I have seperated from my husband, made myself more available, emotionaly and otherwise, and he is just progressively getting more and more nasty, while at the same time saying that he loves me and needs me. Its been almost four years, I am at my wits end I do not know what to think or do
2006-11-09 14:16:09 · 10 answers · asked by redseagoddess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay let me clarify
I have left my husband and am presently having problems with my lover
My relationship wiht my husband was over when I met him
and us hooking up just put the final nail in the coffin
It took me some time to get in a place where I could leave the roof I shared with my husband
I though that in doing so the relationship with my lover would get better. But it has only gotten worse.
2006-11-09 14:24:27 · update #1
It appears your lover is a prick and you need to leave and find yourself a good man.
2006-11-09 20:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husbands need to read his vows he promised to you, and God, and before all those witnesses. He needs to step up and be a TRUE man.. Guys just dont think sometimes, and I understand they mess up, like us women do too!But if your constantly giving Him what He deserves and he treats you bad, then all I can say is pray and think about what you should do. Though I dont believe in divorce, I also dont believe in "getting treated as a dog, or being taken for granted"....
Tell him that if he "truely needs and loves you" Then He would start treating you better... And make him Work for his love, sounds to me He is just saying that to hold onto you, because he knows he can lose you. You deserve better!
I will be praying for you
2006-11-09 22:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is just keeping you on the string. Don't give him what he wants. Why would he come home if your giving him "otherwise" and he can live the rest of the time like a single guy? Give him "the boot" instead.
2006-11-09 22:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by sleepless in NC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you bitter to him? Have you said you were sorry for the mistakes you have made? Have you ripped his heart from his chest without warning?
I am separated from my wife and she is nasty towards me. Never apologized for anything...didn't warn me, didn't want to even try to work things out.
I have been bitter toward her and I still love her dearly. I don't do the bitterness anymore. It was just a phase....
2006-11-09 22:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably time to move on with your life. Cut your losses and find happiness for yourself. You cannot live with someone who makes you miserable day after day and you shouldn't have to accommodate to him. Good luck.
2006-11-09 22:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just get on with your life. Tell him to do the same. If it was meant to be, it would have happened already.
2006-11-09 22:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by imasooite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decide what you want and then follow through. Do you want to go back with him? Do you want to go through with a divorce? Once you make up your mind, tell him what you want.
2006-11-09 22:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
somethings never change trust me I've been there he is just playing head games with you and wants to be in control move on!!!!!!!!
2006-11-09 22:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by tristy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
evidentally he still wants from you what you were and are still giving him. But doesn't want to give just take... quit giving in to him and move on.
2006-11-09 22:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by KayAlley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of circus do you live in?
2006-11-09 22:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋