So I was looking at a magazine today. All the successful men in it have "and his wife ___ and his children ___ and ___." No man seems able to "make it big" without finding a wife first. Even Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert have wives (and they look like clones of each other). Yet, if you look at successful women, it seems like we have to stay alone in order to make it. This makes me think maybe men sponge and siphon energy off the wives in order to become successful. Successful women would it seems be dragged down by a man in their lives. Men just seem to get boosts from having us in theirs. So what do YOU think? Why can't men get ahead in life without a woman to feed off of? Is it better for women to be alone to make it? I'm not being sarcastic or manhating. I just want to know why men have got to have us and why this is.
2006-11-09 14:24:57 · 24 answers · asked by Heather M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And please, no childish, defensive hollabacks from upset men. JUST ANSWER THE QUESTION, WHY DO YOU ALWAYS NEED US? If you can't answer the question... then you've just answered it.
2006-11-09 14:31:06 · update #1
Being a man, I'll take a shot at this. I think women are emotionally superior to men. Because of that, men can lean on women for the support that they cannot provide for themselves in a crisis. I think your theory is generally correct. I know some that have done rather well in life without a wife. However, there are significant women in their life on whom they fall back when the going gets really tough.
Another factor is that a single woman has "sisters". Women provide mutual support to one another. You don't see that among single men. Do you think that "Sex in the City" could ever have been done with four heterosexual men?
Flip side: a good man makes a woman a better person, as well. Women alone can become cynical, rigid, and callous sometimes.
We all need each other. But, when the chips are down, a single woman can handle it better than a single man.
2006-11-09 14:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some women become 'successful' because they're artificially raised into success, in order to give the impression that women can do anything in modern times and/or to be prepare to be used as a scapegoat. Either way, things don't seem look good for their future.
However I do agree that some other women do become successful on their own, but due the process of long socialization and experiences, like multiple spouses, children or some considered as her own children, friends, and so on.
Queen Elizabeth, anyone?
As for successful women being dragged down by her man.
Either she on her own decided to have a career as her man's couple or she was too preoccupied with her career that she see her husband as baggage. The former one isn't being dragged down, while the later one is.
It also should be noted that the mass media these days have an 'anti-housewife/girlfriend' bias.
As for successful men tend to have women.
I think that it's more likely women were the sponge than the other way around. Most of the successful women in the past are couples of men, men who have more than one woman. These women if they are domineering and witty, they even capable of being more powerful than their men, while in the sametime put on a show by looking fragile.
Also a man's ability to be successful seems to rely his ability to manage things. If a man can manage a woman or more, there's a good chance he can manage almost anything.
Those who are capable of managing women, will definetly make sure that their women are not out of control, and they don't do that by letting their women has more power than them. Called it being dragged down if you like, but it's a way to make sure things are in balance, a loose cannon woman is much more worse than a loose cannon man.
2006-11-09 23:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by E A C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would much rather make it alone. I care very much about having a successful career, and I wouldn't want a serious relationship to distract me from that. It could be that men need us to feed off of and feel more powerful. With the growing success of women these days, they probably get a little nervous.
2006-11-09 23:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With men I think its a bit more sexual and the feeling of being alone. women tend to work better when men are not around but it seems that men work better when arroused. lol...I dont maybe the feeling of companion ever wonder why they say a dog is a man's best friend. It has somthing to do with men never wanting or being able to be alone! Hope this helped you out some.
2006-11-09 22:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a load of nonsense ....
Quite a lot of men .. like p diddy (for example) did not need a woman to get where he is ... but im sure a gold digger will get a hold of him eventually ...and claim she helped him ... before running off with a whole lot of his money (that he earned without her)
rest in peace Linda Mccartney..
the reason why successful women don't seem to have men ... is that they have no need for them .. as they are no longer gold diggers. Also as you have inside knowledge on the tactics of gold diggers ... successful women are probably more cautious of relationships ... thats why women are smarter than men ;-)
A lot of the time women are the ruin of men ... the only reason most successful men have wives ... is because they can't fend them off ...
.... and as for myself .. I only need a woman for one thing ... I'm not gay... and if I was rich ... i'd be like the successful women .. I'd never marry.
Dr Bad
ps. ... but I'm not woman hating ;-))
peter ... if bill gates made it without a wife .. I bet he is married now ..!!!
Rio ... only the boys are getting nervous
2006-11-10 12:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably because a lot of men can't get along without women. Some can't clean, cook or stay organized without someone to lean on. I mean, as many times as I have heard "Honey I can't find
2006-11-09 22:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to differ with you.I'm not married anymore and I am twice as successful and have more money than ever. So a woman held me back from making it big in life.I think some ladies grab onto a man she thinks will be successful and rides it for all its worth.
2006-11-09 23:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men can not live alone..particularly those who been from a relationship. They want to prove to their x's and to themselves that they can find another one to boost their ego, to tell the world that they can find new girl to love them and accept them, in short they are insecure...this is for some men omly and not to everybody. Funny to think that women can concentrate more on careers w/out man on the side, probably no bad influence around..they can be more productive and wonderful in everything they do, they became more inspired to face life after failed relationship without involving to a new one again. We tend to consider failure as a challenge and wew don't need any man to keep us alive.
2006-11-09 23:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by JANE G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men can make it without women, and there are some women that can make it without men. Not every male and female are the same. I do not believe everything that I read in magazines.
Myself I can not go without a woman because I have to have it.
2006-11-09 22:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women can be self sufficient, men usually have to be guided unless they are very goal oriented. Under the right circumstances the two can find a middle ground and have a wonderful life
2006-11-09 22:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by mssgtmidnight 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋