRY FOR YOU . OH YOUR ID NAME SUITS YOU . LOOK KICK HIS CHEATING BUTT OUT AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT COMFORTING HIM . WHO IS GOING TO COMFORT YOU WHEN HE LEAVES YOU FOR ANOTHER WOMAN AND TRUST ME HE WILL . BECAUSE YOU ARE SAME AS TELLING HIM TREAT ME ANYWAY YOU WISH I WILL BE HERE WHEN YOU ARE DONE PLAYING AROUND. AND YOU ARE MAD AT THE OTHER WOMAN ? WHY MAY I ASK ARE YOU NOT MAD AT YOUR DEAR SWEET HUBBY ? I THINK YOU NEED SOME SERIOUS HELP HAS IN A DOCTOR OR COUNSELOR , BECAUSE IF THIS IS THE WAY YOU THINK A MARRIAGE IS YOU ARE WRONG. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK BECAUSE YOU ARE GOING TO NEED IT .
2006-11-09 16:36:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋