=] well me and my best friend sara have become really good friends with this other girl lizzie. so we're pretty much known as a 3-some at school. well...recently lizzie and sara have become better friends..so it's just like i'm dangeling along, while they're the main deal. and currently sara's #2 on lizzie's myspace, while i'm #6. =[ and i know i sound SO freshman..comparing my friendship to a myspace top 8...but i seriously feel like me and sara are competing to be lizzie's best friend =P any advice?
2006-11-09 14:26:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're in a classic "threesome" friendship. These types of friendships are even studied in psychology. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do. Threesomes often go back and forth between two people being close to two other individuals being close. It's not anything bad. It's just the nature of this type of friendship. The best thing you can do is be a good friend to both girls. Don't gossip or backbite either of them with the other. If your two friends eventually just head out on their own, it's okay. Start spending more time with other friends and build a strong relationship with someone else. I know it seems like it's the end of the world, but I promise you will survive.
2006-11-09 14:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me like you arent really competeing for a good friendship with lizzie, you are just an outcast of Lizzie's and sara's friendship (but im not trying to say it in a harsh way). You and Sara just have to be equal friends with Lizzie, and you all be friends together! not one with another but the 3 some, like how you say you are mentioned. so you should talk more, fit in, and not try to compete with Sara for another friendship. just make Sara and Lizzie both your friends and make the "3-some" a true statement!
2006-11-09 22:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. Mary and Kasey were always the main deal. While I dangled along, and tagged along, and the other girl Jordan was just like, the rear end to them. I think you should just lighten up, thats what I did. But you can change your friends feelings. Me , mary and kasey are having problems.
2006-11-09 22:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooohh. mygosh
that happened to me last year. you just gotta start hanging with some new people. people your not as close to. while remaining close to your friends. invite lizzie over to yr house. just the 2 of you. hang out. watch movies. spend time with each other. let her get to know you better. so she can see how you are all the time. i will be good.
2006-11-09 22:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go about my life and if I wanted to do something I'd ask if my friend/s want to go along. Either or both. If they do then good, if not that is their lose. I'd would show that it bothers me or anything like that. Move on and find another friend. You might want to try another wqay which would be to sit down and talk with your friend one one one and see if this makes a difference. If it does not change then move on and find a new friend/s Good Luck.
2006-11-09 22:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it sounds like the only one competing here is you. Lighten up.
2006-11-09 22:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by karen j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to spend some more time with ur best friend,and let her know how u r feeling nowadays
2006-11-09 22:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by engr_ehsen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, dont be mean sbout it whatev u do :)
2006-11-09 22:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Katelin C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋