what to do when you are 24 years old and you are lost ?

Question

When you are lost in life, meaning I dont have a carrear and my in laws hate meand besides I'm 4 months pregnant?

Answer 1

Realize that you are not alone and that there are many others your age and older who also are unaware of their direction that life has in store for them. Be grateful that you are aware enough to recognize this fact at present as so many others are not aware of it. Life will have it's ups and downs and soon enough you will see what you are meant to do with this gift of live.

Answer 2

Best way to find yourself in the future is to look where you came from in the past. Make a list of what has worked for you thus far. Next make a list of the wrong moves. Not all but just the real dozies. Do you see a pattern? No? Start again, look deeper. Go till you see a pattern. Once you have exhausted every pro and con, and you can no longer think of anything that might be helpful. Then go over your list and look again for patterns. Do you tend to move toward the problem areas? When I was younger and wanted to disappear because of the many mistakes I was making, someone gave me this tool. I found that I was always being a savior, helping this weirdo, or that wacko. I started hanging with those who I had respect for, and things got better quick. I'm not saying this will be your case, but maybe you can see a pattern as I did.

Answer 3

I'm sure you're dealing with a lot. If I were you, I'd make a list of what's "wrong" that is making you feel lost. Then, look at the list and make a secondary list of ways you can fix each problem. Start small, and work up. It will help eventually.

What's important to remember when you feel lost is the simple fact that any feeling of being overwhelmed is normal. Girl, you're four months pregnant! Sometimes that's scary and overwhelming in of itself. And your in-laws are not supportive!

Please do not feel like 24 is too old to make a difference in your life. It's okay to be lost. It isn't the end of the world. And as long as you're not involved in anything shady that might involve jailtime, I'd say you have more than a good chance of finding yourself.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you out in cyber space!!!!

Answer 4

Well, you can pray to god and all that crap, and still be in the same mess. Firstly, getting pg in an unstable marriage wasn't too cool. You are now looking at 20 years of forking out $250,000 to raise this kid. (yup, that is the amount of money it takes to get a kid thru two years of college...... counting every diaper, every pencil, every shirt, the detergent to wash its clothes....yadayada....) Not cool. NOw what???? In your place, if I didn't have super job skills, I'd get them, even if it meant I'd be up at night studying, and nursing a child. Other women have done it, if you have the smarts to earn a college education, you can too. If you are not college material, get a job skill that pays well -- waiting tables can be great if you are in a good dinner house.... it's hard work, but then, there are lots of things that are hard work..... Education is the ticket out of poverty and financial dependence on someone else. There is no law that says just because you are a mom, someone has to buy your meal ticket......It may take you 6 years to get that degree, but those years will pass anyway. By the time you are 30, you could have a college degree. Consult your Jr. Colleges in your area for programs that will put you in a higher income bracket. Bottom line here is make some plans for your future. To do nothing is to allow your future to happen without you having too much to say about it. To get some job skills is to take command. Go for it girl.

Answer 5

Who cares about your in laws. If there not going to help you,tell them to step aside.You have a career coming in 5 months.But don't let this stop you from starting a home business.Take on line courses and start building a career.Your child won't be around for ever.Become a travel agent,a real estate agent.There are alot of things you can do from home.I work full time and I'm a travel agent.I have a cell phone and do both at the same time its alot of fun.You get some real good deals and could get free vacations to boot

Answer 6

What about your parents? You don't even mention them only your in-laws. Are they not an option for awhile until you get back on your feet?

What about the father? Does he side with his parents? I hope not. He married you for you not them.

What you must do however is sit down and decide what you want your life to become. It seems you have not done that yet. If your like a lot of us....life just happens until we get a wake up call.

While it is not easy there are many women that are in your same shoes. What they do is pick themselves up and begin living for themselves.

Your pregnancy complicates everything. But if your still married and you and your husband are still together begin to talk with him about how you feel. If your not together then maybe a friend.
Often just talking will bring things to light you never thought about.

Don't despair. There is help for you if you look for it. You are just beginning life. How you handle it makes all the difference.

Answer 7

Hey, Rom, you are just having a bit of the blues - goes with the hormonal fluctuations you are experiencing with being pregnant. You need to look around you for what's good in your life. You are young and healthy, and soon to be bringing a new life into this world! That's a wonderful accomplishment! Your husband loves you, so do your family and friends, and they will be there to support you! Take stock of the positive things, and focus on those good things you have. You need to be positive for your baby's sake, because your stress is no good for him or her.

Answer 8

Sit your self down and make a list of things you enjoy doing..... how many of things on your list can you generate money by doing? Or is there a job field you have interest in exploring......
Nows the time to start the process of "becoming a parental provider" .... when kids are small you'll miss them ... when they get bigger you'll need to be there and teach them .... look now for training and a direction to take .... learn to be a better role model for you little one.

Answer 9

lost in life? lost in love? sit down in a quiet place and write down everything you have done in your life so far. all the memories you can remember... if you don't wanna write them down at least think about them. Now that you have your accomplishments think of some awesome things you could do with your life. Think of your interests and your dreams.. did you achieve any of them.. why? where did you get lost and how and when? I was lost when I was 20 and honestly stayed lost for a good 3 years just living my everyday life day to day from sun up to sun down going to bed rising and doing it all over again. I hope I helped how to help get you unlost but not for sure...

Answer 10

I've been there.. Just keep going the best you can is all you can really do and if you are interested in something that you want to do, go back and study and get the career you want.