i asked a question a little while ago about how i love my ex and my family will disown me if i go back to him and there is a guy that realy likes me and i got with him but now i never what to see him again. i now live by myself but the guy who likes me and thinks i am his girlfriend is saying with me and wont leave. i want him to go away and i never want to see him again. he was just a rebound i didnt mean for it to be like that but it happened. i feel desparite to have my ex back and even hide it from my family. i now i am old enough to make my own decition but i think all my ex and i needed was time apart. how do i get him to start talking to me he is realy mad and hurt. and i now he would have sex with heaps of girls already and that hurts so much. all i wanna do is be with him. and the only way the pain goes away is when i cut myself. is that even normal? i havnt told anyone and i enjoy it when i feel upset which is all day. what do i do. how do i get him back & is it worth it?
2006-11-09 14:10:58 · 27 answers · asked by ashleigh h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think there are two problems here....and I think if you solve the boyfriend one, you wont have a reason to cut..1st i suggest you make a decision, do you really want him? If no, set a date..like 2 weeks away and tell him to get away. If he doesnt file a police report for godsake...then once hes gone, set a date to stop cutting...for like 2 days. then if you can go for longer make it 2 more days etc
2006-11-09 14:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your love would seek out other girls to fix his broken heart over you, then he is not really worth going back to. A heart broken lover can't find relief in someone else's arms, just yours.
Very few loves are worth having in secret. If you have to keep all the people you know from seeing your love for someone, then it means the love really won't help you grow as a person. Love makes you feel great, and makes you want everyone know it. How can it be that wonderful if you have to lie to people about it.
As for the other guy, if he can't take "no" for an answer, visit the police department and get a restraining order to show him you mean business.
The cutting gives you relief from your pain and stress, I know because I can be pushed into something like that when life stresses me out. It's not good, and it shows you how much you need to get things unstressful. Find a way to feel better soon.
2006-11-09 14:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cutting yourself is not normal at all! Don't be upset, its not like he died in war or something. Why are you hurting yourself just because you want to be with him. You can always say, I am sorry face to face. Even though that is the most hardest thing to do. You promise him that it won't happen again. The path maybe hard. You will have to regain his trust and love again. Nothing is impossible. Go say sorry first even if he so mad and pissed off at you. If it doesn't work, you can just move on. Find another guy to be with. Remember, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step -Lao Tzu"
2006-11-09 14:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this, you seriously need to forget all the guys and worry about yourself right now. You are cutting yourself because you have no outlet for your stress and anger! I got over cutting myself by finding another outlet for my emotions that I couldn't show. Do you belong to a church or something that has someone neutral you can talk to? I'm not sure that talking to your family would help since they have threatened to disown you and are a part of your emotional stress. This guy you are talking about is no good for you if he has had sex with "heaps of girls" after breaking up with you. No guy is worth harming yourself over, and you need to focus on your own sanity now.
2006-11-09 14:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Julia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting yourself is definitely not normal. You are displaying signs of extreme depression and should seek medical advice and help. No one is worth this kind of grief and misery. If your ex doesn't want to come back he won't. Nothing you say or do will change your mind. Rebounds are tough, but if you want this other guy out then tell him straight and be firm. If he still won't leave tell him you'll have police remove him by force. Give him sufficient time just to pack his stuff and move it out. Give yourself time away from all relationships so you can heal.
2006-11-09 14:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by utuseclocal483 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we need to listen to our family and analyze what they're saying about an issue. They may not know everything happening in your life, but for some reason they don't like that ex of yours. Think about it and do the right choice here.
About cutting yourself, you know that's not normal. This situation is getting you to do things that are hurtful to yourself. Look for professional help, seek counseling and talk to someone about your cuttings. You can bleed yourself to death. Be smart now, your talking about your precious life that is in danger. Keep on going, you have a long life to live and to learn about mistakes. Pray to God, He'll give you strength to keep up.
2006-11-09 14:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew. No, cutting yourself is neither normal nor healthy for you. You need to get some help. Call the police to remove the guy from your apartment if he refuses to leave. Change the locks if he has a key. Get back to yourself. Even if your ex would consider to get back with you, you are not ready to have a relationship in the condition you are in. You need to get back to yourself. Go to school, find out what it takes to get promoted at work, start a work out program. Get out of the house!
You need to find yourself complete before you can find someone that will prove you wrong. I hope you find the help you need to get back on your feet.
2006-11-09 14:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting yourself takes your mind off it temporarily.If the first boyfriend is sleeping around and has that sort of control over you .......that is not a good situation for you to be in. You need to get single an stay single to sort yourself out an like you for who you are not someone else.Dont ever cut your family out they will be there for you always this other guy may not be.go to a counsellor and make a start on fixing YOU
2006-11-09 15:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem you are sad your hurt and i pain i know that barking up with your ex was hard for you but cutting yourself is not the answers you need to get some kind of help and talk about your problems if you need to talk with someone my Email is ced2468@yahoo.com.
2006-11-09 14:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all do not cut yourself that will not do anything in your life. Pretty soon you will cut yourself so much that one day you will cut to deep and die. (It had almost happened to a person i had known). Second it is not worth getting him back since he will inflict more pain on you and will always cheat on you with the woman he is having sex with while this time.
2006-11-09 14:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋