Serious Sex Question?

Question

My Boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but the last two times we have had sex, he gets these terriable headache's. He is 35. Should he see a doctor? Is this something serious? He thinks it's from stress. What do you think? Guys, does this happen to you?

Answer 1

I get these from time to time -- fortunately VERY infrequently because I HATE them. It's exactly as described in the article transcribed by another poster: the intensity seems to go up as I get closer to climax, and if I manage to do that, it's like getting hit in the back of the head with a baseball bat. I've learned just to stop and try again later -- the pain is that bad.

On rare occasions I've also had the same kind of headache while working out (though it's a LOT less disheartening to stop using the lateral pull-down machine than to stop having sex...). I would guess it's blood-pressure related, and possibly also related to dehydration. I did consult a doctor about the headaches while exercising, and was advised to stop exercising and take ibuprofen when I get them.

I've learned several things about these headaches:

1 - I can detect when I'm starting to get one. There's a particular place at the back of my head, right where the neck muscles connect to the skull, where these headaches start. If I feel it starting to act up just as my wife and I are beginning to get cuddly, I have learned to stop RIGHT THEN and move to Step 2.

2 - When I feel one of these starting up, I take ibuprofen, 2 x 200mg, with a large glass of water, and wait 30-40 minutes before contintuing. The headache will usually go away within 40 minutes.

3 - Even if I'm not exerting myself -- even if my wife is doing all the work -- these headaches still make me feel like I've been hit with a two-by-four at the moment of climax. So it's really worth medicating myself and waiting.

As for your question about stress, that's possible, but not the only thing. Sometimes I think it's from dehydration -- if I've had a little too much wine the night before, and didn't remember to have a big glass of water at bed time and another when I wake up at 2 AM to, er, get rid of the LAST glass of water, I sometimes have these headaches when I wake up. (We're, um, very big on getting intimate in the morning; for my wife, the most significant part of foreplay is a good night's sleep. :-)

But mainly, tell your boyfriend he has my sympathy, and share my tips for avoiding this problem. Learn the early-warning signs, take medication when you're sure that's what's happening, and wait for the ibuprofen to kick in. Rub the back of his neck, have him stroke you... sometimes the extra half-hour of intimacy makes the NEXT half-hour that much better!

Answer 2

Men can get serve headaches from sex. I have copied and pasted some information below. I hope this helps. If things don't get better I would suggest that he sees a doc. Best of luck to the both of you! :0


The headaches usually come on suddenly around the point of orgasm, and can be very severe.

The researchers believe the condition affects around one in a 100 people at least once during a lifetime, but some people are afflicted on a regular basis.

Although the precise causes are not yet understood, it is thought that the condition may be linked to the increased blood flow and dilation of blood vessels that occur during sex.

The German team is carrying out research aimed at solving the mystery.

They stress that people do not develop the condition as a result of particular partners or sexual habits. Neither is it linked to any form of brain damage or disease.

It is most common among young people, and is most likely to strike for the first time between the ages of 20 and 25.

Researchers Dr Achim Frese and Dr Stefan Evers, from the University of Munster, examined patients who had complained of sexual headaches.

Severe pain

Dr Frese, who presented preliminary results from the study at a meeting of the European Federation of Neurological Societies in Vienna, said: "We found that the vast majority of patients suffered from an explosive and very severe headache starting suddenly around the orgasm.

"The others suffered from a dull headache with the pain increasing more gradually before the orgasm."

In most cases the headaches appeared during intercourse with a regular partner, or while masturbating.

Dr Frese said; "About half of the patients had realised that they could avoid some of the headache attacks by intensifying the sexual excitement more gradually."

Some patients were prescribed preventative treatment such as beta-blockers - drugs given to migraine sufferers - or the pain killer indomethacin.

Typically, sexual headaches appeared in bouts of a few weeks duration and resolved themselves spontaneously. Most patients had only one bout while others had two or three.

Answer 3

Nope it does not happen to me. Maybe he is just feeling tired or stressed out with his work.

Answer 4

he should have his blood pressure checked. headaches are a symptom of high b/p, especially if he is only getting them during strenuous exercise.

Answer 5

try not to have rough sex. try lighting some candles and play some soft music and give him some advil.

Answer 6

yes my hubby gets these they r normal

Answer 7

STD?