how can I deal with people who ask for rides all the time?two girls I work with are always asking for rides.?

Question

I got sucked in one day when the one day when the one girl had a hard luck story even though it was out of my way.Now she will ask if I can take her to her freinds which is much closer then she says oh can you just take me to my house when we get near her freinds house so even though i feel hijacked I do it.Then the other day she asks for a ride and I said no and she said oh this sucks Im going to have to walk.The other one just asks like every day and sometimes its on my way and other times Its areal nuisance.neither one has offered me more than a thanks.I know they are broke but so am I.What can I do ,I have to work with both of them?

thanks for all the good answers but where we live there are no buses or cabs for 100 miles.However I just wish they would find someone else!

Answer 1

Learn to love yourself even when you say no. You don't have to please them; you don't need to have these leeches like you. You're a nice person who hates to disappoint people, and they're taking advantage of that. You really don't need to spend time with creeps like that.

Answer 2

I had the same problem once. What I did was make an announcement early in the work day that I was going to be rushing off to get home as soon as possible (for what ever reason) and that I wasn't going to be able to take ANYONE home or anywhere else. At first it was awkward, because I knew that they knew what was going on, but I didn't care!!! I got sick of being used every day, and not getting any gas $$$ or anything! I also had to remember that it wasn't my responsibility to take them home. They were just as grown and able as I was. And I also had to ask myself these questions...What were they doing to get home before they started asking me, and what would they do if I weren't here?..................(if this doesn't help, let them know that buses and cabs run at all hours of the day!)

Answer 3

I ran into that problem a couple yrs ago. I tried to tell them I was going the other way. I tried telling them I had to stop at the store. They both hated that, I would go in and just look around for a while and let them sit in the car. Then I got upset one day both asked me and I told them that I can't be carrying other people, my insurance would not cover them if something happened. That was my hubbys' idea. I told them they would have to give me at least $6 a week to add carrying to my insurance. They said they could not afford it and I told them that I could not afford their families or anyone else to sue me if there should be an accident. They quit asking. Didn't speak for a while but, got over it. You could also tell them to call a taxi or the transit bus. Good Luck. Don't feel guilty if you tell them. You work to have your car so should they.

Answer 4

You have to work WITH them, not FOR them as a chauffeur or a taxi driver. This is all on you, not them. You must develop a backbone and learn how to tell people NO. Not all the time, but when you don't want to.

You have to learn how to say, girl, I need some gas money, I"M BROKE TOO! Sorry, I wish I could help you but I have things to do. You don't have to explain anything. It's your car, not theirs.

I know and you know, if you didn't have a ride and they did, they would not be driving you all around for nothing. Wake up!

Answer 5

In this case if you don;t want to come right out and tell them they are abusing your kindness then make up a lie. Such as you have somewhere to be right after work and even though you would really like to help you are really crunched for time and just don;t have the time to drop them off. These people are obviously leeches and therefore will continue to take advantage of you. Better to act now then later.

Answer 6

Tell them with the price of gas that you cannot afford it anymore.If they offer gas money,,which I doubt,,you set the price if you are willing to ride them.If not,,just a plain,,"I cant" will work.Or that you are going to a friends that is the other way or that you are in a hurry & have other plans.You got to think ahead.One step ahead,,lol.I wouldnt feel bad,,they certainly dont as I can tell by them not even offering a thank you.You are not obligated to anyone at work but yourself.The longer you wait to set it straight ,,the worse it will be.And dont sugarcoat it or they will play on your sympathy.

Answer 7

I disagree with Me Eats Peanuts. Ignoring her/making excuses will merely lengthen the area, you ought to tell this airhead (who's clearly merely using you on your motor vehicle) which you're actually not any greater her taxi and somewhat no longer her buddy. the way she acts in the direction of you at social events is the only element that makes me say this. the subsequent time she asks for a journey say, "you recognize, it would not even seem such as you wanna be my buddy anymore, yet you're using me for my motor vehicle. i'm sorry yet i'm going to no longer be providing you with rides everywhere until you are able to tutor which you're a real buddy. in case you have gasoline money i'm going to offer you a journey, yet on condition that it suits into my schedule and that i'm delicate with it" i individually desire this facilitates you by using fact this individual is strolling throughout you. And no, you're somewhat no longer being selfish.

Answer 8

make up this story about, this gym you joined like 10 or 15 miles in the opposite direction then someday if they need a ride towards your fake gym location, tell them its not a work out day and then say "But ill give you a ride home"

Answer 9

Let them know that finances are hard on you and your services are costing you gas and wear and tear on the car, not to mention your valuable time. If they want your services in the future, they are going to have to pay for it.
If they can't afford to, it's not your problem. Since they work with you, they know that you don't make a lot. If they have a problem with paying for your taxi services, then they are not your friends. If they get nasty at you at work, then they are taking their personal problems to the workplace and your boss needs to be aware of that.

Answer 10

Either hang a sign on your vehicle saying its a charity ride car ... or just say no ... sorry it's outta my way ... I have too much to do and gas is too expensive.

You go girl !