I recently found out that a so called "close friend" has been bi.t.ching about my family!!
Which includes me, my partner and my two lil girls who are 2yrs and 9mths..
Saying stuff like the eldest one should be out of nappies and toilet trained and not still on a bottle!!
also saying other stuff about how i dress them...
What i dont understand is why she cant say this stuff to my face...
My other friend has also been slagged out by her but keeps putting up with it to save fights!!
Why should i let her continue saying stuff about us...
Saying stuff about me is one thing but bringing innocent kids into the equation....thats just f*cked up!!!
What should i do!? We have been friends 5yrs!!
2006-11-09 14:21:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are a lot of 2 years old still in diapers so that is no big deal. Some people just like to have something to say, it doesn't matter if it is good or bad they just need to run their mouth. Tell her that you have heard that she does not approve of your family and that you prefer her to keep her opinions to herself or you can no longer be her friend.
2006-11-09 14:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't talk to her. she evidentally wants to be judgemental about you. She is irritated with your faults as she can't see her own. 2 yrs old is a bit of a difficult period anyway. All kids are different and if hers were soo easy then good for her. Not all kids are gonna be easy to potty train as some others. Some just aren't ready. I thought i was gonna have to go to high school and change my one's fanny... not literally but you understand. Sometimes friends think they did it and why cant you. Talk to your other friend maybe you guys need to all get together and have a sit down and tell her nicely hey we might not be doing as well as you or as well as you think we are or should be, but we are trying the best and hardest we can. Don't let it bother you like it is. I am ridiculed about stupid things as a mom as well. And when there are more than one child in a room the it wasn't me's get confusing kids are different in a group ;)
2006-11-09 22:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by KayAlley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree kids should never ever be brought into an argument or anything else,as for the friend ask her why she cant tell you these things if she is a true blue friend she wont mind you asking and she would of told you in the first place,I say confront her.Good Luck
2006-11-09 22:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her to stop shes no longer your friend esp if shes not talking to you about it n no offence but the eldest shouldnt be on the bottle still shes too old n i know its hard but you have to keep trying its not good for the teeth trust me i know ive seen kids on the bottle till age 3 n my nephew dosnt have his own teeth anymore they were black n rotten cuz of the bottle but dont keep letting her talking crap confront her n end the friendship friends talk face to face rather its critizing or not shes not helping you talking behind your back i would say something differnent if she contronted you im sorry if i offended you in any way i said it help you out i knows its all hard good luck
2006-11-09 22:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by kandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would reexamine what a "friend" is all about. Sounds to me she isnt a "true" friend.. Sounds like she likes to gossip, I wouldnt take that crap! I would approach her and tell her , all the stuff you have heard and wanted to approach her and give her time to explain herself.
But listen, Dont let this friend get to you! Maybe you need to let her go as a friend, and find better ones. But just dont listen to her, You know how your family truely is! and No outside world knows!
2006-11-09 22:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is jealous or insecure about herself. maybe she always has been this way but she just hit a nerve talking about your babies. consider dumping her friendship and when she ask what up dont bother telling her. if she continues, then just tell her her nasty character will cause you to get ugly and you are responsible enough to stay away from trouble like her. whatever it takes just let the friendship go if it doesnt have much weight on it or put up with her foul character.
2006-11-09 22:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets defensive when people say things about their kids!
She probably don't want to hurt your feelings by saying it to your face!!
Let it roll off your back...a 5 yr old friendship isn't worth giving up just because she would raise her kids different then you raise yours!
Everyone has an opinion too!!
2006-11-09 22:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. She needs to know that you know. AND you need to let her know that it's NOT ok.
Also, what you've been hearing might also just be some nasty rumors. Call her out and settle it like adults.
Don't play the "he said/she said" game. Leave that to the kids.
2006-11-09 22:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by NYC Tim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well honey talk to her about it shes not ur friend if shes sayign that and this mite make u mad but its true that the eldest should be those things however its hard to do that and she needs to try to understand that and they are ur kids u need to tell her that too say look these are my kids how i raise and dress them is my deal not urs and just tell her if this continues she is not friends
2006-11-09 22:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by mommyof3 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
With friends like that you don't need enemies
Dump her after you tell her off real good
2006-11-09 22:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋