I have an military husband and he was deployed to arizona for two months. when he got home i found a name and address on a sheet of paper girls hand writing. he said that it was a buddy of his address. should i have believed him?
2006-11-09 14:51:22 · 18 answers · asked by thumperprice26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in the military for 8 plus years, I watch about 50% of the "men" and I use that word loosely cheat. I never did, but it never failed, we would get overseas, and the first night on the beach, about 50% of the married guys were chasing women.
2006-11-09 15:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im not in that situation but im sure there are men who are faithful in the military. you should just keep a close eeye on him for now. maybe look through is phone to see if that numer appears. maybe look through some emails. Has he ever given you any reason to not trust him? if not then you should trust him
i will probably be in the same situation as you in a few years (im 19 right now). if my bf and I are still together. he wants to go into the airforce and fly the cargo planes then be a commercial airline pilot. but for now we're both in school and he's focusing on aeronautical engineering. it will eb uncomfortable though being away for that long but all you can do is be storng and hoe for the best! maybe you should travelt he world aand liveon base with him since you guys are married? =)
good luck
hope things turn out okay for you two.
but you should trust him. if he has never cheated on you then try to be as comfortable as you can with the situation. he may be telling the truth. but if he has never given you a reason not to trust you then trust him. you may find out someday if he was telling the truth or not.
maybe you can get your buddies name and phone number. maybe you should call the phone number? if you are suspicious and have your doubts.
2006-11-09 15:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a really hard question for me to answer right now. one of my very best friends just found out two days ago that her military husband has been cheating on her. and they've been married for only 3 months. she is heartbroken. and I don't understand it because she is so beautiful and such a wonderful young woman.
she had gotten suspicious because his military buddies were trying to get him to go out to strip bars and such, and she didn't think he did because he told her he didn't. but while he was gone she got into his computer and found that he'd been cheating, and found pictures of some of the girls he'd cheated with. it was disgusting, and that's putting it mildly. just be very, very careful.
if you feel like he is lying to you and you just can't shake that feeling, then you probably shouldn't believe him. I'm so sorry, but after what happened to my friend I would advise you to be very suspicious.
2006-11-09 15:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. My husband is in the military....while he was in Iraq...2 of his married soldiers were cheating with each other. And just yesterday, his civilian employee who is married to an army guy told him that her husband wanted a divorce ...she apparently found emails he was writ ting to a female soldier in Afghanistan...(that's where he was deployed too)...I dont think all cheat but some definitely do.
2006-11-09 14:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody in any line of work can cheat.
If your husband is cheating it has nothing whatsoever to do with him being in the military.
It sounds like the two of you need to do some serious talking....because if he's cheating he can put your health in danger.
2006-11-09 14:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, until you find out that he is lying.
I am retired from the military and there are military personnel and their dependents that both cheat. Not all of them, it is just like being out in the real world.
Cheaters come in all types. Military, Civilian, Politicians, Pastors, you name it they are everywhere.
2006-11-09 14:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know one man in the military, and he cheated on his wife. She found a messge from a girl saying she didn't want to date him anymore, blah blah. So the guy made up some lie that this girl was a stalker, and got away with it. So i would go with the evidence, and don't blind yourself with what you WANT to hear...
2006-11-09 15:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i believe that A LOT of them cheat, i wouldn't say all of them b/c there are like 3 that don't LOL. But my husband cheated on me when he went to pensacola for ndi school..... he's a marine, he's deployed right now... and it makes me wonder how many times he really has now on all the other deployments... i feel you, i'm very sorry your going through this... this is tearing me up bad i don't wish this on anyone else... btw what part of az was he at? were stationed here in yuma az...
2006-11-09 14:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by kellie c 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would he pack a paper of his friends???
I would've called the # and asked if the person knew your husband andd how well!!!
Has your husband ever lied to you before????
Your heart probably will lead you to the right answer!!!
My ex-husband was in army....Yes the guys cheat, when they think the wife could never find out!!!!!
2006-11-09 15:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't generalize.....
I was in the navy for 9 years and never cheated on my wife. However, there were plenty of others that did. Go with the evidence.....
2006-11-09 14:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋